Social interaction and outlook on life

? Once, I found a few classmates and asked them about their views on social interaction. The first classmate said: "Social networking allows you to make more friends and see more of the world." The second classmate said: "Social networking is when everyone gets together to smoke and drink." The third classmate said: "Social networking is Give someone a pack of cigarettes, and then just chat with them."

When I heard these three answers, I suddenly discovered that these three people have different views on social interaction. Therefore, I am thinking about how a person views social interaction and how he will socialize.

? The definition of "social interaction" in the encyclopedia is: "Social interaction refers to the interaction between several classmates under certain psychological activities and spiritual communication." Moreover, social interaction is very important to individuals. It is a necessary condition for the emergence, deepening and development of understanding. In this way, the most basic role of social networking for individuals is to allow them to see more of the world, enrich their life experience, and further promote their ideological maturity.

? Therefore, based on this condition, the scope of people's "friendship" is uncertain. Some people only make friends with noble people, some people only make friends with lay people, and some people make friends with both noble people and lay people. Seeing this, it goes without saying that what is the scope of people's "friendship", then what kind of impact does this circle bring to him.

? There is a Chinese proverb, "Birds of a feather flock together, and people flock together." This sentence applies to the first two situations, because these people do not have strong social skills, and they can only find those who share the same goals. , people with similar temperaments accompany them for a period of time. The so-called "close to vermilion is red, close to ink is black" also applies to the first two situations. Because this person who wants to socialize has something to pursue, that is, he socializes with a purpose. If this person wants to improve himself and see more and better things, then he will "make friends" with noble people. On the contrary, this person is willing to be mediocre, or he wants to see the world of the common people, and he wants to see those realistic bones, then he will "make friends" with the common people. Then, these two different social interactions will bring about two different perspectives to a certain extent.

? Therefore, social interaction can affect a person's outlook on life to a certain extent.

? Similarly, this conclusion can also be applied to the third situation I just mentioned, that is, the scope of this person's "friends" includes both nobles and lay people, and the circle is very wide. I quoted the definition from the encyclopedia in the previous article, that is, "social interaction refers to the interaction between several students under certain psychological activities and spiritual communication." The "spiritual communication" here first requires verbal communication. , that is to say, social communication must involve language communication. Only through verbal communication can spiritual communication be promoted. What a noble person tells you is basically the noble person’s experience and values; on the contrary, what a layman tells you is basically a layman’s experience and layman’s values. So these values ??are more or less instilled in your mind. Therefore, those who have a wide circle of people have rich social experience compared to other people. What about three views? That varies from person to person.

? Seeing this, I believe some readers are wondering: "Since this person has a wide circle and has such rich social experience, then this person should have a very rich outlook on life. Why? Does it vary from person to person? "In the previous article, I once said that social interaction can affect a person's outlook on life to a certain extent. Here, I need everyone to grasp two key words, one is "to a certain extent" and the other is "influence". Let’s not talk about “to a certain extent” now. Let’s talk about “influence” first. There are two situations of "influencing a person's three views". One is that the person has no three views, and the other is that the person's original three views have changed due to the influence of the social environment. Both situations occur through the same source: indoctrination. Instilling three views into a person who has no three views is as easy as pouring liquids of different colors into an empty basin, because the color of the liquid will not change after being poured into the basin.

Instilling new three views into a person who has three views is like pouring a new and different kind of liquid into a basin filled with liquid. The color of the liquid will change greatly or slightly after it is poured in.

? We can do an experiment: pour different liquids into two identical basins, one is tap water, the other is ink, and then pour into both basins except white and For liquids of colors other than black, such as red, you will find a huge color difference in the basin filled with tap water, but not in the basin filled with ink. Then, take the same basin and pour liquids of colors other than white, black and red, such as blue, and then similarly pour red liquid into it. At this time, you will find that the basin will also There is a color difference change, and the color difference change is larger than that in the basin filled with tap water, and smaller than that in the basin filled with ink.

? So, why do these three different color differences occur? You will find that boiled water, blue liquid and ink have different color depths, which will cause different color changes in the corresponding three basins.

? In real life, a student who studies in a good school does not wear makeup, dress up, or buy famous brands, because that school has strict rules and regulations, and the teachers in that school After many ideological educations in this area, this student gradually felt that there was no need to do this. She felt that only plain makeup was the most beautiful, and people should be frugal. But when this student went to a school that was not close to her, she gradually became extravagant, started wearing heavy makeup, dressing up exquisitely, and buying famous brands. Gradually, she became anxious about her appearance. why is that? Needless to say, it must have been influenced by the environment of that inferior school. That school did not have strict rules and regulations, and the teachers did not strengthen ideological education in this area. The students were all well-dressed. Gradually, that school The students’ outlook changed accordingly.

? Then please think about it, where does “appearance anxiety” come from? "Appearance anxiety" first comes from the comparison of appearance between oneself and others, and then the germination of inner desires, because girls all have the nature to love beauty, and, precisely because girls have the nature to love beauty, they will Showing one's beauty in front of others gradually brings a certain degree of inferiority to others. This inferiority is the worry that one will "fall behind" and the worry that one will be disgraced because of "not fitting in". The low self-esteem of being "abandoned". As a result, her outlook on life will change.

? Therefore, we can draw a conclusion from this case: the reason why her three views were changed was because she was afraid of loneliness. The reason why she is afraid of loneliness is because her inner world is not rich enough.

? Just like the example I gave in the previous article of pouring liquid into a basin, the reason why three different color changes occurred after pouring the liquid is because the original colors in the three basins Liquids come in different shades of color. The lighter the color. The greater the change in color difference after pouring liquid, the darker the color, and the smaller the change in color difference after pouring liquid. The color depth of this original liquid can be compared to the richness of a person's inner world. A person with a rich inner world will not easily change his outlook on social life because of fear of loneliness. On the contrary, he may put himself in a lonely environment, always keep a certain distance from others, and always insist on own correct views. The correct three views can also be obtained by putting yourself in a lonely environment and thinking rationally about a matter.

? The reason why a person can have the correct outlook on life in a lonely environment is because he will not be affected by the complex interpersonal relationships in a social environment, so that he can get rich inner peace.

? So, if you want to have the correct outlook on life in a lonely environment, in addition to thinking rationally about one thing, more importantly, you also need to read more.

As the saying goes, "There is a golden house in a book." A good book often contains valuable spiritual wealth. The more you absorb, the broader your mind will be, which will promote your rational thinking about one thing. Gradually, you will no longer be afraid of loneliness, but will enjoy it more. You will find ways to make your circle more and more mature. Become cleaner and cleaner, so that your heart will not become muddy due to social interaction.

? Bernardine de St. Pierre once said: "Poor food is a kind of health, poor social interaction is a kind of tranquility, and temperate interaction with others will make our soul... Calm. "Although social interaction can allow us to see the world and open our horizons, we should not let uncontrolled social interaction pollute our minds and destroy our correct outlook because of the fear of loneliness.