Why do they always gossip about me behind my back?

Where there are people, there are rivers and lakes

Where there are rivers and lakes, there are grievances.

Even if we are careful in this Jianghu, it is inevitable that someone will talk behind our backs.

I have heard such a thing:

Just a couple of good friends.

They have been friends for many years.

As a result, one of them was hired as a long-term supplier by a well-known Party A..

Then another person came to me and said, do you know that XXX was signed by this party?

I said I know. It's amazing.

His first reaction was: How could Party A find him? You can find me! If I do it, I will do it much better than him.

Then I thought: Aren't you good friends?

It is in the face of money that friends may become less important.

He said the same thing directly to his good friend.

I think in my heart,

Whether it is good or not is not compared with others, but with yourself.

When your friends are rich, you will have a better chance.

Have you ever heard of the Belt and Road?

Why is it sour?

Besides, his life is terrible and may bother you.

Borrow money from you and help him.

Isn't this worse for you?

Many people have the experience of being spoken ill of or even isolated by colleagues at work.

I obviously didn't do anything and didn't offend anyone.

I also work hard and have a good personality.

There are always inexplicable rumors and countless dirty water.

Even naked isolation will come to you.

In fact, most people in the workplace have this experience.

This is also a common abnormal phenomenon in the workplace ecology. No big deal.

Then, why do some people working in the same unit speak ill of their colleagues regardless of the minimum face, or even isolate a colleague in a group?

People who like to speak ill and isolate their colleagues.

Most of them have average ability and are unwilling to struggle.

There is nothing to be proud of, and it is generally not valued and recognized in the unit.

Therefore, there is dissatisfaction and panic in my heart.

Dissatisfaction comes from jealousy.

For example, jealous of other people's ability and beauty.

Jealous of others getting a lot of benefits from the unit.

Others simply hate capable people, and so on.

And panic comes from the fear of being surpassed and possibly eliminated.

In short, it is the need of interests, happiness, self-esteem, and so on.

Share a story with you.

A believer asked Master, Master, what if someone speaks ill of me behind my back?

Teacher: A man asked a scholar that someone had spoken ill of him behind his back, ruined his reputation and stabbed him. what should he do ？

The Taoist priest picked up an axe and walked out of the room. The Taoist priest said to the man, look, throw an axe into the sky. What will happen?

When the thrown axe fell to the ground with a bang, the Taoist asked, "Did you hear the pain in the sky?" .

"The axe didn't hurt the sky. How can the sky cry? " The man said.

"Why can't an axe hurt the sky?" The Taoist asked.

"The sky is so high, so vast, and no matter how high the axe is, it can't touch the fur of the sky!" The man exclaimed.

What you still don't understand after hearing this.

I'll give you one more sentence:

Why do they always gossip behind your back-because you are in front of them.