What to say is too defensive.

Too defensive. Defensive psychology refers to a person's psychological preparation in advance to deal with attacks or avoid injuries, which is also present in our lives. Everyone can't be unprepared for anyone when they are alive. Let's talk about the defensive mentality.

Say 1 1, if you give up, you shouldn't regret losing, you shouldn't forget to put you down and quit the drama without ending.

2, there is no empathy in this world, just because you give too much laughter, no one cares about your sadness, so don't be stupid enough to expose your scar and complain to others, there are many people who sprinkle salt in this world.

Please give me an invitation when you get married. I have seen everything about you, tender, angry, sad and happy, but I have never seen you get married.

4. When I was a child, I thought it was enough. When I grow up, I find it useless to just like it. You should have enough patience and courage to catch disappointment again and again. In the end, you will find that you don't even like it.

5. There is no right or wrong, only value and unworthiness. Love is an encounter. It is a pity that some people meet at the wrong time and can only pass by.

6. Emotions in the world are sometimes so complicated but subtle. I'd rather we forget each other in the Jianghu. Even if we miss the tears, we don't want to feel sorry for each other, but we are tired of complaining that we are old.

7, expectation, is the root of all heartache, the heart does not hurt.

8. My heart seems to be pricked by thousands of steel needles, and my throat seems to be blocked by something. I am very sad.

9, play hard, don't be too serious, anyway, no one can leave the game alive in the end.

10, never regret the path you chose, no matter before or now, because the only thing you can do is to go on without hesitation.

1 1. Happiness is not getting everything you want, but enjoying everything you have.

12, I said I wouldn't leave in front of you. I said I wouldn't look back even if I left. I said I wouldn't try my tears with my hands. I said I wouldn't stay there even if you left. Everything I said doesn't count. Your arms are no longer a harbor in my heart. Those promises are just nonsense.

13, make the grievances bigger, make the determination firmer, and make the goals clearer.

14, no one to accompany her to sing, no one to accompany her to drink, and no one to accompany her at last. I wonder if my heart in your place is dusty, too. Don't say anything, sit with me and make a bug. I have no cigarettes or wine. Listen to me about loneliness.

15, it is enough to scratch a thank-you word for the award, and the same is true for love. There is no need to scratch off the words "thank you for your patronage" before you let go.

16, it's useless to escape. In this world, others can't replace us to mature.

17, time is both distance and forgiveness. Let some things be clearer, let some feelings be clearer, and let everything be calm.

18, I'm not really used to refusing, but I'm afraid that once I hold hands and return to a person, I can't stand that kind of loneliness and sadness. If I don't, I'm not afraid to lose.

19, sometimes, you need to go out for a walk, breathe strange air, and then remind yourself who you are and what kind of person you want to be.

Turn around, I can't find any trace of you anymore. I am still your ferry, but you are no longer my post.

2 1, since childhood, we have never changed, but we have become ourselves more and more clearly.

22, waiting for your casual glance, drunk on this covered bridge, at the right time, the most beautiful years, smiles fall into each other's eyes.

23, people who love each other, before they meet, are just fate, and the messy lines in their palms are destined to meet and be entangled.

24. Too many love words make people melodramatic, too many philosophies make people numb, and too many realities make us look sophisticated and simple. What a luxury!

25. You said I wouldn't die if I didn't hit the south wall. I've always wanted to try. I always wanted to hold on for a while and see if things would turn around, so I unconsciously held on for so long. Although I am obviously a person with a three-minute fever, I can still hold a cup of boiled water anyway.

26. Some people are good to you because you are good to him, while others are good to you because they know you are good.

27. The man in the movie waited until the year of the woman, but unfortunately, the subtitles were only one second.

He worked hard for a long time, but he was still indignant at those complaints.

29. If you are angry, the other party will listen to you immediately, because you are afraid of you and love. If you are sad, the other person will listen to you immediately, because of love, but if he won't give in no matter what you do, he will know that he has quarreled. Where is love?

30. Some people's names, some I have forgotten, some I will always remember, just like some people once had nothing to say, but in the end, they have nothing to say.

3 1, see yourself clearly in joys and sorrows, and see your friends clearly in ups and downs.

32. When life falls, will I meet you again? If we can meet again, I will not waste my time, but pick up my once barren youth with growth and let my short life fly.

33. If we are destined to pass each other in this life, I deeply wish you happiness forever and then put away all your feelings and look forward to meeting you in the next life.

34. I used to like someone and I can leave at will. If you like someone now, you can come at will, but you just don't accept it anymore. Because I know I'm fine now, and you only have one chance to love me.

35. I heard that happiness is very simple, and it will be diluted as time goes by.

36. I can't avoid your sight and your emotional pursuit. I always hope to hold your hand through the clouds and let time show off in front of me. I love you forever, dear, let's go hand in hand!

37. The feeling of disappointment is probably that I sent you a good night before going to bed, and you didn't return for a long time, thinking that you had slept, but you didn't receive a missed message when you woke up the next day.

38, drinking lonely wine, blowing the wind of freedom, waiting for someone who doesn't return, just dreaming for the rest of your life without you.

In love, we are all insecure people. Because we care too much, it is terrible to lose us.

40. Once upon a time, I felt like a child abandoned by the world of mortals. I refused the world of mortals, but I still can't escape the peach blossom robbery of fate, or the love robbery of fate. Maybe, I have my own doom, and I can't escape.

4 1, I also have a hard time. I don't want to say it, but I don't want to say it. I have a thousand revolutions, too. I don't want to play dumb, but I don't want to talk about it. It's not that I haven't seen it, I haven't thought about it, I don't understand it, I just don't say it.

I didn't do it. Why should I apologize? Why did grandma insist that I did it and didn't investigate the whole story? Does a person's temporary habit determine the result of a person's life? I tried to hold back my tears of injustice.

Time didn't wait for me, but you forgot to take me away. Holding an unforgettable firefly in the left hand and a ten-year meditation in the right hand.

44. When you look back on the bitterness of life, you will have a strong aftertaste; When you learn to let go, you will find that you already have it.

Love is a firework that burns my hands, but it also lights up the night for you.

46. If I miss you, I will look in the mirror and see if I deserve such dazzling.

47. We always leave the most tolerant eyes to others, but leave the most vicious and hurtful words to our closest relatives.

48. Stop crying. It's ugly. Crying won't change anything. The world has never been gentle to anyone.

49. I am used to living alone. No matter what happiness is, it won't hurt if you don't show your heart.

50. When you reach a certain age, you should learn to be taciturn, and every sentence should be useful, weighty, lively, indifferent and have your own bottom line.

5 1, you will meet many women in this life, and I will meet many men in this life. As you said, you and I will never be us.

52. There is nothing that can't pass, only the mood that can't pass. As long as you change your mood, the world will be completely different.

If you are too wary, then talk about it. If you are too suspicious, then tell me.

First of all, we are in a long-distance relationship. When I opened the room, I went to take a shower first. I saw him replying to the message. I asked him who the man was, but he didn't speak. I asked him if I was a mistress. He said no and hugged me tightly. Then I said that if you honestly tell me what the hell is up there, he won't let me talk and kiss me directly. Then I went to bed without asking. Do you think I'm being paranoid?

Second, it's still a little bitter. Don't spit it out. The more you age, the more suspicious you become. What do you have to lie about? I sent you a deposit commission of one or two customers 1 10,000 to 20,000. If I want to, just selling a ticket is higher than selling one or two million insurance commissions. And if you really want to say it, I can't let you know. Silly. I said I wasn't competing with the world, but I was really worried.

When my husband came back from his last business trip, he found a red mark on his neck and asked him if it was caused by shaving. I believe what he said and think he is too suspicious, even if it is true. Who got pregnant in 10, and is now in confinement and during maternity leave?

Four, I graduated from college for three years. In Shenzhen, a place with few friends, I always have my own lifestyle and social experience. I thought there would be one or two netizens willing to just chat, just for a while. I hope I'm too suspicious, but I can't help it. Social experience tells me to stop and say goodbye to those illusory things. Perhaps in this complicated and fast-paced life in Shenzhen, there is no innocence, at least for now.

5. Man, don't promise too early when chasing you. If you promise him too early, he will not know how to cherish it. This kind of man often realizes that he can't live without you before he loses it. There is a person who is too suspicious to lose you and still doubt you. The above two men must choose carefully and don't regret it.

6. Doubt is ok, but verification is more important! It is better to verify it in a short time than to doubt it for a long time! Doubt sees darkness, believe sees light! Doubt is difficult to see, believe in the road! Believe before you become a wise man! Too much doubt will definitely affect the progress.

Seven, hate but have to see these people all day, really tired. Looking back now, I seem to have cried too much. Even if it's none of my business, I will cry. I don't know if my outlook on life is right, and I don't know if a humble life really suits me. I'm too suspicious to get hurt. If I can't have it both ways, what can I do to achieve a nearly perfect self? How can I control myself from crying so much? How can I live without being so humble? I just left the warm harbor and entered this world of flowers and flowers, and suddenly I was afraid.

Eight, people believe what they see with their eyes and hear with their ears, but sometimes what they see is not necessarily true, but what others deliberately let you see and hear. Now the relationship is so fragile. If you listen to the villain, you suspect sisterhood. The point is that you are too suspicious, which has harmed yourself and ruined our friendship.

Nine, I saw some screenshots in junior high school. After reading it, I feel that I may have really had no reservations before, but at that time we were too brainless, one was too stupid and the other was too suspicious. Fortunately, after many years, we confessed to each other and understood some things in those years, and some things were relieved. However, some things are forever.

I have decided my future plan. I can't bear to part with you when I get divorced. But what about you? I'm so cruel. I'm so paranoid. I can't accept ... I miss you now.

Don't be afraid of what you hear today, and don't be too suspicious.

Twelve, stand on such a suspicious person, I can't help it. ...

Thirteen, someone makes me feel uncomfortable perfectly. I always want to find fault with him, but I can't. That's probably why I don't want to be with him. I know I'm being paranoid. Even if someone I trust stabs me with a knife, I will feel that he has difficulties. This is a disease and there is no cure. ...

Fourteen, girls are very sensitive in love, and their minds are delicate and suspicious. They are very concerned about whether boys can give her a sense of security, less routine and more sincerity.

Fifteen, who can the world trust and who can the world rely on? It's not that I'm too suspicious, but that I really can only rely on myself!

16. Jiang Chengping paused and said thoughtfully, "Long Yongcheng has a good eye in business, much better than me, and he is a master in overall layout. However, this person is a bit narrow-minded and suspicious, especially for other shareholders. "

Seventeen, when I want to try a relationship, I am tired of this boy from the beginning to the present and slowly accept it, and even fall in love with him. I gradually became dependent on him. Sometimes I wonder if I don't trust you and will lie to me. Because what you said didn't make me trust you, maybe I was too suspicious. I was afraid that others would lie to me and treat me like a fool. Slowly, I found that your original vows were all fucking bullshit, and your words were better than your deeds. You are getting more and more perfunctory and ignoring me. It's really painful. I don't like being left alone by others. I am greeted when I need it, and I don't even bother to say hello when I don't need it. In any case, it is not just unilateral reasons that lead to this ending. We are all at fault for not managing our feelings well.

18. No one wants too much suspicion in their feelings. Now that we are together, of course, I hope it will get better and better. If a relationship is full of suspicion and distrust, it won't last long. Frequent explanations will make people very tired, and I will slowly lose patience. You just killed your feelings.

Nineteen, I am a person who is too suspicious and crazy. I am scum, and it is disgusting to put it there; Another nail stabbed someone who cared about me, leaving me alone. My stupidity makes you and me farther and farther away. I am really unforgivable. At the same time, I have pushed myself into the abyss where I can't stand up. I only deserve loneliness! !

Twenty, but your distrust and doubt are too heavy for me to accept! Our love is no longer trusted. Love is based on mutual trust, not a white lie that denies everything! Every time you attack suddenly, you know exactly what I'm doing, and you deliberately set me up. There is no feeling between us that we can say everything and ask if we don't understand! You make me tired, really tired! I don't want our love to be perfect, but it's not!

Twenty-one, communication should be mutual, not always tied to memories, too possessive, too suspicious, always walking around. Know a passerby and lose a passerby. No one knows what lies ahead, and I am always tired of empathy. Always ask others. After all, it's someone else. Just be yourself. Leave if you don't like it. Don't change it if you can't. Throw it away if you don't like it. Take it back if you like. Don't depend on anyone. Stay if you like, or leave if you don't like. From the sentimental fairy Liu.

Every time I come back, people who are too suspicious will feel uncomfortable. I come back every two years. After staying for half a month, I began to feel that I stayed too long. My family thinks I'm alone with my children and with them. Why not stay a little longer? It's all for me and my children. However, some people do not think so. He is too suspicious and thinks that I will do something sorry for him if I stay here for too long, saying that I don't know what to do here every day. It's all because of his suspicion that he wants us to go back and reassure him. If he were at home, I wouldn't stay here for half a month. Every day, my children and I go back! ? Big eyes and small eyes! ?

23. Should I blame myself for being too suspicious and narrow-minded, or should I blame you for not understanding me?

Don't doubt who told me. Molly is my little grandson and my loveliest grandson. After Mo Li Ran left home, I dreamed of him in my dream. Now that my grandson is back, how could I not know? "The old man naturally understood his son's doubts. This son is all right, except that he doesn't trust people and is too suspicious.

Twenty-five, the duck married the hen, but the life after marriage is not happy, because the hen is too suspicious and jealous to let go of some small things all day. The duck thought hard for a long time and decided to divorce the hen. After hearing the reasons for the duck's divorce, the hen slapped her face: "As a chicken, you still don't let me be petty!" " "

Twenty-six, teasing the little girl is that I am too suspicious or just like I know him. Ambiguity is the root of evil, but I can't stop it. Maybe I think too much, but I'm relieved after all. I believe I won't, but now I'm not so confident that I can grasp everything. I'm afraid of change and loss. It's hard for me to keep all this!

Twenty-seven, after a while, I really have too much to say in my heart, but I don't know where to start. It seems to happen all the time. I'm sick. Probably, no one can make me confide in him without reservation. Maybe I'm too sensitive and suspicious. A person who will be kind to me without scruple will believe everything completely, be too trusting, too sensitive and too suspicious.

Twenty-eight, I began to doubt whether I was rebellious or procrastinating, which led me to be impatient, lazy, contradictory, numb, annoyed, hateful, not broad-minded enough to tolerate anyone who gets along day and night, too suspicious and too many ideas. I repeat myself in the endless cycle of helplessness and anger because I am always uncomfortable or worried, because I can reveal my pure heart and feel relaxed. It's really because I have nothing to do I even worry that my college roommate snores in the middle of the night or smells bad, and I think too many things lead to my unhappiness now. Go to bed early, wake up and have a boring and boring day on your cell phone. It is also true that staying up late will make me ugly ... I don't like Lao Zi and him as they are now. ...

What does it mean that a person is too defensive?

A person's defensive awareness shows that he is not safe enough.

A sense of security is a feeling and a kind of psychology; It is the feeling brought by the performance from one side to the other; It is a reassuring, comfortable, reliable and trustworthy behavior.

Whether a sense of security can be generated comes from many factors, both subjective and objective. Here we mainly talk about subjective aspects. To make the other person feel safe, you must first make the other person believe in yourself.

It's not easy to make the other person believe in himself. You must be able to show it in your manners, such as: keep your word, do what you say, and don't promise if you can't do it; Always TAlk to TA, talk about your thoughts, and always greet and care about ta's life.

Don't ignore TA no matter how busy you are, and often give TA some surprises; Don't be too kind to others, talk and do things the same; Willing to get rid of their bad habits for TA.

Living somewhere else is safe inside.

Our insecurity stems from our sense of security from childhood. The elders always tell us what kind of work safety, what kind of male safety and what kind of way of doing things is safe, so we go in these directions and find that it backfires.

In fact, we were wrong from the beginning, focusing on "external" rather than "internal" and focusing on phenomena rather than consciousness. Others can't give you a sense of security, so you must bring some.

The real sense of security can only come from one place, and that is your heart. People with a sense of security may not necessarily possess the most stable resources in society, but they must possess such talents-"I don't care what I have, I don't care what I lack, I'm not afraid of losing, and I don't pursue strong twist." I feel that everything is my own, and it doesn't matter if I am nothing. It's enough to get it, but not afraid to lose it. "