"Do you know" How easy it is for smart people to chat, you will know it by watching the Queen and Minglan

In "Do You Know", after Minglan and Gu Tingye got married, they moved out of the Hou Mansion and lived in Chengyuan, which was separated by a wall. Later, Gu Tingye attacked the prince and had to live together in the house. Ming Lan holds a big banquet to celebrate the union of the house. This is a very important scene in the whole play.

In this scene, General Shen’s concubine, Xiao Zou, came uninvited; Mrs. Xiao Qin used the good reputation and famous ladies in Beijing to use public opinion to bring Minglan’s reputation to Make a fuss; Madam Zhang and Young Master Zou of General Shen's family quarreled at the banquet; Young Master Shen's wife, Shen, openly and secretly attacked Minglan; Minglan secretly talked about the past with Young Master and distanced themselves from each other; Mo Lan added fuel to the flames, Let Gu Tingye discover that Minglan and the young master communicated in private.

This scene is absolutely wonderful, and there are many details to explore. Among them, it was precisely because of the quarrel between Mrs. Zhang and Xiao Zou that it paved the way for Minglan to work for the queen and become friends with Mrs. Zhang.

The young Zou family spoke arrogantly in public and had a conflict with Mrs. Zhang. Minglan rushed to persuade Mrs. Zhang, hoping that Mrs. Zhang would be considerate. Instead, Mrs. Zhang scolded her for being hypocritical. She was born as a concubine and had a good fortune, becoming the wife of a marquis. However, she ended up here deceiving her superiors, being disobedient and unfilial, and humiliating her mother-in-law. The quarrel caused Minglan and Gu Tingye to make a big joke in Bianjing City.

Next, the queen summoned Minglan into the palace without informing Gu Tingye.

First she cried: Those assassins thought she was me, so they killed her, cut off her head, and used it for reward. It was only because of this that I escaped a disaster and had the opportunity to sit in this position.

Ming Lan’s expression is a bit confused. Why are you telling me this?

The queen continued to strengthen her relationship and spoke frankly: She paid for my position with her life. My brothers and sisters died for me and for my brother. Now our Shen family is prosperous and wealthy. But she can no longer enjoy this...

These words really speak from the bottom of my heart. If you are the queen of the court, are you flattered when she cries in front of you? Do you instantly feel that the queen regards you as her close person?

Minglan's brain was racing: following the Queen's thinking, the great Zou family saved her. In order to be grateful and repay the Queen, she must preserve the glory and wealth of the Zou family.

Thinking of this, Minglan answered obediently: That’s why Your Majesty and Your Majesty acquiesced to General Shen’s acceptance of the sister-in-law of the Zou family.

The queen was very satisfied with Minglan’s reaction, so she stopped crying a little, and continued: Our Shen family owes the Zou family a life, but now, my brother’s status is respected, and if he wants to marry an old minister, he can only His status as an uncle is worthy of being an only daughter of a British father-in-law.

Minglan is really an excellent compliment: I understand my empress’s difficulties.

The prince who was not favored at the time has now become the emperor, the Shen family of his wife's family has become the first cousin, Uncle Shen is a widower, and the loyal ministers who have been following the emperor all come from remote areas.

Therefore, they wanted to marry the powerful people in the capital to ensure the stability of the new emperor's throne. The British Duke was a pillar of the imperial court, the leader of the nobles in the capital, and served in the military. His daughter was very suitable.

Although the British Duke was not very satisfied with the marriage, the Queen proposed it and could not refuse. In addition, the British Duke also needed the Shen family to strengthen the relationship with the new emperor. Uncle Shen Guo needed a British father with deep roots to enhance his family's power. The Zou family needed to continue to maintain the marriage relationship with the Shen family and ensure the interests of the eldest Zou family's children.

So it has become such an embarrassing situation now. Mrs. Zhang had no feelings for Uncle Shen Guo. When she first got married, she knew that she had a concubine named Xiao Zou. Perhaps her mentality has not been adjusted well. She is autistic and does not compete with the little Zou family. She just wants to get by. If Mr. Zou knew the overall situation, things would be easier to handle, and everything would be fine. But Mr. Zou is a jealous and stupid person who doesn't know how to advance or retreat.

The queen went on to say, Xiao Zou is a noble concubine, and even more so, the emperor's concubine. The Zhang family girl has been wronged. The two of them caused such a scene at your family's banquet, so you can take care of it. If you don't come down to the stage, it will make it difficult for you to be a good person. Just for my sake, don't take it personally, okay?

Minglan knew that the queen summoned her to the palace not just to ease her heart, so she didn’t say much, she just said politely: The empress said this, she really broke my heart. .

If you want to apologize, you can usually stop here. What's more, in ancient times, thunder, rain, and dew were all the favor of the king. There is a dispute between the uncle's wife and the concubine in your house. It is only because of your poor greetings and improper arrangements. It has caused the royal family to lose such a big face. It is already a good thing if you don't cause trouble. In which case will the queen give it to you? A heartfelt apology?

Next, the queen and Minglan confided again: We came out of that small place in Yuzhou, and sitting in this position is like sitting on a charcoal brazier. There is no moment of stability, facing up and down. Inside and outside the hospital, everyone is counting on us.

I also told you about the difficulties faced by the Emperor and myself. The throne came suddenly and has no foundation. Whether it is the imperial court or the family members, it is all related to the important affairs of the imperial court, and your efforts are needed. The "everyone" who is counting on us here includes the old Yuzhou people, including Gu Tingye and of course Gu Hou's wife Sheng Minglan.

To be more clear, your efforts are needed at this time!

Minglan thought about it and said: The Shen family are all old people from Yuzhou, and the Zhang family’s wife is among them, but she is weak and weak. Due to the long-term resentment, instead...

What it actually means is that this matter is not easy to handle. What you did was not right from the beginning. Since you want to repay the Zou family, you should marry the young Zou family as soon as possible. Since you want to marry the old and new ministers, you should not let go of a married woman. The imperial concubine is at home, and the head wife who is a noble girl is neglecting her. In the name of repaying gratitude, marriage was used as an excuse, and the result was the current situation.

The queen began to burst into tears again: How could I not know? I am afraid that when the time comes, the beautiful marriage between the old and new ministers will turn into enemies, which will shake up the country and the country.

The queen was afraid that something would happen to Zhang Guifen if she continued like this, and her younger brother had never had any affection for her, let alone pity. If the marriage between the old and the new ministers did not work out and turned into enemies, Mr. Yu would be in trouble. Regarding state affairs, General Yu Private Shen is his biological brother, and the Zou family has saved his life. It seems like it's just a quarrel between the wife and the concubine, but if it's not handled well, the matter could be big or small.

Minglan thought about it for only a second, but she had no choice. The conflict between the two people happened in her own house, and she was half of the party involved. Moreover, the queen had mentioned this, and she It was Mrs. Gaoming, so she had no choice but to accept this job. Minglan stood up and saluted: If the queen agrees, I am willing to visit Mrs. Zhang.

The micro-expressions on the queen’s face at this moment were really wonderful. There was happiness that I was right, and relief that the problem had been solved: Madam Shanda, can you solve my problem? It's a big thing on my mind.

It can be said that the queen's purpose in this conversation was not to talk, but to make Minglan understand her difficulties and take the initiative to take over the job. To put it simply, the queen used her own sad story to get close to Minglan.

Just look at the Queen and Minglan to see how easy it is for two smart people to talk.

First of all, the queen did not choose Minglan as a lobbyist rashly. Minglan’s knowledge and gifts were witnessed by the wealthy families in Bianjing. The queen mother had previously forced several concubines. When giving it to Gu Tingye, Minglan cleverly solved the matter without offending anyone. The queen naturally admired her ability to adapt to situations.

Secondly, Zhang Guifen made a joke at the Gu family's joint banquet, which not only made Uncle Shen Guo and herself lose face, but also brought inconvenience to Gu Tingye and Minglan, so To untie the bell, the person who tied the bell must be tied, so it was very appropriate for Minglan to enlighten her.

Let’s see how the queen conveyed her thoughts to Minglan calmly.

First of all, let’s talk briefly and talk deeply.

The content of the conversation between the two of you simply means that the content of the conversation between the two of you has exceeded the closeness of the relationship between the two.

Since self-disclosure can promote the development of relationships, and the deeper the level of self-disclosure, the closer the relationship will be, so I simply speak more deeply when the relationship is shallow.

Does this strategy work? Of course it works! It’s almost everyone’s instinct to connect with others. Even children understand that children who have exchanged little secrets will be closer to them, unlike other ordinary classmates.

This is what the queen did. She cried bitterly and told Minglan how difficult it was for her to become the queen and why she promoted the Zou family.

It is really a taboo in interpersonal communication to communicate superficially and deeply. Su Shi once said in "Books of the Emperor Shang Shenzong": A gentleman's command is to make a simple conversation and talk deeply. When facing strangers or relatives whom you haven't seen for several years, you can naturally fight back or ignore them.

But what can we do when faced with the superficial exchanges of words from superiors? For mature and smart people, when they meet such a person, they have to make their own judgment. Is this person like this to everyone or just to me? What does she want to achieve by doing this?

Therefore, Minglan did not take the queen's apology to her heart, but was polite in accordance with etiquette. Because she knew that this was not the point, it was just an introduction.

The next step is to understand the interests and entrust important responsibilities.

The queen then talked about how difficult it is for her family to be in a high position, and they have to rely on everyone for many things.

This sentence seems simple, but it is actually very rare. Not to mention she is a queen, even ordinary leaders rarely say it to their subordinates so clearly. Firstly, it's about saving face, but secondly, it's because of the dignity of the leader. I think I think highly of you by letting you do things. It's natural that I pay you a salary in exchange for your work.

So after saying this, the person doing the work feels warm in his heart and is willing to fight for you.

The queen said that the marriage between the Shen family and the Zhang family is related to the country and the country. Your Guhou is an old man from Yuzhou and a new noble in the court. Your father and brother are also in the court. Officer, you yourself are also the wife of Gaoming. You understand the importance of this without further explanation.

Men are working hard for His Majesty in the court and on the battlefield, and we women can only work hard in the backyard. The relationship between Ningyuan Houfu and the new emperor is mutually prosperous and mutually destructive. If you do this job well, you will be credited in the credit book. Moreover, from now on Mrs. Guhou and Sheng Minglan will be friends with both Ouchi and the Queen.

Now that the words have come to this, Minglan can only seem to have volunteered to take over the matter. The queen's excited expression proves that she has been waiting for Minglan's words.

Let’s think about it from another perspective. If she was as straight as Ru Lan, she might just advise the queen to relax. Or if she was as timid as Yanran, she would pretend not to understand what the queen meant, or she would avoid the job because she thought she couldn't do it. Then she will be excluded from the inner harem headed by the queen in the future and can only be an idle official family member.

In this conversation, the Queen did not say a word about what I hope you do or what benefits I promise you. She also made Minglan understand her intentions without a word of nonsense and made Minglan willing. accepted the task. Even if Minglan didn't want to get into this mess, the queen wouldn't be too embarrassed or offend Gu Hou. After all, she had never made any demands on Minglan.

You see, how easy it is for smart people to speak and how efficiently they communicate!