How many stages do you like about yourself?

How many things can we say clearly about the feelings in the world? Is it difficult for two people to fall in love? Some people say it's hard, just like you like someone, and then you try to pursue it, but you don't get any response. But sometimes I have to admit that the occurrence of feelings is the easiest thing, as long as two people like each other.

Yes! Falling in love is never difficult. What's really hard is being together. Feelings can happen in an instant, but it takes a lifetime of time and energy to operate and maintain, bit by bit, again and again. The process is always difficult, some people can't persist so fast, or some people don't want to persist at all.

From falling in love to being together, it must not be that simple, and it is definitely not that easy to talk about. In feelings, it seems that everyone is moving along the same track, everyone's story is so similar, and everyone's stage is so familiar. So do you know the specific stages that couples need to go through?

Couples have to go through several stages to see your position.

First, the love period. From one person to two people, it must be a very warm thing. That feeling is like finding a spiritual pillar. Since then, the spirit has been pinned and accompanied. Two people together, warm each other, accompany each other, no longer have to endure loneliness. In fact, the so-called love period is largely due to curiosity and freshness.

Take the simplest example in life, when you have a new toy, are you very happy, and then you can't put it down and want to sleep with it for a while? Shopping online, and then opening the express package, will your heart beat faster? When you have your first car, do you want to drive it around the world every day and cherish it?

This is the so-called curiosity, that is, curiosity about a new thing, followed by novelty.

Second, the buffer period. As we all know, freshness has a shelf life and does not exist for long. On the contrary, the faster this thing comes, the more it goes. People can't be curious about a familiar thing from the beginning. Curiosity is because you don't understand, but because you don't know. Once they know something, that impulse will quickly fade away.

So when two people are together, they spend that sweet love period, and the rest is the buffer period. All the enthusiasm begins to fade, get used to each other, get used to life, and then be neither sad nor happy, neither cold nor hot, so some sensible women will ask men at this stage: "Don't you love me?"

Third, the boring period. Are you tired of letting you eat one dish every day? Are you tired of being asked to do the same job every day? Similarly, two people together, because of each other's thorough habits, slowly began to appear visual fatigue, no longer feel that the other side is so amazing, no longer feel that the other side is irreplaceable, and even less feel that the other side is as perfect as it was at the beginning.

Often at this stage, people begin to be picky and disgusted. No matter what the other party does, it seems that it can't satisfy you. No matter how hard the other person works, it seems to be far from your expectations. Sometimes it's not that the other person is really not good enough. It's because we have been together for a long time. Because of our habits, we hide each other's advantages, so you can only see each other's shortcomings.

Fourth, the running-in period. The running-in period must be the most painful stage, and it is also the stage when two people understand running-in. In this world, everyone is different and unique, because everyone has different ideas, so everyone is slowly testing each other's bottom line and principles, at the cost of frequent and destructive quarrels again and again.

The tacit understanding between two people is definitely a one-off event, and the running-in between two people is not three months or six months. This stage is the most likely stage for couples to break up. Some people can't stand quarreling again and again, some people can't stand the temptation of each other, and some people just quarrel and lose their feelings!

Fifth, the dull period. Only when two people have survived all the hardships can they truly understand the value of happiness, and only through what they have worked hard can they be sincere. Only through hysterical quarrels can we understand the ordinary value, and only through thorough running-in can we understand the meaning of feelings.

When two people are together, plain is the greatest happiness, the most ordinary concern and the warmest heart. The vigorous romantic love is wonderful, but it is only a flash in the pan after all. At that time, the whole sky was gorgeous, and the real feeling was like the faint candlelight at night, warm and real!

Sixth, the dependence period. The most obvious performance at this stage is that I feel that I can't live without each other, as if I can't live without each other. It is not that the other person is too important, nor that he is too fragile, but that his long-term dependence has integrated the other person into his own bones, into his own blood, and into a habit of being with the other person.

The warmest thing in the world is this, and the true meaning of feelings has been truly interpreted at this stage. I have you and you have me. We support each other, help each other and warm each other. Although life is bitter, the warmth of feelings will become the freshest and sweetest sugar juice in the world.

Two people together, don't give up easily. Maybe sometimes if you persist for a period of time, the result will be very different and the process will be very difficult. Hold on a little longer! Don't leave! Which one are you about the six stages that couples must go through?