Is it important to be well-matched?

Rather than discussing whether it is important or not, let’s talk about what is a good match.

"Being well-matched means that the social status, economic situation, and occupation of both men and women are similar, and they are very suitable for marriage. Otherwise, they will consider the issue of being well-matched. Husbands and wives are at odds, and their children suffer, which has a huge impact."

In the classic definition, it is money, and we often deliberately downplay the meaning of money so that women do not seem to worship money so much. Make yourself look not so poor.

At a small level, being well-matched is about money and family, but at a large level, it is class. People who have not experienced class differences will not know how powerless love is in the face of class.

My ex is a well-educated girl. What’s good about her?

1. Her mother told her not to spend boys’ money. Girls should be independent. When you fall in love, just tell your mother that she will give you money.

2. Dad told her that when looking for a partner, don’t look for someone with a good family background. Dad will treat him badly and treat you badly.

The girl who chatted with her mother every day was a girl with a happy family, but I, who was born in poverty, was not worthy of this girl at that time.

When I was young, I felt that those relationships that broke up after graduation because of reality were not love at all. I regarded money as dirt and would not bend my waist for five buckets of rice. I was noble and love was everything. I felt that there was love. , there is a life of two people.

In fact, they are completely different people from two worlds.

Having dinner cost more than 100. I thought it was a big meal prepared for a date, but it turns out that’s what everyone eats for dinner every day.

When we went shopping together, I didn’t recognize the brands she bought. When I took her to a small market or something, I could feel the other party’s reluctance.

At first, I was still a little confused. I thought how could a girl spend money so much? I also associated this behavior with "prodigal".

Later I discovered that this was their daily life.

Once she fell in love with a coat and tried it on several times, but finally took it off.

I thought it was inappropriate to wear it, but she said to me on the way back:

"That dress cost more than 3,000 yuan. If I bought it without hesitation, would it be wrong?" What does it make you think of me?"

Really...

Did the other party do something wrong? No, you can't say that true love is when a girl follows you every day to eat box lunches and buy street food, right?

She was very kind to me. In order to take care of my face, she would secretly slip money to me under the table every time she paid. When I paid, I felt ugly.

But with this kind of contradiction, gradually, we started to eat, drink and have more fun, and spent three months’ money in one month. I felt ashamed and said, I will always pay you back in the future. She cried, yes. I said it turns out you never wanted to be with me for the rest of your life.

I have thought about it, but I am poor.

Later on, we still couldn’t be together after all. Indeed, we were not a good match. There was a huge gap between the families of laid-off workers and the families of state-owned enterprise executives.

A beautiful and happy life is based on a certain material foundation. I don’t blame her, I only blame myself for meeting the person I want to protect the most when I have nothing at all.

Poverty, no love.

Love must be a perfect match, and the three views between two people must be consistent.

I want to say to boys, don’t fall in love with rich girls easily.

I want to say to girls, don’t fall in love with a poor boy easily.

The so-called "matching", the material aspect is only the foundation. With this foundation, we can talk about the three views.