My essays on Dabao and Bauer

Mom, mom. She robbed me again!

Mom, mom, mom, you scold her quickly!

This kind of screaming will appear n times a day in my house. From Dabao's elder brother, who is over 5 years old, to Bauer's younger sister, who is over 1 year old, her speech is not good enough, and she only knows body language and screams.

Giving birth to a second child is not unprepared. I always hope that my children will be both excellent and make up a "good" word. When Dabao was 4 years old, my stomach was like a big watermelon that was about to mature. Dabao always lies on my stomach and asks curiously, "Mom, what's Ta doing in there?" Mom, give me a sister, because my brother will rob me of my toys. "As he wished, God really gave me a little girl. Dabao has been promoted to elder brother, but he is really not facing a clever and sensible sister who won't steal his toys.

When my sister was born, we still gave Dabao more care, because considering the child's inner sensitivity and fragility, there is always a process from exclusive pet to sharing. The relatives at home are tacitly aware. When they came to see Bauer, they all exaggerated the treasure first, for which I am grateful.

When I was confined, Dabao just went to kindergarten. Every time I come back from school, I immediately put Bauer down to hug Dabao. When Dabao came back, Bauer was still milking the cows. I quickly put her on the bed to welcome Dabao back. Looking back, I saw that she looked up and pinched the corner of the quilt hard, in distress situation.

Dabao is a kind and sensitive child. Instead of bullying his sister, he ignored her. I can feel his inner loss and anxiety. Sometimes when we hold our sister, he will find various reasons to try to get rid of me or his father: Dad, I need your help, and Mom will tell me this story. His thoughtfulness is really funny and distressing.

But you can't have it both ways. Mom and dad's love changes from one to two, but energy can only be divided by two. Once, my sister smelled bad, and his father and I were anxious. Dabao hurt his leg and shouted that we didn't have time to talk to him. He sat on the sofa crying and rubbing himself. Sometimes, he asks me to tell a story with a book. When my sister saw the book, she tore it up, so he had to put it down and play with the toys silently.

Bauer may be in a "competitive" environment from birth, so he was born full of fighting spirit. Grow up slowly, starting with your own consciousness. Really spare no effort to grab mom and toys. If you find me holding my brother, push me and climb on me. I put incense on my brother's face and she screamed and slapped me. Weak brother sometimes gets angry and runs to the room crying and closes the door. Mom doesn't love me anymore!

However, once, my brother cried and closed the door. Bauer sat on his small bench angrily and said nothing. I was coaxed outside, and Dabao finally agreed to let me go in alone. At the moment I closed the door, Bauer was crying outside. It turned out that when I comforted my brother, the little man had a panoramic view and was full of grievances. I realized that the little girl who was neglected because she was small was also a little girl with thoughts and feelings.

At that time, my kindergarten teacher gave me a set of books, Charlie and Laura. "It tells an interesting family story between my eldest brother Charlie and my sister Laura. Dabao especially likes this set of books. After reading it, he always repeats the first sentence: I have a sister named Laura. She is an interesting little person. I feel that he is slowly accepting that he has a sister at home.

I saw Dabao learn to wait: he would wait for me with a book, waiting for my sister to stop arguing and let me tell a story. After my sister falls asleep, he will run across the bed and hold my neck.

Know how to share: Save something delicious for your sister, although sometimes you have to take a big bite of cookies and leave some for your sister.

Learned to be responsible: when you see your sister climbing high, you will call an adult or carry her down with difficulty. Know how to help: drive them out, know how to take care of my sister in the back, make her happy, and forbid him to break his seat belt.

Understanding and consideration: the kindergarten couldn't bear to drink its own milk, and brought it back to me, saying that it was necessary to breastfeed my sister and supplement her nutrition.

Bauer seems to have gradually adapted to the domestic "survival law". She can understand that no one can touch her brother's toys, and she knows that she stumbles everywhere. She took her brother's toy and he asked for it. Before reaching out, she moved faster and returned it consciously. Once, Bauer stumbled out of the room, looking scared, and took my hand and ran to the room. It turned out that she accidentally knocked down the villain on her brother's building block.

As Bauer's wings hardened slightly, Dabao's running-in period basically passed. I finally don't have to think about how to balance. Usually when they fight, I act as a Buddhist referee: fight, fight, whoever loves wins. But after all, the arm still can't twist the thigh, and finally it ends with the second child screaming in the air.

As soon as Bauer got sick, we urged her to give medicine. Because the medicine was too bitter, Bauer vomited it all, and then she cried. One side of Dabao's eyes suddenly turned red and tears fell. We asked him what was wrong, and he sobbed and said, "I feel sorry for my sister." I am very sad. "

Dabao actually loves Bauer. Sometimes adults tease him to hug his sister and say that he wants to take it away. Dabao dragged his sister's foot back without doing anything: although I still don't want to talk to you after dragging you home, I feel at ease when I put you at home.

Bauer is brave, too. Once the children next door came to play at home. Dabao wants to sleep, just say you go. I want to sleep. I want to sleep. Children don't listen at all. Bauer still walked unsteadily, staggered over, grabbed the child's clothes and dragged them out. Then wave goodbye. At this time, my boyfriend Li Max and his brother came back from school, dragging their shoes barefoot, and my sister picked up the shoes and ran after her brother. Although my brother refused to wear it, Bauer threw it on the ground angrily. But keep taking it next time.

It turns out that brothers and sisters probably love each other and kill each other, and no one can explain the magical power of blood. Although we often cry and scream together, one second we are still fighting, and the next we are laughing through tears.

I grew up with you and you grew up with me. We can make trouble together, be scolded together, play together and laugh together. This is also a kind of luck.

Many people don't want to have a second child because they don't want Dabao to be wronged. Before I gave birth to Bauer, I thought so. I even swear that I treat Dabao better than Bauer. Some people think that people's energy is limited. Indeed, because of the arrival of another little angel, the quality of life will definitely decline, but love will not, and it will even become more and more complete. Because they are more brotherly than their parents' love.

I hope you also realize that mom and dad's love will not decrease, and we are willing to grow up with you slowly until one day, I find that these chaotic days are gone forever. Father and daughter, mother and son, the fate between you and him is that you have been watching his back drift away all your life.

But I gave you the best gift, that is, brothers and sisters who can know each other and grow up together.

After a few years, we are old and can no longer shelter you from the wind and rain. When one is tired, the other will give him a warm hug and tell him: Don't be afraid, you still have me. This is the meaning of having a second child.