How is the life of the family with a second child now? How do you feel?

In fact, whether the first child, the second child or the third child, parents are worried about their lives.

Life should be almost the same, there won't be much difference, because the total economic output and income level of the family are there. The main difference is still in education. If there are more children, the investment in education will double, and it will not be saved at all.

I think the one-child family has the happiness and troubles of the one-child family, and the second child has the happiness and troubles of the second child.

Take us for example. In 20 10, our family Dabao was born. At that time, it felt good to be a father at first, but at the same time it added a little responsibility. From then on, I was worried about this and that, about whether the children ate well, played well and slept well ... After I went to primary school, I was worried about my studies, so I actually got used to it.

Until around 20 18, we saw that people around us wanted Bauer, and we also had an idea. Then we asked Dabao's opinion, and she said she was looking forward to it. This is not! Bauer was born on 20 19. Being a father again feels ordinary. Anyway, I have more hearts and responsibilities.

Dabao and Bauer are more than nine years apart. This treasure has just been brought out, which is equivalent to starting all over again. This is the biggest feeling between his mother and me since we had Bauer.

Of course, one more at home is also very lively. Trouble and happiness go hand in hand. In addition to worrying, there are also many moving moments.

A kind-hearted mother made clothes for her wayward son's body with thread. She sewed them carefully and repaired them thoroughly, fearing that the delay would make him stay home later ... Only when the child was raised can we know his parents' kindness. Don't forget your parents. They are worried about your children, but they are also heartbroken for us.

I can talk about this problem. My brother and sister-in-law gave birth to a second child three years ago. These three years are four words for them: hard work. As a witness and an outsider, I want to talk about my feelings.

My brother got married at the age of 25 and my sister-in-law got married at the age of 23. It's not too late in a big city, but they never wanted to have children. Parents are urging, on the grounds that while the elderly are in good health, they can help them take care of their children until Xiao Yan has a boss at the age of 33. But as soon as the baby was born, the couple didn't like it. At that time, my aunt's mother helped them with their children, so I didn't feel anything, just thought it would be better if I could have a second child.

Soon after the second child policy was released, my sister-in-law began to prepare for pregnancy. At this time, although both parents want them to, they have no plans to take care of their children until they are exhausted. As a bystander, I keep reminding them that they also understand the reality, but they have to do it anyway. My sister-in-law was 37 when she was born. When I was in confinement, I saw her, and the words on her mouth were: tired. When the boss was just four years old, it was a noisy era. The nanny at home is basically looked after by the boss, and no nanny is invited for the next month. Because there is no place to live, she not only takes care of the children but also recovers. She can't help her brother close down for three months, but what she fears most is what to do after three months?

My sister-in-law works in a top 500 foreign company with a high salary. Of course, her work intensity is also very high. It is unrealistic to resign entirely by my younger brother, because my younger brother has just started a business, his business is intermittent and unstable, and my sister-in-law has to go to work, so finding a nanny is on the agenda.

At first, I discussed with the current nanny to let her take care of two children, give her a raise, and then find an hourly worker to cook three meals. At first, the nanny agreed happily. A few days later, the nanny told her sister-in-law to find someone else on the grounds that she could not take care of her two children. I have no choice but to find another nanny who doesn't live at home. So after two months, one day my sister-in-law called me and asked me to go to her house to see what was going on. She said that two nannies had a fight and called her, but she and her brother were away on business. I quickly went to see the situation. It turns out that the two nannies have been fighting for who, and this conflict is actually a matter of time.

In a rage, my sister-in-law let both nannies go and applied to the company to work from home. I'm glad the company approved it. This way, my sister-in-law can catch her breath, but this nanny still needs to be found. My sister-in-law said she couldn't find two, only one. So my sister's nanny is like a lantern. At that time, my sister teased: her home is a bath hall and an express hotel. The nanny went home the night before yesterday, took a bath and slept all night. The next day, she said no, because she saw two boys, one is 4 years old and the other is under 65,438+0. It is estimated that they all have headaches. I became their substitute. Basically, my sister-in-law had a conference call the next day, so she called me the day before to ask me for help. Otherwise, the boss will make trouble, the second child will cry, and she can't have the meeting. Then two children got sick together, and I was tired of that torture. Every time two children get sick, my sister-in-law gets sick, which is a cycle in their family.

Slowly, they both got used to the days when chickens fly and dogs jump. The most important thing is to have a capable nanny. Needless to say, all kinds of festivals can see that my sister-in-law is kind to her, for fear that she will leave. I remember one day my sister-in-law told me painfully that my salary was for the nanny.

Soon the boss will go to primary school, the second will go to kindergarten, and the younger brother and sister-in-law will start a new round of struggle.

What I want to say is that having a second child must not be impulsive. After all, people's physical strength and brain power are limited.

I am a mother with a second child. Let's talk about what it's like to have a second child.

My sister was born when the boss was almost six years old. At this time, my brother is going to primary school. My husband has to work and has no time to help him with his studies. I held my sister in one hand and taught her to read in the other. I often lose my temper with my brother. I have always felt sorry for him from the beginning, so I will spoil him in other ways, but the consequence is that my brother is very rebellious and thinks that he is working hard to teach his children, but I don't think any of them are teaching well. This makes me feel that,

In fact, every parent will understand his parents after having two children. Why can't a bowl of water be even and both children love each other? But in the absence of father, mother can't take care of two children by herself, and life is a bit chaotic when children are young.

After having a second child, I feel I can't go to work because my two children are really busy. The most obvious thing is that I have children, and the two of us are still very well off financially. Since the birth of the second child, my husband's salary has been much higher than before, but it is still not enough. The expenses are too high and the pressure is too great to buy anything casually. It takes two or three months to buy clothes for my husband, and I try to buy them for several years myself.

I am a second-born mother and two daughters. Please share my feelings.

The eldest daughter is 13 years old and the youngest daughter is over six years old. The difference between the two children is six and a half years. In the years when I only had my eldest daughter, my husband and I both went to work, and the old people on both sides helped me look after my nearly two-year-old child. Later, I took care of them myself, and the boss went to kindergarten at the age of two and a half. At that time, a child really didn't buy anything, and what he gave to the boss was the best.

When Boss kindergarten was about to graduate, I was pregnant with a second child because I ran away from home and the old man wanted a grandson. When Bauer was born, Dabao had just been in primary school for one month.

Almost all the two treasures are brought by themselves. Husband is on a long business trip and works overtime. I went through a few painful days. Outsiders can't imagine the hardships of raising two children alone. Take care of two at the same time, and you can't take care of two. I often hold Bauer to help Dabao with his homework. Bauer is either sleepy or has torn up Dabao's homework. In foggy weather, I had to push Bauer to pick up my sister. Bauer can't wear a mask, and he can't help it. The most painful time is the fifteenth day of the first month of the year. Dabao starts school the next day and has not finished his homework. Bauer suddenly had a fever and vomited, and her husband was on a business trip. The house is in a mess. It's eleven or twelve in the middle of the night, and Dabao is doing his homework at home. I took Bauer to the doctor. When I got home, I saw Dabao didn't finish his homework. I lost my temper and hit Dabao. Mother and daughter cried together!

There are so many painful experiences that I can't remember them, so I have to get through them. Therefore, at the expense of youth and job opportunities, children have grown up. Apart from the pride of those who have experienced it, they owe it to their two children. In those years, I really got depression. In order to restrain myself and raise flowers to comfort myself, hundreds of potted flowers were raised at home. Because of my limited ability, when Dabao needed a good tutorial, I focused on Bauer and missed the best opportunity for my children to study, because I didn't dare to think about how many times Dabao left young Bauer alone at home, but there was no way. Dabao was forced to take responsibility early and help me take care of my sister. When you are tired, you learn to cook at the age of seven and teach yourself at the age of ten.

As my two children grow up, I am better. The two children love each other. I also began to face up to the problem of children's education again, find reasons from myself, sum up experiences and lessons, and slowly make up for my lack of education for children. Now Dabao's first day is hard, sunny and cheerful, and Bauer's kindergarten class is very smart. I think the sacrifice is worth it!

That is me. Since the opening of the second child, the response has been far less than expected. Those who want to be born are hard to live, those who don't want to be born are good, and those who want to be born are mainly born after 70. It's much more difficult than they thought, and they have to take care of their children and support their families. The real difficulties are enormous. There is only one word, difficult, difficult, difficult, and it is difficult to have a good family.

Seeing this problem, I can't help sighing, and my heart is depressed. ...

I am the eldest son born on 20 1 1 and the second son born on 20 17. If I could go back in time, I would make different decisions. ...

At that time, I gave birth to a second child, 1, because the old man at home advised me to follow the trend blindly, without considering the comprehensive strength of my family. 2. It was because I was 33 years old when I was born with Bauer, and I had an inexplicable panic, fearing that I would regret it after this childbearing age. 3. Because I think there is a 50% chance of having a second child, and I can have a daughter and two children. It will be perfect for me to have a child by myself. ...

It was in these considerations that I gave birth to a second child, but it also brought me a lot of pain. First, I was depressed for a while after giving birth to a child who was neglected. Second, the mother-in-law is old and in poor health, and it is difficult to see the children. Third, the economic pressure has increased. The second child gave birth to a baby boy, and the psychological and economic pressure increased, plus comments from people around the society. Sometimes I dare not tell others that I have two sons, for fear that others will laugh at me. ...

All of the above are bad things, but having two children is not just bad. Now the second BMW is three years old and is about to go to school. The clever look makes people like it, and Dabao is also very sensible. Two children playing together, watching me grow up together is also very gratifying. Let's just say so much.

Whether I have a child or a second child, I haven't escaped the fate of being a full-time mother. Second child, happy twins. This is a happy result. But after all, I still choose to take care of two children by myself. The reason is that it doesn't get along with my mother-in-law's concept of parenting, and my sister-in-law gave birth to a second child at about the same time as me, so my mother-in-law can't always help me with my children, and the two families run back and forth. Then my mother-in-law suggested that she go to work and subsidize our two families, and I accepted it gladly. So now my life revolves around children all day. The busiest thing should be to make breakfast for Dabao every morning when the two little guys are sleeping, and then take care of the two little guys after Dabao goes to school. Fortunately, Dabao, who is already in grade two, doesn't need me to send her to school. (The school is near home) Sometimes when two little guys wake up in the morning, they quickly help Dabao to wash and let her buy some breakfast. Wherever I go, people will ask if my children are brought by themselves. Whenever I answer yes, I get a surprised look. Actually, it depends on how you take care of the children. When you cross the bridge, nothing in the world is impossible. Sometimes I feel very tired, but fortunately I have a caring husband. Usually when he goes to work, as long as he gets off work, he will help take care of the children or do housework. When he is at rest, people say that people are ghosts, and people will know when they have children. This sentence is so right. He will make you laugh when you are tired, that's enough. As long as men are kind to you, it's worth it to be bitter and tired again.

If no one helps, it will be difficult. If someone helps, it will be more fun than hard work, and the two children will have company.

When the baby is obedient, he feels that he is the winner of life, with a strong sense of happiness, which is stronger than the baby. However, when he quarrels, he collapses. I don't know why he has to find two miserable babies. It's already very tiring to take one, but it's even more tiring to take two, and you have to bear a lot of economic pressure. Whether it is a boy or a girl, the cost of sending a teacher is very high now. My family's Dabao is now 5000 yuan a month, and the kindergarten fee plus extracurricular classes is not enough to eat and wear. My two babies live close together, a little over a year apart. I can't take care of them at all One is in his hometown and the other is taking care of himself. Before that, I hired a nanny to stay at home. This year's epidemic has caused me great economic pressure, so I have to put my second child in my hometown. I really can't take care of myself, but I feel deeply sorry for my second child, afraid that his psychology will be affected, afraid that he doesn't love, and afraid of all kinds of worries and anxieties. Despite these practical difficulties, the family is still very happy and happy together. I feel that thanks to the birth of the second child, the two children are particularly beautiful when they are joking together.

There are two babies in my family. Dabao goes to college in other places, and Bauer is a freshman.

When we first decided to have Bauer, our conditions were too difficult. Because the debt owed by buying a house has not been paid off, there are no in-laws here, and my mother is too old to take care of the children. But I like children too much. Look at Dabao. He is so lonely, so I want Bauer regardless.

After giving birth to a child, the conditions are even more difficult. Fortunately, my sister took over the task of looking after the children, and my second sister took over the task of picking up the children. At that time, I spent every day like this. After getting up in the morning, I fed and dressed seven-month-old Bauer, and my husband cooked. Dabao in the fourth grade washed it himself. After breakfast, I tied Bauer to the back seat of the electric car, sent him to my sister's house, and then went to work. Husband is responsible for sending Dabao to school. Dabao eats a small table at noon, and I go to my sister's house to take care of Bauer. In the afternoon, the second sister took Dabao home from school, and the children did their homework at home. I'll take Bauer home after work. In this way, with the help of our two sisters, we spent the most difficult years.

During the epidemic, the two children stayed at home for half a year, which was the longest time they spent together. When the two brothers are good, my sister helps my brother with his homework, and the two brothers play games and exercise together. When brothers and sisters are not good, there will be a martial arts performance. In my opinion, every photo of brothers and sisters is the most beautiful. For me, every picture is happy.