"Daughter, you stay away from her mother-in-law. You can't beat her. " "My mother-in-law is very kind to me." what do you think?

Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are natural enemies, but this does not mean that all mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in the world can't get along well under one roof. In fact, there are many mother-in-law and daughter-in-law who have a harmonious relationship and are close to each other.

Speaking of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, many daughters-in-law may be scared, but as long as they respect each other, don't always think about taking advantage of each other. In fact, many contradictions can be avoided.

Some mothers-in-law think that their daughter-in-law will get more bride price when she enters the door and give her little shoes to wear after marriage. Some daughter-in-law will feel that her mother-in-law gives too little bride price and is dissatisfied with her mother-in-law, giving her a reputation as a "bad mother-in-law".

When Xiaoxiao got married, her mother-in-law didn't give a penny as a bride price, which caused her mother-in-law's dissatisfaction. The daughter said that her mother-in-law was very kind to herself. What happened?

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Xiaoxiao and her husband got married three years ago. When they first got married, her mother-in-law didn't give any bride price. First, according to local customs, the husband's family has no habit of giving bride price. Second, they just bought a house and spent 7788 savings.

The husband's family thinks that the house is bought in full, and the woman can't pick out any big problems. But the smiling mother refused.

Xiaoxiao's mother flew into a rage when she heard that her husband's family was unwilling to give a bride price, and said directly to Xiaoxiao, "We are not getting married. You should break up with him quickly. Their family doesn't value you at all. "

However, Xiaoxiao has been with her boyfriend for five years, and she knows the roots well, and she has a good relationship with her boyfriend, so she finally went against her mother's wishes, preferring not to pay the bride price and insisting on being with her boyfriend.

The mother was helpless, complaining that her daughter's elbow turned outward before marriage, scolding the man's family for not respecting others, and finally married with a smile.

However, after the marriage, Xiaoxiao's mother did not change her view of her in-laws. Whenever she is free, she speaks ill of her husband's family everywhere. Every time Xiaoxiao calls her, she takes pains to warn her daughter: "Daughter, stay away from her mother-in-law, you can't hit her. They are all old foxes and eat people without blinking. "

At first, I just smiled and echoed. Later, I heard too much and began to refute my mother.

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In fact, apart from not giving the bride price, the husband's family is quite good at laughing. Xiaoxiao hasn't done housework since she got married in the past. Mother-in-law helps her do all the housework, and her husband's family is trying to accommodate Xiaoxiao's habit of eating spicy food, putting pepper in every meal.

Xiaoxiao's income is twice that of her husband, but her husband's family never borrows money from her, and even gives Xiaoxiao a red envelope on holidays. Xiaoxiao never blames her husband's family for not giving a bride price;

After all, they also have their difficulties. After three years together, she knew that her husband's family really respected and cared for themselves.

So when my mother said to herself, "Stay away from her mother-in-law," she went in one ear and out the other.

Last month, my mother-in-law was diagnosed with gallstones and needed surgery. At that time, her husband was on a business trip in other places, but Xiaoxiao stayed with her mother-in-law, and all the expenses were laughed out.

But unexpectedly, after this incident was known by Xiaoxiao's mother, she called Xiaoxiao and scolded her. She said, "How did your brain grow? When you married your husband, your husband's family didn't even pay a penny for the bride price. Over the years, you didn't earn any money at home. What did you get from their family? Now that my mother-in-law is ill, you don't care, but you have to treat her. How can you be so stupid! "

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Smile and say, "Mom, don't always speak ill of your mother-in-law. In fact, she is still very kind to me. I have never been wronged in their family. Every time I quarrel with my husband, my mother-in-law is always on my side ... "

Mom interrupted and said with a smile, "You don't admit that you are stupid. People just give you a little affection, and you are taken in. I give you a red envelope now to accommodate some of your habits, just so that you can serve her when you are old. Don't be fooled. "

The daughter said angrily, "Since you think my mother-in-law is so bad, I might as well get a divorce."

Mother said, "Don't be silly!" The daughter sighed and hung up the phone. In her opinion, her mother is trying to sow discord every time she calls. Obviously, my mother-in-law is very kind to herself. Every time she has to be vigilant, she always speaks ill of her mother-in-law, and her ears are covered with cocoons.

This time, she scared her mother into saying that she wanted a divorce. She quickly told her daughter not to be impulsive. Her mother felt sorry for her little granddaughter and resolutely refused to let her daughter divorce, but she really looked down on her daughter's mother-in-law and son-in-law.

Every time I get a call from my mother, I am surrounded by negative energy for a day of laughter, especially unhappy. This time, she intends to make it clear to her mother that she should stay out of her business. She will be responsible for her choice and live a happy life. I hope her mother doesn't hold out her hand for so long.

How much the bride price is given does not fully represent that the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law pay too much. Under normal circumstances, the more the bride price is given, the more the mother-in-law cares and takes care of the new daughter-in-law. But if feelings are always measured by the amount of bride price, they will inevitably fall into stereotypes.

Just like the smiling mother-in-law in the article, although her son and daughter-in-law didn't get a penny bride price when they got married for various reasons, it doesn't mean that she is dissatisfied with the smile. After getting married, my mother-in-law smiled and "told" with practical actions: I care about you, and our family regards you as a family.

Xiaoxiao's mother has never been with her in-laws, so she doesn't know the real relationship between her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. She only uses the amount of bride price to measure the attitude of her in-laws, so mothers should communicate with their daughters more, change their inherent views, and stop speaking ill of their in-laws, which will only push their daughters further and further.