Make money hard, worship money hard, for myself, for the children I want to protect.

Communicate more, but children may not trust you, because they are often deceived by their parents in various ways, whether in good faith or unconsciously, and have formed a protective film to keep their parents out, forming a mixture called untrustworthiness and lies. As a parent in China, we should first position ourselves and communicate with our children as friends. Parents can't do it, just talk. The first reaction to things is discipline, which is a social macro-problem. It's not that you can change it. When you encounter the problem of children's adolescence or rebellious period, the first thing you should think of is how to put yourself in the position of a guide and then contact the children. After all, children are not you, they can't replace or inherit your dreams and ideas, nor are they tools for you to realize your dreams. China's parents always take care of their children. Everything is for the children. It's not for the good of the children or anything. How can you make children trust you? Although this will indeed make some children take fewer detours, the effect of doing so is often contrary to expectations, and the distance between parents and children is getting farther and farther. Times are changeable, and your thoughts are different from your children's. This is the generation gap, the frequency is not synchronized, and there is no way to communicate. Parents should also keep pace with the times and keep up with their children's frequency, so as to know their children better and faster, give them appropriate support and understanding, and pave the way for their progress. With the overwhelming TV, computers and reading materials, children may know everything you don't know. Unconsciously, children are absorbing all kinds of knowledge every day. There are good and bad information, full of temptation, so that children gradually lose the definition of judging good or bad. They can't tell which is good for them and which is not, and they all want to. I just know this is untouchable. During this period, the influence of parents plays a key role in the growth of children. For children, most parents will say that this is impossible and that is not allowed. Really? Think about it, don't you? Have parents ever thought about their children's reaction to this reprimand? What will happen after a long time? Let's see, it is this attitude that annoys children. Just like drug resistance, too many words in the same sentence will produce drug resistance, and even many children will have rebellious psychology. The more you don't let me do this, the more I do it, and this contradiction arises. Parents think it is good for their children, but children don't think so. Everything should be measured, which will be counterproductive. Children have different thoughts, immature thoughts and incomplete views on things, but they think they are mature and adult. They think they are individuals and unique, and they also think it is easy to make money. Without economic awareness, no child will think that he is still a child at this rebellious stage. They are smart and ambitious. They think they can do it and need to be respected. Sexually, it is also easy to be moved, impulsive, curious, passionate and want to try. In the meantime, parents had better give appropriate science popularization and don't be shy. The internet and publications are much more attractive than you said. Do you want your children to figure it out for themselves, or are you going to guide them? Needless to say, which is safer, so put aside those old ideas, correct guiding ideology, the use of condoms and other appliances, but be sure to inform the corresponding responsibility, and don't forget the responsibility because of curiosity and impulse. There is also the problem of children having boyfriends and girlfriends. Children think that like is like, or that like (attraction) is love. At this time, it is very important for parents to give good guidance. Children can only do it without pressure. Let them know the responsibility, and let them know that if they do this, they will have to face the responsibility in the future. It's okay to exaggerate. Taking myself as an example, I talked about how tired I am when I go to work every day, how to face the leader when I go to work every day, how to find a job at first, how to look at other people's homes and buildings when I have no money, how to have children, and how to deal with children when they grow up. In the current social economy, how much does it cost to go to school, milk powder and daily necessities? Ask the child how to solve these trivial things as a man (woman) in the future. Take the children to the construction site, go to the job market, and show them that what they are doing now does not require academic qualifications, and they will work hard without studying. Tell children that this is the reality, the cruel reality, and everyone has a high and low starting point. Tell your child that what parents offer their children is limited. How to fight on a limited basis is the result of their own efforts. In the future, they will struggle on their own, and no one can help them. Don't protect the children too well. Tell them the dark side of society and human nature. They have to face it sooner or later. I know I'm ready. Children are not as fragile as you think. They still have blood. If they fail, they can stand up and have the energy and time to fight. Therefore, talking with children is not as a friend, but as a guide. In addition, talk about the psychology of girls. They are extreme, willful, competitive, infatuated, easily injured, and perhaps money worship and so on. At present, parents pamper girls, but it also leads to the incomplete psychological construction of girls, unable to bear the verbal and psychological blows and injuries. They are more self-respecting, of course, more selfish, more subjective and more difficult to convince than boys. Parents had better not hold the idea of being integrated into their hearts. The greater their expectations, the greater their disappointment. There is a saying that girls' psychology is not to guess, their psychology. Nowadays, girls are more interested in fashion and beautiful appearance. They can scrimp and save to buy something that is worthless to you. You can't stop them, or you will be the enemy. They like beautiful or cool things more than you think. Of course, their xenophobic desire is also very strong. Whether it is for boys or a skirt, as long as they like and value it, they want it, and they will compete or compare it. Girls' sense of shame is greater than you think. Maybe your common words may touch their sensitive nerves, including their schoolwork, so it is best to prepare a manuscript when communicating with children. They may ask any questions. Of course, this is in the case of good communication. If you don't have parents who communicate well with girls, take off your psychological defense first. How to unload the psychological defense of girls and seduce them? First, take the girls to see what they are interested in, whether it is accessories and clothes or outdoor scenery, but don't give it to them, or they will be taken for granted as ATMs. Girls are greedy. No matter how old you are, the more you grow up, the more demand you will have. Be prepared for the battle, but be careful what they receive and release, otherwise it will be difficult. They don't care if you are their parents. Girls are more like creatures like cats. Just keep a cat for reference and treat it according to your personality. Don't indulge them Don't let girls think that you care too much, which will make them feel bored. It is best to be at arm's length, but always care about them. Girls care about small details, just take the big direction, and give them enough respect for small things. Try to make them make up their minds, which will also make them feel comfortable. As for making friends, you only need to give reference. Whether you are a boyfriend or a girlfriend, you only need to give advice and don't interfere, but you should limit the scope and make demands on girls. For example, you can have a boyfriend, but it can't affect your academic performance. You have to tell your child that if you love or like it, does the other person feel the same way? If so, it will take time to prove. Can communicate, but can't break through the final bottom line. Get the children to promise you and tell them about the physiology class. Why do boys want it is mostly the result of impulse and curiosity. Most of it is not because of feelings. Tell children that boys can have sex for the sake of sex, but they are visual animals, no matter whether they are girls or boys in front of them. As long as the impulse will have sex, and girls are for love and understanding. Then tell them that the shelf life of boys' love is very short, and girls with a little temperament or good figure will subconsciously take a look. This is a male instinct. Boys of that age will be impulsive because they have too little experience, and they will be excited because they can't catch the colorful temptations of the outside world. Therefore, for the future, make an agreement with your child and give your child a test. If both boys and girls take the exam, they can't go to the last step. The last step is to give the girl some romantic expectations after they get married. Why is it a respect for each other to give it to her husband for the first time on their first night of marriage? This is a romantic thing, and so on. That is, when both sides grow up and have the ability to support their families, the family naturally agrees to let them be together and tell the children that the combination of two people is not their own business, but the combination of two families. This is not rash. To exaggerate, it is also possible for girls to inform boys. You can take your parents home to get to know each other. If the boy disagrees or pushes around, tell the girl that the boy doesn't want to be with her, just for fun. Otherwise, how can you be the only one who is honest with your family but doesn't want to take on anything? Since we want to be together in the future and don't want to take responsibility, how can parents trust to give your baby daughter to each other? If the boy agrees, let the boy call his parents and talk together. After all, now is not the time to oppose the deadlock. Maybe they will elope on impulse or do something they regret. Therefore, both families need to plan for the present and the future. Such a scare, it is estimated that both boys and girls will consider the consequences of the relationship. Too much trouble, too much responsibility. Unlike their imaginary love, it is not so romantic, but more about life. Who will wash it? Who goes out to make money? What if I have no money? Wait a minute. Of course, if the relationship between the two is firm, these conditions can be achieved. What are parents worried about? However, the two of them had better get together under the eyes of their parents to prevent them from impulsively doing things that they regret. These are my suggestions. The specific implementation should be grasped by parents themselves. There is nothing to say about their study. As I said before, if they don't work hard, they have to look after their children and give them whatever they want. Nothing good ever happens in this world. There must be a price if there is a reward. Do you want to drive a sports car? Do you want to live in the ocean? If you want to live every day well, work hard now and tell your children that you are far behind the rich second generation. If you don't work hard now, are you ready to work for lunch and rent a house in the future? (Ahem, talk about the child's sexual orientation. Personally, I think that although the general trend of society is the natural combination of men and women and the inevitable trend of reproduction, we can't rule out the special case of same-sex attraction. If parents find that their children's sexual orientation is different from society, don't make a fuss. After all, their children are their own, and their sexual orientation is beyond their control or human power. At this time, children can do it. Care about the social exclusion of relatives and friends? Don't want to lose face for face? Children are important, face is important? Do parents want to lose their children? After all your efforts and care, do you still want to push the child out? For nothing Tell parents that there are many parents of children with different sexual orientations in the world who want to reverse their sexual orientation, but have they succeeded? I tell you, there is no pair, leaving only endless pain for the children. Children are afraid, afraid of being known, afraid of being isolated, afraid of being rejected, and even more afraid of being laughed at than you. But what can they do to change themselves? Will they wait until you find out? At this time, the child needs you, and you can't force it or put pressure on it. If children are forced to harden, will the consequences be what parents want? Therefore, parents should open their hearts and relax. As long as they think that the child needs your understanding, you are the only pillar of the child. Your understanding is sunshine. Only when you love your children selflessly can they grow up healthily. Whether they like the same sex or the opposite sex, they are all your children. This is undeniable. As for the problems of the next generation, don't worry, it won't happen again. Now there is a term called surrogate mother, you can look it up. As long as you provide it, as long as you have money, children are not a problem. If not, there are egg banks, IVF and so on. To believe in the current scientific means, parents only need to know that correct guidance is the key, and love is not the reason to do whatever they want. )