Twin brothers, one was raised in China and the other was raised abroad. There was a big gap between them when they were reunited at 18 years old.

Text/Xiaomei’s mother talks about parenting

There is such a true story:

A mother gave birth to a pair of twin brothers, but because of her parents Due to work requirements, the twin brothers were given to their grandmother to raise in China, while the twin brothers were taken abroad to be raised by their parents. The parents had to make this choice in order to reduce the financial burden and earn more money.

Originally it was out of responsibility for the family and consideration for the good education of the children in the future, but it resulted in different life trajectories for the children. It was not until the children became adults that the parents realized that it was time to bring the two brothers together. , they are aware of each other's existence, but have never seen each other. I really can't believe that this feeling happens to twins.

When I was 18 years old, my parents took my younger brother back to China, but when they got together, they felt very strange. Apart from being almost the same in appearance, there were no similarities in other aspects, especially in In terms of their personalities, the younger brother has received Western education since he was a child. He has a cheerful personality and has a high degree of education.

However, my brother has stayed with his grandma since he was a child. He does things according to the rules. Sometimes he is afraid of risks and timid. He has a shy personality and does not like to communicate with others. He even does things he has not seen for many years. In front of his parents, he didn't behave very cordially, and the gap between the two was very obvious.

The parents also admitted that they regretted it very much. They should not have raised the two brothers separately in the first place. Either they would have taken them abroad or they would have stayed in the country. If the two brothers grew up together, they would not be in the current situation. Brothers are so angry.

When twins grow up and live together for a long time, they have the same living habits and personality development. However, if they are separated since childhood, even twins will find it difficult to adapt to each other in terms of personality and life. There are similarities, so the environment is very important to the growth of children.

Impact of the natural environment:

Twins living in different natural environments will also have many different life styles. Children who grow up in cities will naturally be protected more comprehensively by their families. For fear of various safety problems in their children, they over-protect their children. However, children living in rural areas are relatively soft-skinned. Their families do not over-protect their children since they were young. It is common for them to be exposed to wind and sun, and their children have also exercised. Guts and body.

Influence of family members:

The family environment is also an important factor for children. What kind of family atmosphere will create what kind of child's personality. If parents usually are at home, Give the child a gentle and harmonious feeling, and the child will develop a gentle personality. However, if the parents always make noises at home and lose their temper in front of the child, the child will also develop a violent personality, and I always think of using violence to solve problems.

Education level:

The education level of twins also has a big difference in the development of twins. If the children do not have a good education, it will be difficult to gain a foothold in society, especially in today's society. It requires a certain cultural level. Children can also work hard to improve themselves through acquired cultural studies, making themselves better and becoming the pride of their parents.

Make up for shortcomings:

No child is born perfect. Every child will have some shortcomings. The acquired conditions created by parents can help children make up for the shortcomings. , let the children become more cheerful, communicate more with others, and let the children become enthusiastic people.

"There are no identical leaves in the world." In many cases, even twins cannot guarantee that they are the same, but the existence of differences must be acknowledged, and parents must also provide appropriate education for their children's differences. , and brothers should have regular contact with each other. In the face of money, family affection is the most important.