How to be a truly free self?

Being true to yourself and being a truly free self, or staying true to yourself, does not just mean not pretending to be someone else, but it means that you should be completely true to who you are within yourself - yourself. The ones that feel right in your mind.

There was once such a story:

A man brought some eggs to sell in the market. He wrote on a piece of paper: "Fresh eggs are sold here."

A man came over and said to him: "Brother, why bother adding the word 'fresh'? Aren't the eggs you sell fresh?" He thought it made sense, so he crossed out the word "fresh".

Soon, another person said to him: "Why add 'here'? If you don't sell it here, where else would you go to sell it?" He also felt that it made sense, and added "here". "Painted out.

After a while, an old lady came over and said to him: "The word 'sales' is redundant. It's not for sale. Could it be a gift?" He erased "sale" again.

At this time, a person came and said to him: "You are really unnecessary. Everyone knows it is an egg at a glance. Why do you need to write the word 'egg'?"

As a result, he blacked out all the words, and the eggs he sold were not as many as before.

The British playwright Shakespeare said: "Be true to yourself!" Only by being true to yourself can you gain true freedom in life.

Godwin, a famous Hollywood producer, did not study at prestigious universities such as Harvard or Oxford. The education he received was just working in a factory during the day and attending night school at night. So little. Although he himself is not a scholar of Shakespeare, he often feels that the sentence quoted above may be the most correct guidepost to success.

He spent many years in Hollywood. I have seen many male and female stars who want to try out fashionable movie styles, directors who want to copy other people's styles, screenwriters who want to imitate famous playwrights, and many people who want to give up their own style and imitate others. He finally gave them the best The basic advice is: "Express yourself as much as possible!"

From a psychological perspective, human drive is mainly cognitive, emotional and willpower at the psychological level. People produce three psychological needs correspondingly in this kind of inner drive activity, namely cognitive needs, emotional needs and moral needs. Knowledge, intention, and emotion are in one-to-one correspondence with the three ideal realms of truth, goodness, and beauty that people pursue externally. Therefore, people's cognitive needs, moral needs, and emotional needs are mainly manifested in people's pursuit of truth, goodness, and beauty. Life can be spent ordinary or extraordinary. Everyone is different, and everyone's standards are also different. Your success may be worthless in the eyes of others. Just feel successful.

In fact, just being yourself is enough. Deliberately imitating others is often counterproductive.

Everyone knows the story of “the imitation of others”. In ancient times, there were two women in the country of Yue. One was beautiful, named Xi Shi, and the other was ugly, named Dong Shi. Dong Shi was envious of Xi Shi's beauty and imitated Xi Shi's every move. One day, Xi Shi suffered from heartache. She was walking on the street, covering her chest with her hands and frowning. When Dong Shi saw her, he thought Xi Shi was beautiful like this, so he imitated her appearance and walked up and down the street. However, when people on the street saw her like this, they were so frightened that they hid here and there and did not dare to look at her. In fact, Dong Shi's starting point is good. She wants to learn well and become beautiful, but she has forgotten what is beautiful and what is ugly. I also don’t understand what superficial beauty is, what inner beauty is, how to explore your own strengths, show your own beauty, and be your true self.

Coincidentally, there is a similar story in "Zhuangzi Autumn Waters". There was a young man in the Shouling area of ??Yan State. This Shouling young man had no worries about food and clothing. He was average in appearance. However, he just lacked self-confidence. He often felt inferior and inferior to others for no reason. They are good, the food is delicious, and the way they stand and sit is also elegant. As time went by, he actually doubted whether he should walk like this. The more he looked at it, the more he felt that his walking posture was too stupid and ugly. One day, he met a few people chatting and laughing on the road, and he only heard someone saying that the Handan people had a beautiful walking posture. How beautiful is the walking posture of Handan people? He couldn't imagine it, and it became a problem for him. Finally one day, without telling his family, he went to distant Handan to learn to walk. As soon as he arrived in Handan, he felt everything was new.

When he sees a child walking, he feels lively and graceful, and learns from it; when he sees an old man walking, he feels steady, and learns; when he sees a woman walking, he feels swaying, and learns. Just like that, after only half a month, he didn't know how to move. As a result, he had to crawl home. The idiom "Handan learning to walk" refers to people who imitate others mechanically. Not only will they fail to learn from others' strengths, but they will also lose their own strengths and abilities.

In fact, most of the time we just need to be ourselves, let our hearts be free, and let our lives be spent happily. To be true to oneself is to be true to success.