I always like to have a bad temper in relationships. Are you being arrogant or not taking the relationship seriously?

There are many modes of getting along in relationships, and some are very enviable and harmonious modes. Two people can tolerate and understand each other, and they can discuss and discuss things when they encounter them, and they will not settle over trivial matters. The trivial matters become a big fuss. But maybe we encounter more disharmonious patterns in our lives. For example, we always see some little princesses who like to have a bad temper, and we may occasionally encounter such little princes. I think most of them are not unreasonable. Pay attention to this relationship, and be more proud of it. Because many times you will find that at the beginning of a relationship between two people, the little princess or prince is not so playful. In the beginning, the two people look very pleasing to each other and get along relatively harmoniously. But when the relationship between two people reaches a certain stage, this situation will happen, and it will become more and more frequent.

In fact, this comes down to the issue of security. In a relationship or in love, both people need a sense of security, especially the sense of security that the person they love the most can give them. In the process of love, girls in particular are more likely to feel insecure. This may be related to the lack of love from their father when a girl is growing up, so she will constantly try to see if the boy really loves her. Because there may have been successful experiences before. For example, when girls are angry or have a bad temper, boys will coax them and try their best to please them. In other words, these behaviors make girls mistakenly think that this is the boy’s love for her, so When she doesn't feel safe, or wants to know if a boy still loves her, she will use this method of showing off her temper to test the boy. If the boy coaxes or pleases her, it means that he still loves her, and vice versa. You will think that the boy no longer loves you.

The same is true for boys. Some boys will also be in such a low self-esteem or insecure position in certain relationships, and will also use this kind of petty temper to test whether girls still love them. He may want to give himself a sense of security in this way, but boys will do this less often. Boys may be more chauvinistic or overly suspicious. Most of them will be some little princesses who will do this. way to test.

Sometimes there is a difference in the way of thinking between boys and girls, so it is difficult for boys to understand girls’ thoughts. In fact, if you find that your lover starts to have a bad temper again, you must understand that she is You are in a state of lack of confidence, you just want some sense of security, and you just want to prove that you still love her. At this time, don’t pay too much attention to the problem itself. Just tell her that you love her, hug her, and let her know that you still love her. That's it, they may not be worrying about the problem itself.