Is there a sentence that hurts you and makes you remember it for the rest of your life?

Life needs not only sunshine, but also self-confidence and peace of mind. The distance between heart and flower lies in appreciation and understanding; The distance between the heart and the world lies in tolerance and awe; The distance between heart and heart lies in understanding and sincerity. Water, which is clear, has no thoughts; People, this kind, do nothing; Heart, pure nature, unintentional. Be a sober person, a kind person and an honest person!

Yes, 17 After the cancer operation, my husband and I had a few words. He growled: I have a lot of women's resources, and any one is better than you! Cancer+depression the next day! Fortunately, I survived! Divorce is impossible, but I swear in my heart that I can't have any feelings for him in my life!

Yes, the former head of the unit in our system told me personally. He said, what do you think you can do? You go back and think about it, and I'll think about it. When he said this, I wanted to die. I didn't expect that I, a graduate student, could do nothing in the eyes of unit leaders. In his eyes, I am a garbage, waste wood and waste!

In 2006, after I graduated from Renmin University, I came to work in Qingdao System. When I first came, the unit leaders attached great importance to me and assigned me to the general department to write materials. This comprehensive department is equivalent to a political research room, which is mainly responsible for writing speeches, speeches, speeches, research reports, government work reports, etc. For the leaders of the city. To tell the truth, this department is the best department in the whole unit, and it is also the department that leaders attach most importance to! Ordinary people can't get in! But I blew a good hand!

As soon as my feet entered the general department, the section chief immediately gave me the run and asked me to recite three ancient poems. I said I studied philosophy, not Chinese or Chinese literature. He said nothing but recited. As a result, I only recited two songs and didn't recite the third one. The section chief said that I lost the face of the National People's Congress and the graduate students of the National People's Congress. In the afternoon, the unit gave me a new computer, and the deputy section chief also said that he didn't know how to exchange computers with the old section chief, so he could use the old one and give the old section chief a new one.

Once on Saturday morning, I didn't have time to go to the office and wanted to play games or watch movies. Before I played, the deputy section chief came and educated me when he saw me. I was educated for about 20 minutes. I saw his neck hurt, so I looked down at the computer and drew a box on the computer desktop with a mouse in my hand. I didn't expect the deputy section chief to break into a furious rage and think that I didn't respect him. He just dropped his glass on the ground and smashed it with a clash! I was so scared that I knelt down and begged for mercy. I bought him a new cup the next day, and it passed. Of course, later, he may think that what he did was wrong, so he invited me to dinner. Actually, I understand that he is doing it for my own good. Hey, anyway, when I first joined the work, I just asked my colleagues something about my work. They always joked about my NPC title, and I was helpless. They will say: people are out, and this is not happening? How did you graduate from National People's Congress?

I wanted to go back to my hometown Linyi at that time, and I couldn't make up my mind. In addition, the working atmosphere and environment in Qingdao at that time were really not very good, so I gave up on myself and stopped working. You don't understand the work of the general department. I really sleep in the morning and write materials all night in the afternoon! Think about it. I'm in a bad mood. Where can I write materials? Of course, my level of writing materials is really average, and I don't like writing materials. I think it's just climbing the grid.

Therefore, at that time, I had a bad reputation in the unit, and my work enthusiasm and initiative were relatively poor. Everyone gives me the impression that they are only on duty. Help the male colleagues in our unit to stay on duty! Thirty days a month, I can be on duty in the duty room for twenty days! Whenever a colleague in the unit has something to do or has to work overtime, he will let me cover for him under the banner of leadership. At that time, I had 10 thousand MMP in my heart But what can I do? Who let me be a stranger? Be bullied!

After working in the general department for more than a year, I was kicked out by the leaders in charge and kicked to the reception department to clean the conference room. Every day, I jump up and down with eight thermos bottles in my hand. Once, a city leader looked at me like this and asked me if I could take it. It's amazing. His secretary at that time said: This is a graduate student of the National People's Congress. The leader said, graduate student of the National People's Congress? It's really blind to do so. When I said this, my face turned red. I'm really ashamed of the National People's Congress, and I can't wait to find a crack in the ground.

The core work of the reception department is reception, making reception plans and running reception routes, rather than cleaning, but the chief of the reception department won't let me touch the core work at all. On one occasion, the leader in charge called and I answered. The leader in charge asked me a few things about reception, but I said I didn't know. The leader in charge said: You are in the reception department, why don't you know anything? I now ask you to make a reception plan. Can you do it? I said no, and the leader in charge hung up. Don't let me contact the core work, where is the detailed reception plan?

I have worked in the reception department for more than a year, so-and-so headquarters outside needs to transfer people from our unit. Sure enough, I was chosen as an idle person. I have been out repairing roads for more than two years. I also want to go back to my original unit, but the leader of the original unit said it was not urgent. Just wait until the road is repaired and come back. In this way, I continued to stay in the headquarters of XXX, although all the people transferred from other units went back a year ago, leaving me alone.

20 1 1 year, I got married. My daughter-in-law is smarter than me and will come to the meeting, saying that it is not the way for me to go on like this and I have to find a way to go back to my original unit. So I went to the leader, which means, then I agreed to go back to my original unit. On the first day I came back, I went to the unit leader to report my work and wanted to ask him to see which department I was assigned to work in. The boss asked me where I wanted to go. I say we go to the examination room. I don't think he responded immediately, so I went on to say that if you don't go to the general department, you can continue to write materials and get up if you fall. The boss didn't say anything but kept smoking. After a few seconds, look at me and say, what do you think you can do? What can you do? You go back and think about it, and I'll think about it.

To tell the truth, I was really surprised and confused when I heard the person in charge of the unit say this, and then I was depressed, sad, sad and sad. I didn't expect that after working in the unit for so many years, I could do nothing in the eyes of the unit leaders! I am still an open graduate student of the National People's Congress! Even if you know your previous problems, you can't do anything in the eyes of leaders. At that time, I vaguely remembered what the deputy section chief said to me in 2006, saying: In our unit, no matter what we do, we must have a skill, even if we can repair computers, we can sing and dance. At least if you have an advantage, the unit will keep you. What the deputy section chief said made me wonder. What do you mean? Do you think I can't write materials, so I have to seek other side roads? Now, when I hear the unit leader say this about me, I know that in the eyes of the unit leaders and colleagues, I am the waste wood in the waste wood, the garbage in the garbage, and the waste in the waste. To put it bluntly, I am a loser.

It was the person in charge of the company who said it, which really hurt me completely. Even if I refuse again, I still have dignity and face. I really remember this sentence all my life, and it is also a shame mark on my life column!

Twenty years ago, I was the mayor of a town. At the end of the year, my superiors sent someone to assess the "party and government team". A team member, a gang member and a series of people who attended the forum made irresponsible remarks about my work status. Leading superior leaders to doubt my work ability and being a man. And asked me to "don't talk"

Be a man, be virtuous, not wicked. The members of this team want others to say what I say. I will never forget it.

My old classmate borrowed money from me to buy a house. Her husband and wife add up the provident fund 1 10,000. But before buying a house, the bank should check your credit information and whether there is a loan. If you are in debt, the bank won't give you a mortgage. You have to get the purchase contract before you can take out the provident fund for down payment.

In order to make up the down payment 1 10,000, the students also tried their best. They have just built a three-story villa in the countryside and haven't paid off their debts. Now they are eager to buy a house in the city.

Perhaps, some people will say that this is a snake swallowing an elephant, which lacks people's hearts. If you have no money in your hand, you still have to engage in these debts and ask for it!

Being close to my classmates, I know that her determination to buy a house this time stems from a sentence from her father-in-law. It was this sentence that made her clear-headed, thoroughly saw the reality and made up her mind to have a house of her own!

The classmate's husband is engaged in technology in the factory. When dealing with machines wholeheartedly, you will only bury yourself in your work and will not look up at the road. In terms of IQ, he is also a powerful talent in the factory.

But when it comes to emotional intelligence, it is completely offline. He can't even cope with normal ordinary communication. Just a little stumble can trap him. It is always the classmates who give him advice and solve many unnecessary troubles for him.

However, colleagues and family members around me are constantly urging: you are a big man, and you can't even be a master. Is your daughter-in-law in charge?

Maybe she talks too much. Her husband felt ashamed and always wanted to win back his dignity in front of her.

That day, the factory randomly selected defective products, and a colleague posted his defective products on her husband in front of several supervisors. However, in that case, her husband doesn't even know how to speak, and he can't even explain himself! Not talking is the default, and the deduction will naturally be deducted from his head.

After returning home, he was unhappy because he felt wronged and sulked at his classmates. After the students learned about this in the factory, they also persisted and scolded their husbands for some time.

Anger. Why doesn't he talk? Why can't you even protect your legitimate rights and interests? Why can't such a small thing be solved?

The more students talk, the angrier they get. Maybe her husband is trying to save face, or he just woke up and quarreled with his classmates.

At this time, grandpa came to the villa they had just built. I also heard them quarreling in the yard. Anyway, the classmate has the final say, but the classmate talks a lot, and his husband, uh-huh, can't say a word for a long time.

As soon as the grandfather entered the door, he kept a straight face and immediately recited to his classmates: "I said that you are fierce if you are less noisy!"

The classmate was still angry and said to grandpa, "You don't know what he did? He made a mess of every little thing! "

Grandpa said, "I don't know what that is! I knew it was you who made that noise! I paid for this house, and I don't want you to live here! "

The student seems to have been poured cold water. Shut up at once. The old man spoke angrily and then left.

Since then, the students have despaired of this family and vowed not to make any plans with her husband. Seeing him demoted and beaten at work, I can't help but stand up for him!

Her husband's family is complicated and it is difficult to integrate. Mother-in-law and aunt belong to the type of majesty and strength, but that strength will only be used against their own family.

Speaking at ordinary times, even if students are careful, they will be taught by their mother-in-law. Family members are not giving you advice, but finding fault with you and finding your sentences wrong. In view of this, they will carry out some criticism and education!

Communication between family members will not make people feel comfortable and relaxed, nor will they feel that their words will help you. On the contrary, they are depressed and reserved.

Mother-in-law and aunt are quarrelsome people, so we must get the upper hand! At any time, you must win and lose! Win as the result-oriented!

To communicate with them, you must always be on high alert, deal with them and be careful what they hold.

Even, you should always prevent what you said to them from reaching your relatives the next day. This kind of family relationship is more tiring than interacting with outsiders!

Students are embarrassed to argue with them and are afraid of others' comments. Always avoid sharp edges, even hide, and try to avoid touching them.

Old classmates have always felt that in this complicated relationship, my father-in-law has remained silent and is a rare good man. However, what my father-in-law said to her in a rage made her completely awake: my father-in-law was not the kind of good person she thought, and he began to muddle along without knowing anything.

In a family, men usually try to protect themselves and look honest and kind, but at the critical moment, their attitude towards others is the last straw to crush people and will bring fatal blows to people!

The students knew that she had misjudged the wrong person and trusted the wrong person. Although my husband is a rare technical talent, it is too difficult to improve his interpersonal skills and emotional intelligence.

I haven't divorced for so many years, but someone told my classmates that although he can't handle things, he is at least kind and never hurts anyone.

This time, this classmate wants to sell iron to buy a house, but she just wants to leave her home, which makes her very angry. If it's just their family, the husband can at least realize his own problems. I can still listen to her opinion a little. If he is still next to that home, under the protection of his family, he will never admit that he has a problem! I always think it's someone else's problem!

Sometimes, words that can hurt you are often not from the mouth of the other party, because you have prepared for the worst. However, the person you want and the person you trust can hurt you the most from the words that hurt you.

Why can't you talk to people?

It is not communication under the premise of mutual respect, and the sense of superiority that one person has nowhere to hide will make another person feel depressed;

A word can easily rise to the moral level and bind people to the point where they can't move. Who dares to talk to you?

Yes, there is. From my husband, he called my son a loser and told me to go to hell. It happened last month. I will remember these words all my life. There will be a chance to return it to him. ...

If you hurt someone, you can't say it. You shouldn't say it. People really hold grudges for life!

At my wedding reception that year, everyone said greetings. The only neighbor named Fan made a very inappropriate remark, which hurt his self-esteem. He is like a joke, but I have hated him all my life. Therefore, when joking, don't talk nonsense about occasions, and pay attention to oral virtue, which is the greatest accomplishment!

When I was in a technical secondary school more than 30 years ago, I had the same personality as the other two boys in my class. After graduation, we often come and go and often take a walk. After marriage, I often come and go, without a trace of recognition.

One of them (let's call it A) has gone into business successively, and the other (let's call it B) has been working in local institutions. Unlike me, A's business is getting bigger and bigger, and its wealth is getting richer and richer.

At the end of 2008, B intends to change rooms. There was a shortfall of 50 thousand when the down payment was made. Open your mouth and borrow it from me. First of all, you can't pay it back for two years. I had a working capital of 100,000 to 200,000 at that time, but my business needed constant pressure. Especially at the end of the year, there are certain discounts on purchases, so we must not miss this opportunity. So I'm embarrassed to tell him: if it's a short-term loan, say three or two months, let alone 50 thousand, it's okay to borrow10.002 billion.

B saw me embarrassed, sighed and said, I'll think of some way! I suddenly remembered A and asked B: Didn't you try to call A? B said with a wry smile: when I called, the first thing I thought of was him, but people said there was no money!

How can he have no money A few days ago, he told me that this year's profit could be millions, and he planned to change an Audi a6!

Swallow these words into your stomach and silently calculate the purchase details at the end of the year. Then he said to B: I will help you solve 30,000, and you can think about 20,000. If there is really no way, I will help you solve it all.

Shortly after the incident, I met A by chance at a dinner party. Halfway through the drink, I don't know who first talked about B's borrowing money. A said to me in a daze: B borrowed money from me, but I didn't. I know you lent it to him later. I think differently from you. My principle is that whoever is useful to me, no matter how much money he borrows from me, I will borrow it. I won't borrow money from people who are useless to me!

As soon as he said this, it made my hair stand on end and broke out in a cold sweat! Are you still good brothers? Too realistic, too snobbish? In his eyes, I must be a useless person, so what's the point of my continuing to associate with him?

From then on, I became a stranger.

My former head teacher, a woman! On the eve of graduation assignment, my girlfriend found her and had considerable contacts. She reassured my girlfriend directly on the issue of being assigned to the provincial capital, and then confided to my girlfriend that Shanbei Wa wanted nothing. What do you want from him? Don't let him get to you! This sentence cleverly separated us. I have not forgotten this sentence for decades. I think I have no choice but to meet her, which is the shame of my life. This is not what teachers should say to students with geographical discrimination. By the way, I studied very well at that time and was a good student in the true sense, but my hometown of northern Shaanxi was really poor at that time! I have met gangsters, thieves and liars in my life, but I feel that she is still the only bad person I really met and will never forgive! Thirty years after graduation, at the class reunion, I bluntly pointed out in the group that I wouldn't go if she went. I can choose not to go this time. Later, my classmates knew that she was not invited, and I haven't seen her since graduation. Of course, I hope she is still alive.

My husband is an online salesman and often works alone until midnight. Sometimes I accompany him, and sometimes I can't stay awake. Thanks to his diligence, we have been living better and better from renting a house to the big house now. Many years ago, my mother used to say, "You are in trouble now, so you should help your brother." My tens of thousands of motorcycles have been driving for a month or two, and I have to go. Before I left, I asked for dozens of gas. I used to give my brother my house, oh! No! It said, "Your house is empty, so be it!"! According to the bank's calculation method, your brother will pay you the minimum down payment, and the rest will be given to you every month according to the bank's calculation. It's better for you to earn this money yourself than the bank. " I almost believed it, thinking it was the only way for my brother to live in the house. I discussed with my husband, and he looked at me meaningfully ... I suddenly realized and refused. When I returned to my mother's house, I was scolded by my mother: "My married daughter has money, so I went home to help her. You want to buy two houses yourself. Can't you see your brother without a house? " ! "I protested loudly:" That's not the money I earned. I always eat idle meals at home. What should I do about it? You trained me well. "Or did you give me a penny dowry? Did you go to work after I got married? Have you ever thought about my feelings when you dig out the money I gave you to buy a big bed for your brother every month? Look at my room. Like an abandoned warehouse. Everything you don't need is piled up in it. My brother's room is like a master bedroom. Are you so eccentric? " Maybe you will think, what does a married daughter need a room for? Well, my parents divorced, and my mother took me to remarry. When I was a child, I stayed in the east and in the west for a few years, but I didn't have nine-year compulsory education in the end. My brother followed my father, became an adult, talked about his girlfriend, took his girlfriend to my mother's side, and lived there ever since. After all, the suites in the city are more decent than those in the countryside! I feel that compared with my brother, my mother depends on me, and I should have a share. [Shit] I'm shallow.

"That's your mother-in-law. It's none of my business to ask your mother-in-law for a big bed. " My mother smiled and shook me with her index finger. I was so angry that I cried and said, "Well, I'll go to my mother-in-law. When you get old, I'll go to your son to support the elderly." I cried all the way back to my city. I also cut off the money I gave every month over the years. My mother was in her forties. ) It was not until a few months later that my second suite was renovated that my heart melted. I called my mother and asked them to come to the new house for the New Year. They made up and continued to give money.

Things have taken a turn for the better. I called my mother and said, "You always told my aunt that I didn't have a good confinement when I was pregnant with my first child, and I was sick. If you are the second, you will take good care of my confinement. Is it true? " "Must take care of you! You have to cure your headache in the second month to be effective ... "Mom said a lot, and I was very happy. I winked at my husband and told him with a little smug eyes. Look! My mother and me. Then I said, "Mom, I'm pregnant". There was a long silence on the other end of the ".............." phone ... I hung up.

I didn't call her until I was going to have a baby. She said my sister-in-law had to go to work and she had to take care of the children. If she can't come, she really must. She can only stay for a few days, with the children. On the phone, I begged, "You said yes ... two children fight together, plus a baby, I need to be quiet. If I give you money, you won't be busy in vain." The other end of the phone refused, and I cried and yelled at her: "Forget it, forget it." I was out of breath, and my husband advised me not to do this for the children, so my mother-in-law came. My brother sent me a message at night, saying that it was my mother's freedom not to come, and I wanted to do my own thing. Why should I yell at my mother? If I don't want such a daughter, I will pay the price in the future, and I won't die if I don't pay. My mother has me, so be careful. I am shocked and sad. I replied: You are right. I have to take care of my own affairs. Please settle thousands of dollars that my mother saw a doctor the day before yesterday! The younger brother said: My mother told me to say so. I have no money.

My heart is cold hum. In recent years, in addition to monthly visits, I have seen thousands of diseases several times, and my brother has not paid a penny. I said this not to expect him to pay back, but to make him feel guilty. I said, "Oh, live the rest of your life!" "

It's been almost two years. In the past two years, my husband was not allowed to mention him in front of me, and I didn't give him any money. The new house I bought for my mother that lives near me has changed from renting to selling. During this period, I lived very calmly and my husband was very kind to me. Looking at the two babies, my husband suggested buying a house in the provincial capital to provide better education for the children. When we arrived in the provincial capital, we approached my aunt. She advised me that she was a pregnant mother in October, so you can't ignore her! My heart melted, and when I asked, I knew that since the last quarrel, my mother and stepfather also parted ways and rented a house with my brother in the small county town of my hometown. My aunt described how bad the house was and said that my mother often asked me if my big house in the provincial capital was decorated. That means you still want to talk to me. I took 5 thousand cash to my aunt and asked her to give it to my mother. Soon my aunt told me that my mother didn't want my money, just wanted me to see her. I was surprised, yes! After all, we are blood relatives. It is estimated that she will regret it after such a long time, and even give enough lessons. After all, I don't care if I have children. Heaven and earth forbid, my conscience can't justify itself.

So I found a time, a family of four, took the middleman and drove away in great fear. Why are you upset? My mother never gave me a good face when I was growing up. I remember the two years when I lived with my stepfather and her. She often scolds me for not dying. Scold me too much. I really killed myself. I tried to kill myself ... Stop it, it's a bit silly [covering your face].

When I met my mother, I called her and she answered. She also took over her granddaughter whom she had never met. There was no storm and she was very calm. She walked into the dark rental house and saw the incense burning in front of Guanyin bodhisattva. There are also four steaming vegetarian dishes on the table. At that moment, I forgave everything. I think my young fate is due to her limited ability. When I married my stepfather, I was criticized and restricted everywhere, which led to her poor emotional management. Breaking up with my stepfather now has also calmed my resentment. The preference for boys over girls is the result of the times. Besides, my brother was awarded to my father, but he came to see her. Let her take care of this recovery surprise carefully! This has been turned over. I hope it will be fine in the future. Everybody's fine.

I began to plan to buy them a two-bedroom apartment in the community, so I persuaded my husband to give them my name and live there as a filial piety. At least you don't have to listen to her complaining that the landlord collects water and electricity charges indiscriminately. As a result, they are too young. Let me know. My brother and wife share a room, and each of the two children has a room. She has a room, at least four rooms. She said a lot of empty talk. I silently looked at the money in my hand, and it was really not enough, so I slowly put it on hold.

One day after dinner, I picked up my mobile phone and saw several voices from her. The first one is "Have you eaten?" I replied, "I ate." I thought I was afraid to borrow money from me. Second, "I really don't want to rent a house or help them with their two children. Otherwise, let X (sister-in-law) and her brother-in-law (my husband)! " I was shocked by her words. Lonely boys and girls stay in one room every day until two or three in the morning? what do you think? Will I agree? What does she want? My head is buzzing, my chest hurts badly, and I am so sad that I can't speak. All my grievances are like floods. Why? Why do I have such a mother? I have been giving. Why does God treat me like that? Why should I live? Why not die? ... I'm completely depressed.

I have the opportunity to ask her in the future, why should I send my 10-year-old child to a strange house thousands of miles away? Why did I cry so much when I came back, or did you give it to me? Why do I study well, but not for me? Why did I bring the thick quilt back to my mother's house and put it on my brother's bed? Why should I continue to cover lasagna? Why do you think I will agree to let my sister-in-law and my husband? My mother answered me "I didn't think so much" in one sentence. Very cool thin expression, I cried my whole body collapsed on the bed, and my heart became very cold.

Another year passed, and I saw her again. She came to see a doctor. In previous years, I accompanied her and contributed money. This time, she told others not to tell me, and they said so anyway. I rushed to the hospital, paid the money, invited me to dinner, and during the dinner, I was familiar with the face of sending grievances, without sadness or joy …

Buddha said that we can only get together by fate, and this fate is to pay off debts and collect debts. I don't know what kind of daughter I am as a mother, but it must be doomed love. I hope we won't meet again in the next life, which is good for everyone! Sometimes I think it's ridiculous to fight for my family, just like a humble dog.

Later, my mother borrowed120,000 from a classmate and made up140,000 to pay a down payment to my brother. She moved in some time ago. A few days ago, my father was born, and outsiders said that my father's family was out, and all the children had houses, which were all very good!

I grinned. ...