Those parents who cheat their children

In the entertainment industry, there are three major "vampire" parents.

They are Anita Mui’s mother, Angela Chang’s mother, and Mao Xiaotong’s father.

Anita Mui’s father died young, and her mother relied on working in a song and dance troupe. At the age of 4, Anita Mui wore heavy stage makeup and performed on stage, becoming a “tool” for her mother to make money.

In 1982, after 19-year-old Anita Mui became famous overnight, Anita Mui’s mother exploited her for various reasons. Not only did she have to pay off her mother’s huge gambling debt, but she also had to support her brother Mei Qiming’s family.

They are like an abyss that can never be filled.

The saddest thing is that Anita Mui’s mother still won’t let her go after so many years after her death.

She felt that the monthly alimony of 200,000 yuan was not enough, so she filed a lawsuit to fight for the inheritance of nearly 100 million yuan left by her daughter, demanding a one-time payment. In fact, it is just to use it to supplement my son.

What’s even more terrifying is that she actually took out Anita Mui’s intimate clothes and put them up for auction, just for money!

As for Angela Chang, she also started working at a young age. Later, after she became famous, when she was seriously ill and went abroad for treatment, her mother took away all her money.

When her career was at its best, her divorced parents and uncle came together to ask for money, and the media framed her for losing weight not long after the surgery, and for drinking and taking drugs.

Because of her parents, her career plummeted and she was left in limbo.

Mao Xiaotong’s father is even more terrifying.

He once went on a show to publicly accuse his daughter of having a net worth of hundreds of millions, but refused to see or support him!

I originally thought it was a story about a cruel daughter pitying her father, but after reading it, I just felt that he deserved it.

Mao Xiaotong's parents separated when she was 10 months old and divorced when she was one and a half years old. She and her mother paid 50 yuan a month for living expenses, but her father never took care of her.

But in his explanation, his daughter became famous and achieved what she is today because of his connections and help. However, her daughter is a white-eyed wolf and does not recognize herself when she is successful.

But later, under questioning from his lawyer, he slapped himself in the face.

It turned out that he had a history of drug abuse and drug involvement for nearly ten years.

When he was supposed to be helping his daughter build relationships and find opportunities to film, he was actually serving his sentence in prison.

Everything is a lie.

Why does he make up these stories? It’s very simple, it’s 50 million!

Because it is easy for you celebrities to make money, and I am your father, so you gave me this 50 million, and we will never have any contact with each other!

But privately, the "demand" he sent to the program director was definitely more than that.

Request to change back to original name and maintain stable contact. But I think the most important thing is the second half. Demanding the same material life as his ex-wife. He wants to live in a villa when she lives in it, and he wants to drive a Hummer when she drives one!

So, it’s not 50 million at all, but a long-term big fish, slowly asking for money.

Looking at it just feels ridiculous.

I never heard a trace of his love for his daughter from his illogical narrative. I only saw a hideous and ugly face looking for money.

But in fact, you will find that they are all the same, this type of people are all the same.

They have no conscience.

They only scold their children for being unfilial, but never reflect on whether they have failed in their duties.

They talk all about love, dedication, dedication, and family affection, but in fact, what they want is cold money, money, money.

They also failed.

Because I am approaching my old age and have accomplished nothing, conscience and face have become unimportant in the face of survival. As long as I can have money, what does cheating mean?

Mao Xiaotong’s father always used the quality of his sperm to achieve today’s daughter to show how awesome he is. I really felt disgusted, and then I thought, he may be the parent of the original family who is disgusting* **The same mentality.

They feel that they have given their children life. No matter what they do or do not do in the future, their children should be grateful to them and shed tears of gratitude.

They will never think about how much harm they have caused to their children.

They only wait for their children to say "thank you" to them, but they never realize that they should say sorry to their children?

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At the end of last year, there was a piece of news that impressed me deeply.

Ms. Wang from Zhejiang has three sons. When her youngest son was 1 year old, she gave her away because of the birth of a child.

More than thirty years have passed, and the two families have little contact and do not disturb each other. The adoptive father and mother treat the child very well, and Ms. Wang has never done anything to raise him.

I think in the hearts of children, they may not even know that Ms. Wang exists.

But who knew that the 70-year-old Ms. Wang suddenly contacted her youngest son. The reason behind it was extremely absurd.

At the age of 70, she suffered from cerebral embolism and had difficulty moving. Her husband passed away and she still owed a lot of debt. Her eldest son and second son were ineffective, and her life was so tight that she couldn't even support herself, let alone give money to her. She cured the disease.

And her younger son was well educated by his adoptive parents. I graduated from college and have a good job. My annual salary now exceeds 550,000 yuan.

She had no money, so she thought of her youngest son, hoping that her wealthy son could support her.

This incident sparked heated discussions at the time.

Because her youngest son has been unwilling to answer the phone and seems unwilling to help the mother.

This caused him to be morally kidnapped by the entire Internet. I saw too many people shouting: cold-blooded, ruthless, conscience eaten by dogs...

< p>The same goes for the three celebrity examples above.

Anita Mui, Angela Chang, and Mao Xiaotong have all suffered the same curse.

The same is true in reality.

I once wrote about a mother who abused her daughter for 10 years, then abandoned her, and then found her again 20 years later and asked her daughter to support her.

At that time, everyone around her was trying to persuade her: After all, she is your mother, why are you so cruel!

Is this the saddest thing?

I think perhaps the most difficult thing for children of your original family is that the person who caused you harm is your parents in your original family. You want to escape, but you can't or cannot escape under the pressure of ethics, morality, and family affection.

Everyone is forcing you to forgive.

This is the happy reunion that everyone wants to see, but I just want to sigh that there are really many Holy Mothers in this world.

It’s strange that when things happen to me, I am more aggressive than anyone else, but when things happen to others, I always like to be generous to others to show how kind and moral I am.

You are not him. You have no idea how much it hurts him, so why should you forgive him?

Of course they can choose to forgive.

But that has to be their own choice, no one can force them.

Just like Angela Chang once said: "No matter what, they are my parents, and family will always be family."

Just like my friend: She finally resorted to According to the law, you should pay the minimum alimony every month, then stay away from each other until death, and never care what others say.

That is their choice, no outsider has the right to say anything.

Forgiveness is reconciliation with oneself. Forgiveness to unscrupulous parents does not prove that the parents' behavior is right.

Not forgiving is not cold-blooded, but the parents deserve it!

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Should parents support children who do not support them?

This topic has become a hot search on Weibo.

After reading the comments below, the debate is fierce.

Actually, in my opinion, there is not much point in debating this topic.

Because there may be only one result: the law stipulates the obligation to support, and even if you don’t want to, you still have to pay monthly alimony.

This may be regarded as a helpless "moral kidnapping".

But in the end, this is a tragedy for both parties.

Japanese writer Kotaro Isaka once said: "When I think about being a parent without taking an exam, I feel really terrible."

This sentence really makes sense when you think about it. Right.

In today’s society, all walks of life and any field have entry thresholds and qualifications.

But parents do not need to review their character, ability, or education. There is no entry threshold and no qualification certificate. As long as they have the ability to have children, they can have children and become parents.

Too many parents use "I gave you life" as a reason to kidnap their children. But in fact, ask yourself, when you have sex, are you really giving birth to children with love, or are you just doing it for the sake of sex? Are you happy?

I don’t think parents who truly love their children and want them will be indifferent or irresponsible. Those parents who can be indifferent to their children like strangers, how can they say anything about “pay” and “repay”? ?

I just hope that everyone can have a little conscience.

If you don’t love them, just remember to wear a condom. A loveless family is not a gift for a child, but a misfortune.

Since you choose to give birth, you must take some responsibility.

I hope everyone can understand:

Love is mutual, and support is a positive and conscious reward that excellent parents receive from their children.

Be born without nurturing, be born without education...

I'm sorry, you should focus on yourself, just let the child go!

Should parents support children who are born without raising them?