How to enlighten children who are tired of learning?

Children who are tired of learning should find out early and intervene early, and it is best to nip in the bud. After all, it is difficult for people to make a change of 180 degrees and become fond of something after they are in a "tired" mood, not to mention that learning is still a very laborious thing.

The method introduced to you today seems to be a cliche, but it is an important basis for children to like learning.

Parents and friends can compare their family education atmosphere and education methods, and if there are changes, they will be encouraged to let their children fall in love with learning from the beginning.

Don't panic even if your child is tired of learning. They should temporarily put down their expectations for their children's grades and pay attention to the following four aspects. I believe that as long as parents enter their children's world attentively, change their learning attitude and bid farewell to "weariness of learning" is just around the corner.

First, adjust thinking and communication methods. An important reason why children are tired of learning is "great pressure". In today's society, parents, teachers and examination systems are putting pressure on children. Children must learn how to relieve stress at an early age, otherwise they will become irritable, withdrawn, weak or anxious.

People tend to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages. If parents can't pay attention to their children's stress value at any time and pay too much attention to their children's performance fluctuations in family life, children will be tired of learning because of the high stress value.

In the book Holistic Parenting, it is said that some adults don't have their own mind to grow up, so when they see that their children don't do their best or make mistakes, they will feel pressure and frustration.

Indeed, in life, as long as we see our children's mistakes and failures, we will feel anxious, so we habitually criticize our children seriously and expect them to "be brave after knowing their shame", but often the result is that their children are devastated and don't want to learn any more.

On the one hand, parents do not have a "growth thinking", on the other hand, parents do not understand the art of communication.

Carol Dwek, a growth thinking psychologist, pointed out in her book Lifelong Growth: Growth Thinking Mode that a person's basic ability can be cultivated through hard work. Even if there are various differences in talents and qualifications, interests or temperament between people, everyone can change and grow through hard work and personal experience.

Generally speaking, what a child can't do now can be done in the future through his efforts. Therefore, there is no need for parents to have all kinds of "what to do in the future" associations about their children's current mistakes. As long as the children work hard, there will be no similar problems in the future. This is growth thinking.

Therefore, our focus should jump out of the frustration of "making mistakes" and pay attention to whether children can find ways and means to improve. If children can't, we should give them practical help.

The art of communication is based on growth-oriented thinking. Parents should change the communication mode of critical education, stop blaming their children, and adopt other communication modes to make their children realize their mistakes and be willing to correct them actively.

The effective method is: express feelings directly+point out specific practices.

Parents should not say, "Why are you so untidy?" Instead, he said, "I feel very uncomfortable when you do this. The house is in a mess, and it will become more difficult for me to clean it up. "

As long as the parents describe their feelings and don't blame or judge the children, the children won't have resistance. The same is true of communication and learning.

In addition, be sure to sit down with your child to analyze the current situation and provide effective methods for your child to implement. Many times, children are discouraged if they don't work hard and their efforts have no effect.

Parents must check themselves. When children encounter problems, do we provide them with practical and effective action plans?

Children's weariness of learning has a lot to do with their parents' thinking mode and expression habits. If parents want to improve their children's weariness of learning, they should start from themselves and influence their children with their own changes.

Second, giving children free time and space is also learning. Why are children under so much pressure now? Didn't we come like this before? Besides, I am very demanding of myself. Isn't it so difficult to take care of children now?

This is because, when we were young, we used to have time to play crazy with our classmates every day, but now our children are gone. Their extracurricular time is occupied by homework and extracurricular classes. Parents seem to be ashamed of their children's play and want their children to study when they have time.

In fact, the combination of work and rest is a very important learning principle.

When playing, children seem to have nothing to learn. In fact, it is time for them to digest the learning content, apply what they have learned and relieve the learning pressure.

A child who spends all his time studying is not far from being tired of learning. Therefore, parents must give their children "free time" every day.

If children are tired of learning, parents should have a long-term vision. Instead of pursuing grades and finishing homework, it is better to take the children to play for a few days. Play without any utilitarian heart, have fun.

If children can really get emotional relief in the process of playing, parents can take the opportunity to have a heart-to-heart talk with their children, understand the real reason why children are tired of learning, and chat with their children with their own personal experiences, just like chatting with friends, sharing each other's feelings instead of judging.

If the child is just a little tired of learning, parents can adjust his free time every day to strictly ensure the quality and quantity. Let children forget their troubles on things they like and give them a chance to breathe.

Of course, play can't be out of control. Parents should master the content of children's play, try to play with their children, try to play with physical objects, and don't indulge in the internet.

Therefore, it is necessary to make a more reasonable schedule, daily schedule and so on. Stay with your children and clearly plan the time for them to study and play. In this way, children can look forward to their studies. As long as they work hard, they can relax, instead of endless tension, they can generate motivation.

At the same time, the space relative to time is also something parents should pay attention to.

As children grow up, they need a separate room, which can be used not only to sleep, but also to relieve psychological stress.

Therefore, parents should ensure that children's independent space is respected and protected. Don't run to the child's room and disturb his solitude; Don't stare at people for 24 hours, which infringes on children's independent space. These are all things that parents need to pay attention to.

Reasonable timetable and independent and respected space are the basis for children who are tired of learning to get out of the haze and get back on their feet. Parents and friends can start from this and let the children's psychology be relieved first.

Third, cultivate interest and stimulate learning motivation. Although interest is a cliche, it is really essential.

Don't we adults brush videos, brush friends and play games just for fun? If someone is lucky enough to do what he likes, he must have a good time every day.

Therefore, even if the concept is outdated, our parents should attach importance to "cultivating children's interest in learning."

Actually, interest doesn't have to be fun. If parents insist on making knowledge interesting, I'm afraid it's very laborious and the effect is not good, because learning is really laborious. So where does the interest come from? I think the basic sources can be divided into two categories:

1, learning is useful

"I work hard every day and sit in the classroom all day. What's the use? " This may be a question in many children's minds, but because parents often say that "learning is to change their destiny" and "to live a good life in the future", children think they know the answer to this question, and the answer is not good.

Because today is always difficult, "later" will never go to today.

When looking for the use of learning, parents must help their children find the use of "now" so that children will realize that learning is useful.

For example: learning new words well and reading cartoons will be much faster; Learn math well, and then go to the supermarket to buy more things; To learn English well, you can play with your foreign sister downstairs. Learn calligraphy well, and you will write this year's Spring Festival couplets.

Parents can look for similar benefits and uses in their lives, keep looking for them, point them out to their children when they find one, and stick to it, so that children can gradually understand that learning can get some immediate benefits, and it is valuable to bear such pressure every day.

When children encounter difficulties in the process of playing, for example, the cartoons they want to watch are only in English; I want to play with the assembled toys, but I can't read the guide map. At this time, it is time to stimulate children's interest and enthusiasm in learning. Parents can help their children and tell them that you can play like this when you master this skill like your mother in the future.

Only when learning is useful will children be willing to go to school every day.

2. I can do it

Even if learning is useful, children will never learn and will never fall in love with learning. Therefore, parents should spare no effort to create conditions for their children to experience the feeling of "success".

Parents can do this:

Lower the goal, let the children get the place to praise the children for doing well every day, praise the details, and tell the children that learning is not smooth sailing, and it is normal to encounter difficulties. Encourage children to persist in seeking breakthroughs in one field, so that they can gain successful experience and extend this experience to other disciplines. These are all effective means to help children find a sense of accomplishment, recognize themselves and build self-confidence.

Conclusion Children are tired of learning, so parents should not get angry in a hurry or go on the rampage, because it is useless.

We should realize that this is a way for children to express themselves to us. It is necessary to observe deeply and find out where there is a problem with the child and where there is no close-up between parents and children. We should adjust ourselves in time.

Some people say that children are like a mirror of their parents; It is also said that children are particularly easy to forgive their parents.

Therefore, please believe that as long as we make changes ourselves, our children will also change. The key is whether parents are sincere in their changes.

In any case, tell your child by action that he is more important than his grades, and you cherish him very much.

Trust your child, he will live up to your treasure with his actions.