Teachers and parents were silent. What if teachers and parents are silent?

In order to better educate children to grow up, the relationship between young parents and teachers has become closer and closer. Originally, all this was a good thing, all for the growth of children. September 10 Teacher's Day is a day to thank teachers for their efforts. This was originally a good thing, but in recent years, there are too many problems caused by Teacher's Day, which can't be prevented. Yesterday, a bad incident caused by giving gifts to teachers on Teacher's Day was exposed on the Internet. It turned out that before the arrival of Teacher's Day, the parents' representatives of a middle school family committee organized themselves consciously, hoping that everyone could raise funds together and prepare a gift for the teacher. I want to express my gratitude to the teacher on Teacher's Day, which is not wrong. What is wrong is to choose a bad expression.

Teachers and parents were silent. What's going on here? Come and have a look with me.

In order to better educate children to grow up, the relationship between young parents and teachers has become closer and closer. Many classes will establish WeChat groups, and even some classes have established family committees to better respond to teachers' calls and guide children to grow better. Originally, all this was a good thing, all for the growth of children. However, if parents are forced to participate in some activities in a caring way after the establishment of such a group, the original intention of the home-school group will be lost.

Especially in recent years, there have been various adverse events related to teachers on the Internet. If parents don't know how to deal with it correctly, or the education department doesn't know how to manage it in time, it is likely to affect the education environment and even discredit the good image of teachers as hard gardeners.

1. Parents were asked to leave the group because they refused to give gifts on Teacher's Day, and the teacher responded silently all the time.

September 10 Teacher's Day is a day to thank teachers for their efforts. Before this day comes, many students will personally make cards and gifts to express their gratitude to their teachers. This was originally a good thing, but in recent years, there are too many problems caused by Teacher's Day, which can't be prevented.

Yesterday, a bad incident caused by giving gifts to teachers on Teacher's Day was exposed on the Internet. It turned out that before the arrival of Teacher's Day, the parents' representatives of a middle school family committee organized themselves consciously, hoping that everyone could raise funds together and prepare a gift for the teacher. If it is an ordinary gift, I believe that parents will not refuse.

Unexpectedly, without careful discussion, the parents' representatives of the Family Committee decided to give Lancome cosmetics gift boxes to three teachers in the class on Teacher's Day. Three gift boxes with a maximum of 2,000 yuan, even if 56 people share equally, each parent still has to pay 40.72 yuan. At first glance, this amount is not high. However, for some parents, this practice of making decisions without discussion is very dissatisfied.

To this end, a parent directly expressed his dissatisfaction with buying gifts in the group and said that he would not participate. It is reasonable to say that buying gifts for teachers is voluntary, and there is no big problem for parents not to participate. Unexpectedly, the family Committee has directly acted as the leader of parents. You're welcome, which directly means: quit the group if you don't join. In order to force the parents to quit the group, the representative of the family Committee also labeled the parent as disunited.

It's just that they all ignore the point that this parent is not a bully. I saw him immediately post the whole thing online, hoping that netizens would make a correct judgment. Soon, the local education bureau published an open letter on this incident. In the open letter, the staff of the Education Bureau first apologized to the parents who were retired from the group, and euphemistically said that the teachers involved did not understand the behavior of the family Committee.

But this statement can't calm the anger of netizens. In their view, members of the family Committee openly discuss the incident in the group, and the teacher can't be ignorant. The teacher didn't say anything about the family Committee members asking parents to quit the group. This is undoubtedly a decision to connive at the representatives of the family Committee.

It can be seen that in this incident, there are not only representatives of the family Committee, but also three teachers in the group. In order to avoid the recurrence of similar incidents, the education department should strictly control them. Avoid the influence of some adverse events on the educational atmosphere. This kind of family Committee, which doesn't take the lead but drags its feet, is okay.

Second, as parents of students, how should we correctly express our gratitude to teachers?

1, actively cooperate with related work.

Usually, it is more meaningful to actively cooperate with the work than to give the teacher some expensive gifts or say something disgusting and touching. Because the teacher's daily work is already very hard, if parents can actively cooperate, respond to the teacher's call and reduce the teacher's workload, I believe the teacher will feel the support and understanding from parents more easily.

2. Good communication when in trouble

In order to better cultivate children's growth, teachers and parents pay special attention to their growth. Because of this, they often express different views on their children's growth. There may even be differences because of different educational concepts.

Under such circumstances, if parents can keep calm and communicate rationally with teachers, it is undoubtedly the greatest respect for teachers. When you encounter problems, you will get angry or complain. Even if there are precious gifts on Teachers' Day, it is hard to comfort the broken hearts of teachers.

Summary:

As an important guide for children's growth, both teachers and parents need to think carefully about their words and deeds. I want to express my gratitude to the teacher on Teacher's Day, which is not wrong. What is wrong is to choose a bad expression. Compared with sending expensive cosmetic gift boxes to teachers, I usually actively cooperate with teachers. * * * It is often more meaningful to work together to guide children to grow up.

After all, the meaning of teachers' existence is to guide children to grow better and help them get a better life. Parents can work together with teachers, not only fulfilling their responsibilities, but also expressing their support and recognition for teachers' work, which can be described as the best of both worlds.

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The contradiction between home and school, teachers and parents have their own grievances, how to face it?

I don't know where to start, the contradiction between home and school has become a common problem in society. Especially in primary and secondary education, teachers and parents are very wronged. There is also a lot of spit on the internet. Some teachers spit out their parents, and some parents spit out schools and teachers. Both sides are full of bitterness.

Let's first look at the grievances of schools and teachers, mainly in three aspects.

1, dare not control the children.

Many friends who are teachers will mention this when they talk about difficulties. First of all, corporal punishment is absolutely not allowed. This is the bottom line, and almost no teacher dares to touch it. Second, verbal criticism should also be cautious. Even many teachers dare not even criticize verbally, for fear that their children will go home and complain, and individual parents will come to school or complain. So many teachers dare not take care of their students.

2. Parents don't cooperate

Parents don't supervise their children to finish their homework, and there are often children who don't finish their homework. Some parents do not cooperate with the school to do a good job in their children's family education on the grounds of busy work, which leads to their children being naughty and unruly at school, which affects teaching.

3. Parents are too sensitive

Individual parents will defend their rights as soon as they find out what is wrong with the school or the teacher. Without prior communication, they will report the teacher's situation to the school leaders, or go to the door to argue, and even complain to the higher authorities about their rights protection.

Speaking of grievances, parents have more to say:

1, think that teachers don't respect parents, and teachers are like parents' leaders.

This is the aspect that parents spit the most. For most parents, they have great respect for their children's teachers, which can even be described as apprehension. Parents whose children are studying have feelings. As soon as the teachers in the home-school contact group spoke, parents immediately lined up to echo, fearing that they would not be active. The authority of teachers in the home-school contact group is much greater than that of unit leaders. To say this is normal, your child is studying with the teacher, and you must respect the teacher. However, many parents think that teachers don't respect their parents enough. They often talk to the parents of students just like the leaders of the unit talk to their subordinates, even tougher than the leaders, without any excuses, let alone refutation. Many parents and friends have had this experience. After sending the children to work in the morning, they just arrived at work, and the teacher called to say that the children didn't bring their homework and asked their parents to send them. My parents are in a daze. Now I can only go home, send them to school and come back to work. For people living in big cities, this morning is ruined. What should I do? I want the teacher to bend the rules, but I didn't expect the teacher to say that it's all for children to form good habits, and I hope parents will cooperate. What else is there to say? If you don't send it, you won't cooperate. Although one hundred and twenty people were unhappy, I took a leave of absence, hurried home and went back to work all morning. I still have to work overtime at night. Needless to say, coming home from work must be a scolding for children. Sometimes, parents are asked to obey under the banner of educating their children when it is obviously unimportant and not urgent. Parents believe that children are sometimes punished for carelessness, but is it a bit too much to punish their parents in disguise, without considering their difficulties?

2. Parents don't approve of teaching methods or school practices, and parents dare not express their opinions.

Many parents think that teachers or schools always pretend to be educational experts and don't listen to their parents' opinions. Many parents sometimes disapprove of a certain practice of teachers or schools, but most parents choose silence. Because there are too many examples around, if parents express their opinions, they will often be considered as ignorant of education and not cooperating with school work. Even better, on the surface, the school listens to parents' opinions with an open mind, but there will be no change. This is why every parent-teacher association school asks parents for advice, but parents are not active at all, but complain privately.

The school has pushed too many things to parents.

Many parents think it is too difficult to be parents of students now. We should not only help children to correct their homework, but also do some extra homework that parents must participate in together. Many parents believe that children's homework should not be corrected by parents, but by teachers. After the parents corrected it, the correct rate was very high, and they were all right, but what is the significance of this for teachers? Teachers can't really understand students' mastery of knowledge. The teacher thinks that parents should learn about their children's learning by correcting their homework. I don't agree with the teacher on this point. If parents correct homework, it is really difficult for teachers to know the real learning situation of each student, but after the teacher corrects it, parents can also know their children's learning situation through the papers. In addition, many schools will arrange some other homework after class. Some homework explicitly requires parents to complete it together. Although some homework is not clear, it is obvious that it cannot be completed by children's ability alone, or it cannot be completed on time and with good quality. Because the time for doing homework is limited, if parents don't help, they can only let their children stay up late, and they may be disqualified tomorrow. So many parents have the experience of helping their children do this kind of homework. There is nothing but helplessness. Now many parents have a question, we didn't let our parents worry so much when we were young! At that time, parents didn't have to sign homework, correct homework, help their children with homework, or even hold parent-teacher conferences. Didn't they go all the way to college, graduate students and even doctors? Why are there so many parents now?

4. Some teachers have moral problems.

Many parents have two fears, one is the teacher's home visit and the other is Teacher's Day. This is related to some unhealthy trends in education in recent years. Faced with these two time points, many parents are very entangled. Many parents have asked me what to send to teachers for home visits or Teachers' Day. How much is a gift card? This kind of problem will also be seen on the internet during teachers' day and summer home visits every year. This phenomenon can not be entirely attributed to teachers' professional ethics, but a large part is the problem of parents, but these individual phenomena can not be ignored. It is eroding the image of teachers in people's minds bit by bit.

So what is the reason for the contradiction between home and school?

It stands to reason that teachers and parents have the same goal, both of which are to train their children well. But why does the same goal cause such a big contradiction? How to alleviate this contradiction?

First of all, parents should understand the difficulties of the school. The school thinks that the child is yours, and the school is responsible for the education of the child at school, so the guardian should naturally take care of the child at home. Parents will naturally bear the consequences of their children's future education. Parents benefit the most from a good education, while parents suffer from a bad education. Therefore, parents must spend more energy, which is beyond doubt. Don't compare your own experience. After all, times are different, and it turns out that good family education is easier to train talents. Therefore, parents should be aware of this. Don't think that letting parents cooperate with the school's work is the school's shirking responsibility. If they are willing to do everything for their children, why not spend more energy on learning and education?

Second, parents can't ask teachers to attach importance to every child as much as their own. A teacher faces dozens of students and parents behind him, while schools face more, while parents face only one school and several teachers, so parents should understand the difficulties of teachers and schools. You should know that children are 100% in your home, only a few tenths in teachers, and hundreds or even thousands in the school environment. As the saying goes, it is difficult for everyone to adjust, not to mention educating so many children. There can be no "one size fits all" education method, nor can it be absolutely "rain and dew". So parents should be calm and don't always think that teachers don't pay attention to children. When a teacher criticizes a child, he thinks that the teacher is having a hard time with the child or parents. Under normal circumstances, you and your children are really not that important, and the teacher has to give you a hard time. Helping children develop good study habits is the most important task for parents.

Third, teachers should also understand the difficulties of parents. Perhaps many teachers are used to taking care of children, and talking to parents is also a kind of condescending feeling, which makes parents very uncomfortable. This is actually a question of communication skills. Teachers should learn to communicate with parents more. The same thing, different communication methods, the final result and the real effect are very different. Usually, parents will not refuse the teacher's request, but they are worried that their actions will hurt their children, so they can only listen to the teacher's request. Over time, contradictions will arise. Therefore, if teachers can communicate with parents in an equal way, perhaps the effect will be better. In addition, the school still arranges less homework that requires parents' participation. Parents have their own jobs, and some people often have to work overtime and travel, so it is really difficult to fully cooperate. Teachers should not always label parents as not cooperating with their work.

Fourth, schools and teachers should be able to listen to different opinions. Teachers should not always pretend to be experts. After all, educating people is the hardest thing. Even if you are an education expert, you may not have a panacea, right? Schools should not refuse to listen to the voices of all parents because of the irrationality of individual parents. Don't think that parents are dissatisfied with themselves or don't cooperate with their work whenever they make comments. Do not block the way of speaking, let parents dare to speak their minds and form a benign interaction.

Fifth, the school had better set up a special department to deal with the contradiction between home and school and accept complaints from similar enterprises. Many schools criticize teachers' parents' complaints without asking questions. A teacher friend once cried bitterly about it, and even regretted choosing the profession of teacher. The rough handling of the school can not only alleviate the contradiction, but will deepen it. Schools should learn how enterprises handle customer complaints and appoint professionals to handle them, which is more objective and fair.

Sixth, education authorities and schools should strengthen the education of teachers' morality. Undoubtedly, the problem of teachers' morality in society has been criticized by society. It is obviously not enough to rely solely on teachers' self-discipline. Education authorities and schools should pay attention to this aspect of management, but the actual practice is obviously not ideal. It's no use just shouting slogans at meetings.

Looking at the above points, it is not difficult to find that there is only one crux of the contradiction between home and school, and that is communication. There is a lack of effective communication channels and methods among schools, teachers, parents and students. As a teacher, it is the most important role here and a bridge of several relationships. Obviously, the current educational institutions mainly focus on the cultivation of teaching knowledge and skills, but lack training in management and communication. Therefore, many teachers only criticize and reprimand students who make mistakes, and there is no better education method. They can't adjust their roles in the face of their parents, resulting in poor communication with their parents and unable to play the role of this communication bridge. Teachers themselves are very tired and hard, but they can't get the understanding of students and parents. It is really extremely difficult for teachers to be satisfied with many underage children with different tempers and parents of various backgrounds. Education authorities and schools should not only strengthen the cultivation of teachers' professional knowledge, but also pay attention to their professional training in management, communication and psychological knowledge, so as to improve teachers' ability to deal with the relationship between students and parents.