What is the experience of raising children with your own mother? How are you getting along?

I take care of the children with my mother. Let me talk about us.

Before marriage, I bought my son a set of 130 square meters of three bedrooms and two halls, and my mother bought her daughter a set of 90 square meters of two halls. After marriage, they gave birth to a son, sold both suites and bought a bigger house of 200 square meters. Because of the epidemic, I can't hand over my work on time, so I have no place to live for the time being. My daughter-in-law likes to live in her mother's house. As an only child, it is inconvenient for her to stay at her parents' home, despite my repeated invitations. I can understand her decision. After all, I don't know you very well, and I'm afraid I'm uncomfortable together.

My mother and I are retired, and the two families are close, so at the request of my son and daughter-in-law, I go to her house every morning to see the children together and come back at night. My mother is five years older than me. She is in poor health, has diabetes, needs insulin sooner or later, and has high blood pressure. So I try my best to look after the children, wash clothes, cook and mop the floor when the children are asleep, and finish the housework quickly. My mother is responsible for the children's food and clothing. The two of us sincerely cooperate, and everything is just to relieve their worries and let them work with peace of mind.

It's been like this for a year. We understand each other, care about each other, and become a pair of good girlfriends. We are almost the same age. When the young couple rest and take care of their children, we will meet and go shopping together to buy clothes. We won't create any conflict, and we won't add any trouble to the young couple. My mother-in-law often tells my daughter to buy me whatever she wants. My mother-in-law is also a mother. I often tell my son to honor his parents-in-law and love his daughter-in-law. Our family must have burned high incense in our last life and met such a good in-laws and daughter-in-law.

The new house will be completed next year, and the child is two years old. They will move into their new house, and our happy days together will come to an end. I feel a little disappointed! We agreed that when the children were older, the four of us would drive around and enjoy the happy time in our later years.

There is a family in our community, and two in-laws help to take care of the eldest twin granddaughter. The man is from Qinghai and the woman is from Sichuan.

First, the address. The little granddaughter calls the man's parents grandma, or "mother-in-law" according to the Sichuanese saying, so that outsiders can understand who is who.

Then we talk about the division of labor, each person takes one, the big body is good for grandma, and the small body looks thinner for grandma. The weight difference between the two children is 4 kg. It is grandma who buys food and cooks, and grandma who washes clothes and cleans the house.

The two children are obviously different in personality and intimacy. One is sticky grandma and the other is sticky grandma.

During the Spring Festival, if the young couple are free, they will go back to Qinghai or Sichuan together. If they are not free, grandma will take one child back to Qinghai and another to Sichuan.

The seemingly calm family get along well. When I came out for a walk in the evening, my mother and grandmother took a child with them, and my father and grandmother took a child with them. The conversation was very good and the painting style was very warm.

During the small holiday, the young couple drove out with their two children, and grandma and grandma went out together. The only drawback is that the language communication between the two people is very difficult, and they speak poor Mandarin, just like ducks and geese. You said what you said, she answered her, and she didn't know if she understood it.

How to get along with your biological mother and raise your children?

First, the division of housework should be clear. For the sake of family harmony, sons and daughters-in-law should arrange their parents separately and negotiate to solve their work at home and abroad to see what they can't do.

Second, emotionally, I want my son and daughter-in-law to do a good job of appeasement. You can't explode at will if you have emotions. You should respect and understand each other. For the same goal, if there are contradictions on the table, don't fight the belly lawsuit.

Third, after taking good care of the children, giving everyone more private space is conducive to mediation. On weekends, the whole family can go out to play, or the old people can have free activities. The son, daughter-in-law and children are just emotional exchanges.

Fourth, in-laws should care about each other. Those who are in good health can do more, and those who are in poor health can do some things at hand.

Nowadays, in many one-child families, parents have more or less contradictions about who will take care of their children, so the twins born can be taken care of together, otherwise the elderly will not be able to eat at all.

In a word, it is impossible for both parents-in-law to help and take care of their grandchildren, but everyone should know that children must be absolutely impartial to their parents, otherwise there will be many contradictions.

May life be safe!

That's how I get along. I take care of the children with my mother-in-law It won't take long. Under one roof, I am my mother-in-law I always give my good job to my mother-in-law. I said, sister-in-law, you hold the baby, I cook, I wash the dishes, I buy vegetables, I do housework and wash diapers. So we get along well. I also look after girls' children. I will go when the children's grandmother doesn't have time. We are very happy together. She can make clothes, I can hold children, my sister-in-law can make clothes for children, and she can also make cashmere coats for my family. The technology is not worse than that of the supermarket. She also makes all kinds of summer clothes. A few dollars' cloth is a fine product in her sister-in-law's hand. My girl bought her mother-in-law a sewing machine. My sister-in-law is very enthusiastic. I was a doctor before I retired, and I can use words and skills. I thank my good in-laws, good sister-in-law. When our in-laws are in harmony, the children will be happy.

My daughter is not married, but I can give a few examples to answer. How do people who take care of their children with their biological mothers get along?

I have retired for two years. A colleague who retired in the same year, her daughter-in-law also gave birth to twins and twins. When my daughter-in-law gave birth to a second child, she had not retired. Her in-laws and the old couple help take care of their grandchildren. After work, she is responsible for buying food and cooking, and she feels at ease. 18 retired with one-year-old child. Her in-laws and the old couple went home. She has two babies, and sometimes her husband helps her when she gets off work early. Two babies went to kindergarten this year.

My husband's comrade-in-arms daughter is in the provincial capital, and their in-laws take turns to take care of their grandchildren. The family goes to the children's home for three months to take care of them, and sometimes takes them home to take care of them.

I recommend the way their family takes care of the baby, which is the best policy for your family in this situation. Their family hired a nanny to take the baby to sleep, cook, make milk powder and make complementary food for the child. Since your mother is in poor health, you might as well hire a nanny, and you two can take Shuang Bao. A good nanny is naturally trustworthy. Aren't you with the children? It is both worry-free and labor-saving.

The neighbor's daughter has two treasures, and all her children are. Her family's situation is exactly the same as yours. My mother is from other places and is in poor health. Dabao is her oldest child. Go to school now, she is responsible for the shuttle. Bauer's mother watched. After she gave birth to Dabao, she went to help cook and was busy every day.

I have many classmates, all of whom are bound by their daughters. I am tired and happy to leave home to take care of my daughter. You'd better ask a nanny to help with the children. One of my little colleagues, her husband and father left early, and her aunt raised them. Her mother hasn't come back. She gave birth to two precious sons in succession, both brought up by nannies. The older one goes to kindergarten and the younger one is one week old.

Or you must have a clear division of labor with your in-laws and take real responsibility. You won't be tired if you have your own mother to help you. Because, my colleagues see the twin grandchildren themselves and chat with me when the children sleep. She said she was busy, but her husband sometimes came back to help when the company was free.

You and your relatives understand and tolerate each other. * * * It should be no problem to take care of two babies together. Why not find a nanny to save your mind and energy? I have seen the nanny hired by my fellow villagers. She takes her grandson to play, and the nanny cleans the house and cooks. In the afternoon, I carried the child to the sun and put him to sleep. I think it's good.

Looking after the baby can't be too tired, but the body is the capital of old-age care. Get on well with your in-laws, help each other as much as you can, and everything is OK.

Whoever takes care of the children with other parents is unlucky! It's ok to be a lecherous. One is a farmer and the other has a good job. That's true. A scholar meets a soldier, and it's hard to tell! Marriage depends not only on each other, but also on whether his parents are reasonable people. The parents and children of a well-educated person must be right. His parents are sloppy, lazy and greedy, and his children are no better! If you are in-laws with people who are different from you in all aspects, and then look after the children together, it is better to deal with pigs.

My family is a daughter, and I take two treasures with my mother. When the children were young, I was responsible for buying vegetables, washing vegetables and cooking (the fried dishes were delicious). She is responsible for washing dishes, doing housework and taking care of children when I do things, and I take care of children when she does things. There has never been any contradiction. Now that the child is in kindergarten, she is responsible for the child's breakfast. When the children go to school, she buys food and cleans at home. I am responsible for picking up the children in the afternoon. Usually at my home (my daughter's home is 400 meters away from my home), I take them together on Saturday and Sunday.

You'd better not come with your mother, son! Neighbor's mother-in-law and mother take care of their children together, which eventually leads to divorce!

This happened last year, when my husband and I were working in Zhejiang and rented a house in the village.

The rented house next door is also a couple from other places. The woman was 8.9 months pregnant at that time. Because we use a dam at home, we often meet each other when drying clothes and parking, and the two families often say hello.

More than a month later, the woman went to the hospital to give birth and the man called his mother. The man's mother works nearby, so it's convenient to come over. After the baby was born, the girl's mother also came to see her daughter from her hometown, so she also lived in their home.

After coming back from the hospital, their arrangement is that the woman takes care of the children, let the mother sleep in one room, the mother-in-law lives in another room, and the husband is in a separate room.

At first I thought they were quite harmonious. My mother-in-law goes shopping every day and cooks for her daughter-in-law and mother-in-law when she arrives. It doesn't last long, just like 10 days. That night, I was at my house listening to the quarrel next door.

Because the voice is too loud, I can clearly hear the voice of my daughter-in-law and mother-in-law swearing at each other. The fuse is that the daughter-in-law takes her children and mother in the room every day, and the door closes after dinner.

The mother-in-law said that if you want to hug the child, you need to knock at the door. After knocking at the door, her daughter-in-law will say, "Mom, come and hug the baby after washing your hands." At first, her mother-in-law took care of everything, but she observed that her mother could hug whenever she wanted, and she was treated unfairly.

Then my mother-in-law began to talk nonsense, saying that I worked hard to buy food every day, not only for you, but also for your mother. Since you asked your mother to come to see you, why not just ask your mother to cook for you?

That night, the woman's husband came home from work, knew the situation and began to mediate. The man also said that his mother, you shouldn't be angry with your daughter-in-law in the second month, and it makes sense to let you wash your hands before holding the baby. Finally, please ask your mother to let her daughter-in-law spend the second month for herself.

Because her mother-in-law lives nearby, some old people in the village gave her land, so she planted land and vegetables. My mother-in-law should have done it on purpose that day. She cooked a meal at noon 1 1 and went out. She didn't go home to cook until 7 pm.

The daughter-in-law told her mother-in-law to go home to cook at 5 o'clock, and her mother-in-law said that she could not come back when she was growing vegetables in the field. At 7 o'clock in the evening, my mother-in-law came home, and my daughter-in-law said, "Mom, I'm in confinement. What do you mean by not cooking for me for so long! "

My mother-in-law was angry at that time and said, "I'm not your nanny." I want to serve you and your mother. She can do it when your mother is around. " The daughter-in-law went on to say, "My mother is at least a guest here. Can you respect it? "

The mother-in-law spoke and said, "Guest? I have been here for more than 20 days, and I don't know how to get back. I still regard her as a guest. I serve the young and the old all day. There is no such thing. "

The daughter-in-law went on to say, "Mom, if you don't want to wait on me, just say so, and I'll arrange it myself." My mother-in-law began to say, "I just don't want to wait." I can't even hold my grandson. If you don't like me, don't call me. "

Of course, the two became more and more eccentric and said all kinds of angry words. At this time, the daughter-in-law said, "Since it is so unpopular, I will take care of the children with my mother now."

At this time, my mother-in-law said, "If you want to go, go!"! Who left you! " As soon as the daughter-in-law heard this, she called her husband and said, "Your mother told me to leave. Will you come back with me or shall I take the children directly to my parents' house? "

Hearing this, the mother-in-law said, "Is my son still at your mercy?" Almost half an hour after the man got home, he asked his mother directly, "Mom, do you still want us to live?"

The mother-in-law was even more angry when she heard this, and said, "Didn't she give birth to a son?" Anyone can be born and pampered so much, and now let my son turn against me. I'm tired of waiting on the young and old all day. "

I can't remember a lot of words. Finally, the man said to his mother, "Mom! I am kneeling with you now, can you compromise for me? " My mother-in-law replied, "No, I've had enough!"

Seeing her mother-in-law's resolute attitude, the daughter-in-law began to cry and called her mother-in-law to start packing. Then the man rushed over and said, "What are you doing? What are you doing sitting on the moon? "

My mother-in-law said, "You know my daughter is still in confinement. What do you think of your mother's attitude? I will take my daughter and grandson home. You can either come with us now or divorce after I leave. "

When I got home, I listened to the man's speech and burst into tears. I began to severely scold my mother, saying that she was not sensible, not serious and would not think of her son.

Of course, my mother-in-law was angry when she heard this. She said that I didn't agree to marry her at first, and you wanted to marry her. Now that I have a baiwenhang, I don't want my mother if I have a daughter-in-law. I'm going to go now. I won't wait on you. I will forget you as a son.

Well, the scene was embarrassing, and I felt that men were embarrassed at that time.

In the end, the mother-in-law left, and the man begged his daughter-in-law and mother-in-law to stay and took a week off to take care of the month. No matter whether you divorce or go back to your mother's house, you have to wait until the second month is over.

After the confinement, the mother-in-law returned to her hometown with the girl and children, and the man also returned the house. The specific development of the husband and wife is also unknown.

I don't know who is right or wrong in this matter. I thought the most difficult thing at that time should be men! He was sandwiched between his wife, children and mother.

I have seen many mother-in-law and their mothers take care of their children together, almost all of which are quarrels! Without exception!

So I think we can avoid this arrangement and try not to let two old people take care of their children together until next month! The situation of three women is really out of control!

I'm really not used to raising children with my in-laws. I'm grandma. They basically don't eat my cooking, but they will find fault. If this dish is not good and that dish is unhealthy, the dishes they cook are basically the same. They cook a big bone stew every day and then add vegetables. Nutrition is good, but they can't stand eating it every day. My mother also likes to ask people to do things, which makes things a little annoying. In fact, the family conditions are not as good as ours, but for the sake of children, let them. Later, I told the child directly that I would rather take care of the baby alone, although I was tired but happy.

It will definitely be a little more unhappy for two mothers to take care of their babies together. Why don't you ask a nanny to take care of the baby with the nanny, and the nanny will cook and clean up. My mother helps me with my children, but she would rather be tired than take them with her husband and mother. Although they are relaxed, they are very tired!

I am a mother-in-law. I always take two treasures with me, but my in-laws don't. Because everyone's way of life and education is different, I am afraid that bringing children together will affect my son's daughter-in-law's life, so I am not afraid of being tired or suffering. Either my in-laws and I will bring them together, get everyone's understanding, and everyone will be happy.