Live a good life and talk about it (I hope you like high live).

The circle of friends saw her college roommate taking a group photo with the students. At the age of 35, she finally arrived in Beijing and became a university teacher, five years later than her goal of having a stable job in Beijing before the age of 30.

When she was an undergraduate, she was the best student in the department. She won the national scholarship for four years in a row and was sent to our school for postgraduate study after graduation. At that time, her goal was to get into the doctoral program of Communication University of China and work in Beijing.

Unexpectedly, when she was a graduate student, her father suddenly fell ill and her mother lost her mind for a while. There is only her and a sister at home, and her sister is still in college. Everything depends on her.

In order to take care of her father, she returned to her hometown after graduation and worked as a teacher in a local middle school.

When her father's health gradually recovered, she put the dream of taking a doctor's exam on the agenda again.

The road to Cobo is not smooth. The teacher she wanted to take the exam only recruited three students every year, but she failed in the first two years. In the third year, she had the opportunity to study at Communication University.

At that time, she would go to Beijing for an exam from June 5438 to 10 every year, and would stay at my home. We chat together. She talked about the hard work of taking care of her father and the difficulty of the exam, and said with emotion: "It was originally a straight road. For an accident in the middle, I took a detour for five more years. "

Fortunately, with her determination and persistence, even after some setbacks, she finally achieved her goal and found a stable job in Beijing.

In this life, the most difficult and proudest thing for a person is the life that live high and live high want.

Some people have a low starting point, but their goals are firm and practical, and they have played a bad hand. Some people are born with more resources than others, but they have been doing things they don't want to do, making a mess of their lives.

I once met a middle-aged woman at a psychological exchange meeting.

Well-dressed and well-dressed, they are all famous brands, but his face has no comfortable look that a rich life should have. He has a sad face and always sighs.

Talking about her family background, she blamed her parents.

When she was a child, she liked singing and dancing and wanted to be an art student, but her parents were very traditional. She thinks that a girl who sings and dances on the stage is out of shape, and it is best to find a stable clerk.

When she was admitted to the university, she wanted to take the opportunity to study abroad and get rid of her parents' control, but her parents said, "If you stay here, we can still take care of you. When you graduate, there will be more ways to find a job. "

So she studied accounting locally and went to work for her father's friend after graduation.

The family soon found a suitable marriage partner. The boy's family is very rich, and the whole family thinks she is quiet and gentle and likes her very much. In this way, she married and had children according to her parents' wishes and lived a very rich and happy life.

However, whenever she sees those students who have gone to first-tier cities, they are all-powerful outside, and she feels very sorry for herself.

She could have had such a colorful life, drinking coffee, watching plays and listening to concerts on weekends, but she could only stay at home and take care of her children.

To this end, she resented her parents for many years, thinking that their control trapped herself in the boring life of the town.

Later, I learned a lot of courses in psychology and family background, only to find that I should hate myself the most. She enjoys the benefits of being controlled. With someone to take care of her, a stable job, and her husband's economic conditions are good, she has to bear the loss of giving up her dreams.

Even if your life is not what you want, it is your choice.

She said: "I didn't know until I was 40 years old that if I didn't try, break through and persist, my dream would only become regret."

Yes, once, everyone had an ideal self in his heart, perhaps a writer, who wrote everything in the world with a pen; Maybe it is husband and wife, a happy family; Maybe I went to many beautiful cities and saw a bigger world, but when I was alive, some people's dreams became fantasies and some people's dreams became reality.

Some people get lost and choose passively again and again; Some people are always sober and insist on making their own decisions.

The former may live comfortably, and the latter is doomed to be hard, but as Kitano Takeshi said, "Although it is hard, I will still choose that fiery life."

The writer Lin Qingxuan wrote a story. When he was a child, he did well in the exam and the teacher gave him a map of the world.

It was winter, his family was taking a bath in the bathroom, and he was in charge of boiling water outside. Once, while boiling water, he looked at the map and saw the Nile, pyramids and the Sphinx in Egypt. He was full of longing and forgot to boil water for a moment.

Father rushed out of the bathroom and asked him what he was doing. The water is cold.

He said that he was looking at the map of the world and he must go to Egypt when he grew up.

His grumpy father slapped him and said, "I promise, you will never go so far in your life."

Lin Qingxuan was wronged and unconvinced. While boiling water, he made up his mind: "My life should not be saved. I must go to Egypt when I grow up. "

Later, he insisted on writing. When he was in military service, he rang the wake-up bell at 6 o'clock every day and got up at 4 o'clock to write.

At the age of 26, he won the literature prize of China Times. At the age of 30, he became one of the most prolific writers in Taiwan Province Province.

Because he had money to travel abroad, his first stop was Egypt.

He lived in Egypt for three months and wrote a postcard to his father under the pyramid. When he received the postcard, his father said, "Did this slap hit Egypt?"

I read a sentence in the book: "Your body is yours, your life is yours, but you live what others want.". It's not worth thinking about. "

All along, we always live according to other people's ideas and suggestions, and always embarrass ourselves in other people's eyes and opinions.

Some people earnestly say "this is for your own good";

Some people's advice is the most unpleasant: "I say this because I am your friend." You are so headstrong, there is no good result. "

As a result, you have neither lived what they want you to be nor what you want to be.

San Mao said: "The achievements of all things in the world are not accidental. What kind of life you want to live and what kind of person you want to be actually comes from your choice. "

"Choice" sounds easy, just a decision, but it is difficult to put it into practice. For your own choice, you have to bear pressure, face ups and downs, struggle alone and do your best.

Is your life what you imagined ten years ago?

Have you lived the life you want?

Many people's loss is actually just because they have lost their desire and courage to act.

In fact, the beauty of life is not elsewhere, but here. Through hard work, you will be able to live the life you like.

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