My husband and I quarreled again because of drinking, and he dropped his mobile phone and other items, which was the third time in two months after my father died in a car accident.

The longer contradictions and grievances accumulate in my heart, the colder my heart will be. Even after a period of reconciliation, it looks as calm as before, but only when there is a quarrel will the grievances you thought before flood into your heart like a flood. The relationship between husband and wife is wonderful. The longer they spend together, most of them forget to communicate with each other, preferring to talk to strangers instead of mentioning them to each other. The closest person becomes a stranger.

Do you really want a divorce? You can try to think about what he wants you to divorce for. Sort out the reasons for wanting to divorce one by one and see if these are necessary conditions. If the reason is not sufficient, then calm down for a while and then investigate. I understand that you are full of grievances now, and feel that your husband doesn't understand you when you are sad, which makes you feel lonely and heartless. When he calms down, try to talk to him about your feelings. Don't accept any condemnation. He may be the one to spend the rest of your life with. Tell him what you want, what you want from him, how his performance has made you feel, and so on.

Communication is very important, and one of the foundations of marriage is communication. From the day they met, two independent individuals were destined to communicate. No one can fully understand another person. There are no idol dramas in the world. If you want him to know what you want, you must say it. Don't think it's because of face. Don't be afraid of anything, because he is your closest husband.