What is the result of parents' partiality? Four results, bitter and cruel.

People who have never experienced parental prejudice can never imagine how much harm parental prejudice can do to their children. So if you are an only child, you can ignore this one, and if you are the parents of an only child, you can also bypass it. Parents with more than two children, let's discuss it together. What is the result of parents' favoritism towards children? Parents are biased, who is the biggest victim? Who is the ultimate victim?

This is something I've been wanting to write for years. But I was advised that my parents are now deified. Parents mean holiness and greatness, and we can't talk about it. It is said that parents are disobedient and unfilial. Therefore, parents are too sensitive to be partial, so it is better not to write well, so I have never put pen to paper.

Why did you write this article years ago? A few years ago, when I was eating, I received a phone call from my friend. She burst into tears on the phone. She said, I can't stand it. After so many years, I dare not say, and I am embarrassed to say. I will definitely tell you about the scandal in our family today. I said you put the phone down and be quiet. If you want to talk again, just call again. After a while, she called again and began to tell her misfortune. It turned out that the family "scandal" she mentioned was the eccentricity of her parents, which hurt her deeply.

A friend is the boss of the family, and there are brothers and sisters. Mother is partial to her son, while father is partial to her sister. She became a redundant person in the family. Her parents regarded her as their son, and she did all the dirty work. Parents are used to her efforts, and younger brothers and sisters feel that everything she has done is right. That's it. Parents are still dissatisfied and complaining about her, and friends bear the burden of humiliation, hoping to get even a little recognition from their mothers.

But my mother is used to this handyman at home and turns a blind eye to her efforts. Finally, when her parents complained again, she broke through the bottom line of her patience, which led to the scene of calling me and crying.

At that time, seeing my friend's pain, I thought I should write an article warning my parents not to be partial, but I didn't put pen to paper.

What made me decide to write this article was the arrival of my other friend yesterday. She said that her elder sister's eldest daughter was pitiful. Since her elder sister was pregnant with a second child, she began to see all kinds of unhappiness of her eldest daughter. Having a second child is also a daughter. She said that her sister's partiality was unbearable, and it was useless to persuade her many times. The eldest daughter is depressed because she doesn't love for a long time, but the younger sister is not distressed at all and is still looking for something.

When two girls were fighting, they tore each other's hair and clothes and their tops. Two girls went shirtless, and the coquetry sister did not stop the fight, but took pictures. Graffiti the exposed breasts and retouch them, then send them to friends and complain about my sister.

When I saw the picture, I smiled at first. I was very sad after laughing, and I felt inexplicably distressed for my eldest daughter. In fact, my friend's eldest sister is the victim of her parents' partiality, but when she has a child, she forgets the previous pain and begins the cycle of eccentric injury to the child.

I told my friends that I have the responsibility to write these things out, even if I can only alert a mother and realize that eccentricity is not only harmful to children, but also harmful to myself.

Many mothers don't admit their eccentricity at all, or don't want to admit their eccentricity. Parents' partiality has become a habit without knowing it. The personality defect, inner pain and blow brought by eccentricity are devastating to children. Maybe parents don't feel the harm to their children, but their children have the shadow of harm, and their broken hearts will be difficult to heal all their lives.

"The world is old and small." It has become the law of ordinary families to beat the big and hurt the small. Generally, if a family has more than two children, the boss is basically unpopular. (except for those who have not been around since childhood), there are also girls who prefer boys to girls, and there are also girls who prefer boys. Many parents don't realize the harm of eccentricity, so what is the result of parental eccentricity? Please look at the following four results.

Parents' partiality often begins when children are young. Because children are too young to express their helplessness and hurt, parents' partiality has no feelings, and the hurt in their hearts will accumulate bit by bit. This kind of injury will get deeper and deeper as the child grows up. When they go to the society with injuries and get married, their parents' partiality is still expanding unconsciously.

Children who don't want to be seen are often the children who are most loyal to their parents and pay the most for their families. Because they want the love and recognition of their parents, their contribution to the family has become an inertia.

However, because of the unpopularity of parents and the diminishing border effect, unpopular children feel that it is appropriate for their parents to do nothing. There is a limit to patience. One day, the child will wake up injured.

You can't hate, complain or argue with your parents who raised you. There is no way but to run away from my parents and stop contacting them.

No parents will admit that their brothers and sisters turned against each other. But most family brothers and sisters turned against each other because of their parents' eccentric behavior. Subjectively, no parents want their children to turn against each other and stay away from each other. However, due to the long-term partiality of parents, other children will be dissatisfied.

Especially parents, unloved children, unconsciously bullied, will blame spoiled children. Why not be fair and persuade parents not to hurt themselves like this? Children with eccentric personalities have never felt spoiled since they were born, let alone their parents' eccentric personalities. Unconsciously, brothers and sisters drifted away and became familiar strangers.

When people are old, they pay special attention to face. When chatting with friends, most of them are talking about children. Because the injured child fled the family because of his parents' partiality, the family was torn apart, and his parents were angry, sad and miserable at this time, feeling humiliated. They are embarrassed to tell their friends, and they dare not let their relatives know, for fear of being laughed at by their relatives and friends.

At this time, some parents began to reflect on themselves and felt that they had done harm to their children and began to make up for the lack of love for children who ran away from home. And some parents, until their children escape, did not realize that it was their own harm to their children, which led them to escape. Therefore, the heart is full of resentment. In fact, the escaped children are struggling in the whirlpool of pain.

Eccentric parents always feel that as long as they are eccentric about one child, they will grasp their pension. Children who are loved by their parents are accustomed to taking and getting, and become selfish and irresponsible. How can they accept supporting their parents by themselves?

The children who are the most filial to their parents are already scarred and chilling. They were frightened by their parents and were afraid to go near them. If children can't unite to consider the problem of providing for the aged, then the elderly will face various problems such as being shirked and no one will go first.

No one is in front, that is, lonely old age, lonely old age. If children are kidnapped by morality and responsibility, in order to fulfill their responsibilities, the elderly will be miserable without the emotional integration of providing for the elderly.

In fact, when people are old, what they want most is warm company. The children are all smiling and caring. Eccentric parents, when they are old, will eventually understand that eccentricity not only hurts children, but also hurts themselves, and ultimately bears the consequences of eccentricity.

For the sake of family harmony and happiness in old age, parents should try their best to make a bowl of water even. Love every child, not help bully another child. I once had a conversation with my mother, which was very impressive.

Mother: Why do you think your grandmother bullied you?

Me: Because my second uncle is the most loyal and filial to her.

Mother: Your second uncle died, and your grandmother didn't regret it.

Me: Because she has developed the habit of bullying her second uncle, she doesn't feel that she bullied her second uncle, so grandma doesn't regret it.

In fact, those children who run away from home are often the most filial children. In the face of eccentric parents, how can I heal my inner pain? Do you think you can struggle out of pain by staying away from your parents and not contacting them? Some things can't be changed as children. Jeffrey Kluger, a senior editor of Time magazine, once said: 95% of parents are biased, and the remaining 5% just don't want to admit it.

Face up to and understand the tolerance of parents and accept our helplessness. One day, it is not time, but your letting go and letting go.

For the sake of family harmony, for the sake of happiness in old age, for the sake of being pregnant in October, the children who have worked hard to raise should not be biased, and try to keep a bowl of water flat.

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(The picture in the article was taken by Thunder photographer)