When a child does something wrong, how can a mother appease the child after she can't control her emotions and scolds the child?

I can't help but beat and scold my children. Sometimes I overdo it. What should I do if I feel sorry?

I don't think there is much ideological burden. First of all, there must be guidelines for beating and scolding children, not whimsical, not sudden, not inexplicable.

For a simple example, since I went to primary school, I often can't control the power of the wild. Because he dawdled, dawdled and dawdled, he actually learned to talk back. Finally, he didn't finish his homework and cried and didn't want to sleep. His fear of being criticized made his blood vessels burst and he flew into a rage. I usually patiently guide him until 9 o'clock after class. After 9 o'clock, I was worried that it would affect his sleep, so I gave a warning. If I don't concentrate on my homework, I will get angry. After reminding him, he began to talk back. I would say that I am angry now … step by step. After that, I will start to get angry. But some children won't change immediately because you are angry.

Sometimes I think he is a little scared. After many times, I was afraid of affecting my child's mood, unable to control myself, and felt that I was right. What should I do? I will seriously talk to my children about this problem. Let me let him talk about his feelings first. I'm telling him why. I even taught him how to calm my anger. Finally, I told him that making mistakes is not a bad thing. I allow you to make a mistake, but I hope you won't make the same mistake twice. Maybe sometimes you forget the lesson for a while, then mom will still give you a chance, but there are only three things. I hope you can remember. Everyone's patience is limited. If you break my bottom line and don't change three reminders, then I will be angry. If you talk back when I am angry, I may hit you. Because I think communication can't solve the problem, it can only make you feel physical pain. What should you do if you don't want to be criticized or beaten? I am basically angry with him because of homework or excessive contact with electronic products. I try not to nag about the little things in life. This is my principle and bottom line. After all, children are not machines, and there are always small problems.

Some parents always blame themselves for their guilt. I don't think it is necessary at all. Children nowadays are too fragile to touch or touch. It's good to put a little pressure on him. But every time you lose your temper, let him know the reason clearly and tell him the correct way. Therefore, the communication at that time was not mainly to appease, but to communicate clearly the reasons and solutions.

There are no perfect parents and no perfect children. Now you should think about it. Why are you angry? Have you had in-depth communication with him every time you get angry? I think these two points are very important!