Chatting: Men only listen to women.

Communication is the most effective and convenient way to get along with people. A good communication can not only make each other know each other better, but also solve various problems between them. Therefore, it is very important for men and women to learn to communicate.

But most people don't pay attention to communication, and what they say doesn't go through brain thinking, all by their own temper. Such ineffective communication will only deepen the misunderstanding between men and women and make them go further and further. So how to establish good communication? Have you achieved the communication rules of smart women?

First of all, say "we" instead of "I" or "you"

When two people are together, they have changed from two separate individuals to a whole. If we want to make this relationship stronger, we must constantly strengthen the overall existence in the process of communication. Therefore, when talking to each other, get used to using "we" instead of "I" or "you".

For example, when encountering problems, don't pass the buck. Keeping your mouth shut means "this is your business" Learn to stand with each other and tell him "this is our business, you should ...", so that men can do something willingly and deepen the cohesion between you.

Second, express your inner demands directly after coquetry.

A clever woman must know how to show weakness to men in her feelings. Because, in this way, the sense of existence of men can be highlighted. In fact, in feelings, what a woman wants is nothing more than a man who can shelter herself from the wind and rain, but if you stand in front of everything, how can a man shelter you from the wind and rain?

Therefore, in the process of communication, women should learn to show weakness to men appropriately. When you want a man to realize a wish for you, you might as well coquetry with him first, and then directly express your inner demands when he is gentle with you. This is far more effective than ordering him or making a scene with him, and it doesn't hurt feelings.

Third, praise first and then criticize.

If there is a problem, you should point it out. This is the duty of a good partner. But the way many women deal with this matter is to scold men indiscriminately, which is worthless. This kind of communication will only make two people drift away and look at each other unhappily.

In fact, when you criticize men, you should recall the teacher's evaluation of students when you were a child. Praise first and then criticize. Only in this way can it be more easily accepted by others and truly realize the value of communication.

Four, seven points attitude, three points content

In the process of communication between men and women, many people constantly emphasize the content and remind each other what to do over and over again. However, in good communication, attitude is more important than content. The tone and expression of speech are important prerequisites for effective communication.

Therefore, in the process of communicating with men, women should not condescend to accuse or complain in disgust. Communicate well, learn to manage your emotions, and express your thoughts with a smile, so that men can listen and listen!