How should a wife treat her husband after middle age?

My cousin is the only child in the family, and everyone in the family dotes on him. He has never been used to the life of reaching for food with clothes. He can't take care of people at all, let alone cook, and he can't even get into the kitchen.

But it was such a person, and later because my cousin fell in love with cooking.

If my cousin has something to go out at night, then my cousin will definitely speak in a weak attitude. Anyway, there is no hurry. Cook dinner at home and you can go! ? Sometimes my cousin will accuse:? Can't you do it yourself? ?

However, my cousin will never be angry and will only answer like this:? Oh, I'm not as delicious as your cooking! ?

Guess what? My cousin didn't look happy. Without saying anything, he went into the kitchen and soon came out with two dishes. That's it, at my cousin's house? Cultivate? Next, the cousin who didn't go into the kitchen originally, from habit and like.

I have to say, my cousin has a gift for cooking, and the dishes she cooks are really delicious. But if it weren't for his cousin's cultivation, he might not even know it himself. He has this talent. Just because my cousin cooked for the first time, although it was not delicious, my cousin praised him in a joking tone.

Yes, my cousin is good at praising my cousin, especially when he does something for the first time, he will give some encouragement and recognition.

So in our family, my cousin is also the most confident one. He seems to dare to do anything, and he is not afraid of doing it badly. This is a kind of self-confidence hidden in his heart, but this self-confidence is not born, but is cultivated later.

You don't believe that men who are often praised will get better and better only if their own quality is no problem.

In other words, your praise gave him the motivation to constantly improve himself, because he didn't want you to be disappointed in him, but he would pay special attention to one thing. It's like if you give a person a tall hat, then he will unconsciously think about how to save it and be more active.

On the other hand, belittling, criticizing and accusing will only suppress a man's enthusiasm forever.

Tell the truth, who is the good guy? Training? When I left a school, everyone said that the woman was a man, but it was true. If you want to cultivate a good husband, you must first learn to praise him and then decorate him by showing weakness? Homework? This kind of training is also a kind of guidance.

And how do some women do it? I always finish all the work at home before I think of accusing him of not sharing it.

Or, when a man is ready to do it, she will stand up and say, forget it, if you can't do it well, I'll do it! ? Don't give men the opportunity to learn and accept.

So you should learn to give men homework bit by bit, with a weak tone, not so strong, and do everything yourself. You know, when you deliberately show weakness, it will deeply stimulate a man's deep desire to protect you, and instantly find his sense of value and existence, but he doesn't show it directly.

02

It is not an illusory statement that women influence men's lives.

Just like a saying, what kind of woman a man marries directly determines the height and level he can reach in his life. Husband and wife can influence each other, especially the subtle influence of women on men.

It is the perfection of character, character and wisdom.

Only after middle age did I know that men rely on praise, and most men were ruined by their wives and changed their original fate! ? This was only after Wang Fang reached middle age that she realized it.

In this marriage, Wang Fang made a fatal mistake.

Her husband didn't lack principles, but didn't meet her ideal expectations, so since she got married, she had to belittle, scold and accuse her husband and say a lot of ugly words.

Originally, Wang Fang wanted to deliberately stimulate her husband's progress, but the fact runs counter to it.

The husband heard such words many times, so he simply gave up on himself and adopted an attitude that a dead mouse can't touch the cold at home. Anyway, you miss me so much that you will never recognize me. That's all. ? Yes, the more the husband is like this, the more Wang Fang goes too far, which in turn worsens the relationship between husband and wife.

In the past, Wang Fang didn't notice the change of her husband. She went to family affairs together a few years ago. When the family asked her husband's opinion, he didn't even dare to say anything, for fear that the ideas she said would not be recognized by everyone. This is a small thing, but it makes Wang Fang find that her husband really looks completely different.

At home, the husband is always silent, which is the opposite of his previous personality.

In fact, at home, Wang Fang not only often scolds her husband, but also often compares her husband with outsiders. No comparison, no harm. In contrast, it is more harmful to the husband. I don't know when my husband became more and more timid and introverted, and he would be timid in doing any small things.

It seems that I suddenly fell into the long road of self-doubt, became depressed and even lost my thinking ability.

Just like once, my husband met a good opportunity to show his talents, but no matter how Wang Fang and his partners persuaded him, his husband always said weakly: Forget it. I'm afraid I can't do it well. ?

Up to now, Wang Fang has realized her own problems and changed a lot, including trying to cultivate her husband's self-confidence, but no matter how hard she tries, it seems that she can't achieve the effect. It seems that those vicious, cold and ugly words have penetrated into her husband's heart and have a deep-rooted shadow.

03

To tell the truth, there is no comparability between people, because everyone is unique, I have my advantages and you have yours.

The so-called comparison is to compare the advantages of outsiders with the shortcomings of your lover, which is simply unfair. In the end, you will be more disappointed in him, and he will hate you more.

You may feel exaggerated, but don't forget that the time spent together between husband and wife has been unconscious for decades.

Moreover, in this world, no lover can achieve your ideal. Only couples who know how to respect and accept each other can have an appropriate statement.

Don't believe in women's indifference, indifference, criticism, degradation, accusation, comparison and fatal nagging, which can easily ruin a man's life.

The weakness of human nature says:

If you want to stir up a deep-rooted resentment, make a sharp criticism. Sharp criticism and attack have no effect. ?

It can be seen how much harm these harsh words will bring to people and how much shadow they will leave.

So if you do this, you will first destroy the relationship between husband and wife, making people feel that you are a horrible existence and don't want to be near you. Then there is the subtle influence on the lover, which makes people doubt themselves more and more, endlessly. You know, self-confidence is the nourishment for a man's success.

If he can't get his wife's affirmation, how can he build up his resistance and confidence?

It is always an unchangeable truth that men kiss up and women coax. Only men who are often praised and affirmed by their wives will be ambitious and ride the wind and waves outside.