For fathers who don't accompany their children: the lazier they are in the first half of their lives, the more regretful they are in the second half.

Today, I saw an article shared by a friend in a circle of friends, about the world secretly punishing fathers who don't accompany their children. After reading it, I felt very emotional and became this article.

Maybe everyone has heard of widowed marriage. The key point of this keyword is that the wife is poor. There is no difference between having a husband and being widowed. It is a common phenomenon that women have to go to work, take care of their children, do housework and support the elderly, while men do nothing but go to work every day. When they get home, they just play with their mobile phones. The child never talks to him, but he thinks his wife is unreasonable when quarreling. That's why someone invented the word except. In fact, there is a deeper meaning behind this word. Since there is a widowed marriage, it means there is a family that has lost its father.

Why do more and more little girls like more mature uncles now? Fundamentally speaking, it is mostly because these girls lack fatherly love since childhood. Xiaobai once knew a girl who was only 16 years old, and then found a 35-year-old middle-aged man. Her father was furious when he found out, and called her shameless and shameful. But the little girl calmly replied to her father: I can get love from you that I couldn't get when I was a child, and I can get it myself when I grow up.

When her father heard this sentence, he was dumbfounded and suddenly speechless. Because when she was young, he never spent a day with her. Vaguely, he suddenly remembered that the little girl had said something to him before, "If you don't give me the fatherly love I should give, don't blame me for not finding my father in the future."

Therefore, those dads who have children but don't accompany them, the lazier they are in the first half of their lives, the more regretful they are in the second half.

Maybe you have seen such a scene:

At the weekend, in an exquisite restaurant, mom, dad and daughter are waiting for the food to come. My daughter is running around the dining table. My mother is looking at her with loving eyes, occasionally glancing at my father sitting next to her, and my father has been staring at my mobile phone without looking up.

Then my daughter got tired of running and walked around her father. Then she said to her father, "Dad, you can accompany us to the mall later. Mom said there was a children's amusement park. "

"No, dad is not available, you go with mom!" Dad, who is playing with his mobile phone, impatiently rejected his daughter's request without raising his eyelids.

"But I want my father to play with me! Will it be all right after a while? " Still unwilling to give up, the daughter carefully waved her obviously angry father's arm and asked in a very coquettish tone.

"I told you I am not free, I am not free. You can either go with your mother or go home and leave me alone! " Dad finally lost his temper.

Hearing her father's loud reprimand, her daughter cried, and her mother quickly hugged her and coaxed her for a long time before she coaxed the little girl.

After all, the father failed to look up at his daughter's red eyes.

Such scenes are rare and common in this society. Sometimes in the streets, cafes, restaurants and shopping malls, if you look carefully, you will find that mothers are talking and laughing while taking their children with them, while fathers are always cool, bent on their own way, or bowed their heads and played with their mobile phones. This phenomenon may still be good. At least, fathers can take their mothers and children out, and a large part of them can't see their fathers at all.

Speaking of which, I remembered a joke I read two days ago. I don't remember the exact words. It probably means that a man takes his children home and plays games in his room. His wife asked him to help with the dishes, but he didn't move. So his wife got angry and said, "When will you find out that the child is not yours?" Hearing this, the husband was furious and finally stopped playing games. He said, "I always doubted you. If it doesn't make sense, tell me who this child belongs to! " The wife was very angry and said, "You son of a bitch, come out and have a look in the living room." Is that the son you usually see? "It turned out that my husband made an own goal and picked up the wrong child.

Although this is a joke, it reflects a very profound problem. How much you don't care about children at ordinary times, which leads to the wrong connection between children and people?

Some people may say that it is not all men's fault that they have no time to spend with their children. After all, the social pressure is too great, and men are busy making money outside. Where is the lack of air traffic control? This society puts too much pressure on men, so men only need to devote all their time to their careers for 24 hours, otherwise you will call us men losers.

With all due respect, all the people who can say these words are spicy chickens, and they are all looking for grandiose excuses for their inaction. To say the least, even if you earn a lot of money for this family, you are still an unqualified husband, let alone a qualified father. Moreover, how many people who can say these words can really make a lot of money, and they are not so poor that they need their wives to go to work to support their families? So ask yourself, where did your time go?

The key scary thing is that many dads think this phenomenon is normal. Because it is universal, its existence is a truth recognized by mankind. According to a recent survey in Shanghai, many fathers in China believe that they should play the role of supporting their families instead of taking care of their children. So, naturally, I don't know their children.

Sometimes, an irresponsible father may affect the happiness of more than one family, but it is related to the mental health of children throughout their lives. According to psychological research, compared with mother, father's behavior often brings stronger personality influence to children.

You know, mothers give children life and fathers give them personality. Therefore, it is definitely not meaningless or accidental for foreign ancient religions to call the creator of the world "Father God".

China's "Holy Amethyst" summed up such an incisive sentence: It is the father's fault to raise or not to teach. It's about the importance of fathers to their children. If the father gave birth to a child, but he didn't accompany and educate the child, it was his fault.

According to research, children who lack paternal love are prone to "lack of paternal love syndrome", and the specific manifestations of this disease are:

(1) Too shy and depressed.

(2) Give up on yourself and don't make progress.

(3) Less words and less love for the collective.

(4) impatience, impulsiveness and moodiness

(5) Fear of failure and indifference

(6) Serious people may play truant, have puppy love, run away from home, steal, and even like to use violence.

Sociologists have found that many criminals come from families without fathers, and psychological research also believes that the absence of fathers will not only affect children's social skills, but also make them take a negative attitude towards marriage and fail to form a healthy view of gender and love.

You know, the world will not mistreat any responsible good father, nor will it let go of any bad father who does not accompany his children and makes them lack fatherly love. So, let's see what happened to the father who didn't accompany the child. How did the world punish him?

Let's take a look at the previous news, which is about a girl of 17 years old who had five consecutive miscarriages. When she went for the fifth abortion, the doctor told her that because the pregnancy month was too long, it had been five months, and the previous four abortions had caused harm to her body. If forced abortion again, her life will be in danger and she can only be born. The girl was afraid to cry to the boy, but her boyfriend ran away after hearing the news.

After the news broke, the reporter interviewed relevant psychologists, who said:

What happened to the girl Pony may be related to her family and growing environment. She must have been loveless since she was a child. So after her childhood lovelessness, she met a very kind and caring boy in adolescence, which made her feel a kind of warmth. This is exactly what she needs, so for this boy, she can be desperate to get close to her, and then it will cause such a tragedy.

Sure enough, when the reporter went to interview his father, his father burst into tears and regretted it. He regretted that he failed to give his daughter full fatherly love when she needed his care, failed to teach her how to protect herself, and failed to give her rich spiritual love, which caused her to suffer both mental and physical torture in the flower season.

Although this news is a case, it is not a special case, let alone the first case. You know, the world is really unconsciously secretly punishing these irresponsible fathers.

When you come home from work every day and lie in bed playing with your mobile phone instead of playing with your children, you may get a teenager like you in the future. He plays a higher-end mobile phone with the same posture as you, and turns a deaf ear to some of your requirements.

When you refuse your child to ask you homework questions because you are playing computer games, you may gain an internet addiction teenager who doesn't like homework but only likes playing games in the future.

When you forget your daughter's birthday and the amusement park you promised her because you need to work overtime with customers, you may gain a selfish and indifferent workaholic who thinks money is paramount in the future.

You don't want to see this, do you?

So, from now on, when you get off work, throw away your cell phone, turn off your computer, stop playing games, put down your work, put off unnecessary social activities and spend more time with your children. Isn't a child's smile enough to relax your heart? Children's laughter is the most healing ointment. Leave some time to listen attentively, and you will know how lovely your children are, how much they love you, and how much they long for their father's company.

Fathers, only by investing in love and time can they gain love and warmth.

Finally, Xiao Bai has something to say. The father I refer to here is the kind of father who obviously lives with his children every day and has the opportunity to accompany him but fails to do so. I know that there are many left-behind children in rural areas, and their parents are forced to leave their homes and be separated from their children. These people are admirable. I hope children can understand their parents more. Everything they do is out of love!