Home is a safe haven, so the most comfortable home is your husband's family or your own?

It is said that home is a shelter from the wind, but for women, once they get married and start a family, except the husband's family, the parents' family and in-laws' family are other people's families. Moreover, I feel that after marriage, what makes me feel most comfortable is my home, not my husband's family.

My mother-in-law looks more open-minded, but in fact she is difficult to get along with. I am with my husband. At first, my mother-in-law objected because there was a big family gap between us. My mother-in-law is afraid that her husband will be bullied by our family after being with me, so she strongly opposes it, but there is no way. We finally got married. After marriage, my mother-in-law only looks kind on the surface. As an adult, I can also feel some sense of alienation between my mother-in-law and me. But after all, she has become a family, and her mother-in-law is also a mother. As a daughter-in-law, she naturally has to do her best to honor it.

However, when I go back to my husband's house every New Year, this uncomfortable feeling will spread all over my body. After all, for my husband, his home is equivalent to his own home, but for me, this home is actually no different from other people's homes. I am a prude myself, so it will be very uncomfortable at my husband's house, including when I eat, I am always in a state of not having enough to eat. Therefore, every Spring Festival, I feel very headache, because I really don't want to go back to my husband's house. Only in my own home, beside my husband, can I be myself.

Believe me, this situation should not be a case. There are many people who feel the same way with me. People who can really get along with their mother-in-law do exist, but it is really rare in this society. After all, the mother-in-law is not her own mother or her own daughter. Two people will naturally alienate and keep a certain distance, but this distance is not bad, because once she gets too close, there may be other unpleasant things.