What is the most important thing between lovers?

The most important thing between lovers is equality and respect.

Be equal to each other, love each other, respect each other, and be grateful to each other. This is what lovers should be like. And most importantly: equality. No matter how romantic and sweet it is, it still needs a foundation.

I think the best state between lovers should be when both parties are in a comfortable, natural and relaxed state, rather than just one party giving blindly and carefully supporting the other. Without this kind of foundation, it is really impossible to create the imagined love just by relying on one-sided efforts, just like Jia Nailiang and Li Xiaolu.

Both parties appreciate each other, love each other, respect each other, are grateful to have each other, and work together to overcome difficulties. This is what a beautiful and healthy love should be like.

Take yourself as an example. Thinking from someone else’s perspective can also be said to be respect. Many of my choices are actually unfair to her, but she can put herself in my shoes and respect my choices. Likewise, I will do something for her from her perspective. This is a virtuous circle, and later it becomes a very unique tacit understanding that often requires no explanation.

Let’s just say that when I decided to work as a civil servant in another place, she was actually very resistant to my leaving. She came back from the north, and just as her work was picking up momentum, I had to leave again, which was a very cruel test for her.

For many reasons, it was probably the best solution for me to work as a civil servant in a different place at the time. After thinking about it for a long time, she still felt that she should let me go. After two years of reunion, we were separated again. . Later, I got tired of the intrigue at work, so I resigned and went home.

She puts herself in my shoes and I think about her difficulties. As long as the family of three is together, I can do everything from grocery shopping, washing vegetables, cooking, and washing dishes after get off work. In the past few years since I quit my job, she must have forgotten the process of cooking. Now her parents live with us and help with the children, and I have no use for them most of the time.

Good love does not mean that when you meet someone, you work hard to get closer to him, change yourself, and become what he likes; it means that you have independent souls and you work hard to live your life. He liked that look, and he happened to like that look too.

We warm each other because of love, and we are also independent of each other because of love. In the end, I hope we all have our own mountains, rivers, lakes and seas, and we can be content in the kitchen and love of two people. I hope your love will be long. It's long, but disappointment is short; spring is long, but cold nights are short; although he is not you, he understands you best.

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