Why do more and more people dislike kinship?

People dislike relatives less and less. Mainly because relatives don't treat themselves as outsiders.

Relatives, after all, are outsiders, not to mention parents, brothers and sisters. That family has its own family, and so do you.

But in China, the situation is that, let alone parents, brothers and sisters, they are relatives of seven aunts and eight aunts, and they don't treat themselves as outsiders at all.

First, discuss all kinds of things about you and your family unscrupulously and come up with all kinds of bad ideas, but when it comes to substantive help, everyone will pass the buck.

It's not that they don't help, but in essence, most relatives, that is, living, are more than self-sufficient and less helpful. But he is good at being a teacher and adding chaos to his speech and actions.

Second, a family has a problem, especially compensation for work-related injuries and deaths. Many relatives came, regardless of the rest of the family. Every relative wants to share some money.

I think there are too many such things in news reports. On second thought, in reality, there are quite a few. Suddenly I feel that my loved ones are so hateful.

Third, relatives entered the pit of online financial management or pyramid schemes and cheated their relatives. Good things, unexpected relatives, and bad things all lied to relatives.

In the long run, relatives will become hehe. Also, my relatives always say that I am doing it for your own good. You have your own spouse, children and parents. You are not good to them, but good to your relatives.

At first glance, it is the Lord's good words and bad ideas.

Relatives, you should know your position. You are a relative and an outsider. People's families need to make their own decisions, so don't interfere and make trouble.

Because the poor are not in the city, the rich have distant relatives in the mountains. Most relatives with money look down on relatives without money, and relatives without money don't want to see their ugly faces. Everyone is busy with work and life. So I feel that more and more people don't visit their relatives.

Indeed, I take myself as an example. Three aunts, two are still alive, and the children are all forty or fifty years old. One is in menstrual period, provincial capital, five children, three uncles, and there are two left, and one is nearly eighty years old, and the child is in our county.

It can be said that I don't spend much time with Uncle menstruation and menstruating children. Especially those who work in other places and don't go back once every few years, even if they go back, they rarely move around, mainly for a short time, so it is difficult for any family to move around. At the same time, after a long time, the two have no contact, and their feelings are really getting rusty. Even if they move around, there is nothing to say, including my two brothers and a younger brother who work in the county, and they don't move around with these cousins very much, unless there is something important at home, or a wedding.

1, time is long, and family ties have faded. There, in addition to their brothers and sisters, menstruation, menstruation, uncle this layer of relatives, because everyone is busy working, busy making money, busy socializing, natural contact is less, feelings will inevitably fade.

2. Some parents are absent, they walk less, and their feelings are weak. Among my three aunts, my eldest aunt has been gone for more than 30 years, my second aunt is 80 years old, my third aunt is gone, my second uncle is gone, the older generation is gone, and the next generation has little contact. Every time I go back, I hardly walk around, and everyone doesn't get together. Feelings will inevitably fade, and it is meaningful for relatives to move around, especially under the leadership of the older generation.

The whole society seems to deny relatives. Sometimes people even think that relatives sometimes dig holes for you, but not as good as friends. At present, the whole social form does not pay much attention to kinship, natural feelings fade, and there is not much communication.

4, not in one place, not often walking. Take me for example, I am thousands of kilometers away from home, and some other cousins are working in their hometown or outside. There is less contact and communication, even if I go back, I don't know what to say.

5, their living environment is different, and they are inevitably unfamiliar. If some people have been working outside and their lives are not satisfactory, and some people have been admitted to universities, their working life has improved, and the gap between the two levels has become wider and wider, resulting in less and less communication between the two sides. For example, my younger brother's younger son was my childhood. They had a good relationship when they were young, but when they grew up, they parted ways and took different roads, and the difference became bigger and bigger. Even if you think it's nothing, he consciously set obstacles and didn't want to follow.

6. Some contradictions between relatives lead to people on both sides not coming and going. Many relatives are always in trouble, like enemies. My uncle's family and my second aunt's family have not seen each other for more than 20 years. So, relatives, can you go?

7. People between relatives are snobbish, which leads to heartbreak and less contact. Many relatives sincerely say that there is something wrong with being a man, too philistine and too materialistic. Whoever has money and status will be good to him, and whoever doesn't will be alienated. So relatives, don't let it be.

8. After all, there is another layer. Anyway, cousins, even if they don't go back all the year round, will walk around and be kind. In addition to being closer (to the same village), there is also the fact that they are a nation after all, in a big family, and their uncle menstruation is separated from menstruation by a layer, so naturally they are not as close as their father's brother's children, and they have a surname and a cousin under their grandfather.

Why do you feel that more and more people don't visit their relatives?

Fingertips are rural people. Answer this question from the perspective of the countryside, hoping to inspire everyone. It should be said that relatives in rural areas move frequently, especially when the family was busy with farming. Weddings and funerals, large and small, are opportunities for relatives to move around. Like the next Spring Festival, it is inevitable to pay a New Year call. Although sometimes I can't arrange it, it's just a symbolic walk, but I will still go. However, some relatives will not leave if they walk. At ordinary times, everything big and small came, gradually turned into red and white things, and finally nothing came. What happened?

There is an old saying in the countryside called "one generation, three generations, four generations". Relatives move around, and the closer they get, the more frequent they move around. Of course, it does not rule out that blood relatives are not as good as blood relatives. Fingertip's grandfather died of illness a few years ago, and his relatives who used to walk occasionally gradually stopped walking because of the long distance. Although it seems a bit unreasonable, I hope to give it to him more times to reduce the burden of various human feelings in rural areas. Every generation has its own feelings, and the feelings of the previous generation may not be carried over to the next generation. After all, the environment has changed

Due to the decrease of land in the village where Fingertip is located, most of the cultivated land is flooded by the reservoir, and each household can only get three or two acres of land. It is good for a few families to maintain enough food with the harvest of the land. A long time ago, all the people in the village thought about how to find their own way, go out to work, do some business and help people drive vans. After years of hard work, many families in the village have accumulated good income. Some people may ask, what does this have to do with relatives not walking? Do you look down on poor relatives if you have money? Actually, it's really not like this. The key point is that many people have settled in the city, and fewer old people in the village have come back after their death. Because of the distance, they naturally don't move around so frequently, and gradually alienate themselves, maintaining the name of a relative.

There is another situation, no matter where there are people, there will be contradictions, even the closest people are no exception. Sometimes, with big and small contradictions, the feelings between relatives are diluted. After alienation, any action can be associated with human indifference. It's better to stay together and not talk before the knot is finished than to walk around and get cold reception. Sometimes, even if you meet other relatives, you are full of disgust. Do you think such relatives can walk around freely?

In fact, this situation is everywhere, but it is definitely not a common phenomenon. Some relatives are far away, relatives are far away, and the contradiction is deep. These relationships are gradually alienated, so they don't seem to move around much. There is another situation that people can see. Some families have indeed left their hometown, and the key relatives at home are getting farther and farther away, making people seem to be motionless. However, sometimes it is obligatory to have something at home. This may be China's favor. What do you think of this? Welcome to leave a message for discussion.

In today's society, why is the human touch getting weaker and weaker? This is not an accident, but a sign of social progress. Careful study has its deep-seated reasons.

First, ideological understanding. Due to the influence of cultural quality, occupation, living environment and other reasons, people's ideological consciousness is high or low, and their understanding of the development and changes of things is therefore very different. The human touch has also been seriously affected.

Second, environmental changes. Family conditions are the main cause of environmental changes. Thirty or forty years ago, those with good family conditions mainly studied, and then went to work after studying hard. Or with the help of superior family conditions, go out and start a business as a boss. Those with poor family conditions naturally study less and make a living by farming and odd jobs. With the development of society, migrant workers are called migrant workers. With the change of environment and the gap of ideological understanding, the human touch naturally faded.

Third, the status difference. The view of status difference is still caused by the influence of ideological understanding and environmental changes. You have a job, he doesn't have a job, you work, he doesn't, you work well and he doesn't work well, which seriously affects people's understanding. Even primary school students, junior high school students, senior high school students and even individuals with jobs are the same.

Fourth, obey the law. With the implementation of the rule of law, social morality, the construction of an honest society and the blacklist system, people's awareness of obeying laws and regulations, promoting morality, opposing corruption and extravagance and waste has been significantly enhanced. The original ways of communication, such as indiscriminate banquets, class reunions and mutual invitations, have been basically banned, and the impact on human feelings is self-evident.

Verb (abbreviation for verb) poverty and wealth. It seems that there is always a gap between the rich and the poor, and the phenomenon of not walking and not communicating is becoming more and more serious. Some people are not even invited by each other.

The intransitive verb environmental sanitation. The quality of environmental sanitation is another important reason that affects the human touch. Sometimes it's a little unclear, unclear. You talk about hygiene, but he doesn't. It's that he doesn't walk around and communicate with your family. You say, how can this human touch remain unchanged?

In short, this is an inevitable product of social development and a transitional product. With the realization of the goal of "two hundred years" and the realization of the Chinese dream of the great rejuvenation of the Chinese nation, the harmonious society is becoming more and more harmonious, the honest society is becoming more and more honest, and the human touch will become stronger and stronger.

I wonder if you have such relatives.

Today I will talk to you about the real situation of my family.

The so-called relatives now are not the relatives we used to know. Now relatives usually go to Sanbaotang for nothing. As long as they come to the door, they will be responsive!

Take my home as an example. Last year, my father fell from the sky and broke his calf. First, he was sent to our town hospital. At that time, my aunt lived in the family hospital of the town hospital. We contacted them first. My uncle is driving an ambulance in the hospital!

At that time, my father had just broken a bone, but he didn't know the specific situation. He wants to make a movie first and see what happens. The final diagnosis is that he has multiple fractures of his calf and needs surgery! My mother and I want to go to the city hospital to do it. The medical level of the town hospital is certainly not as good as that of the big hospital, but my aunt's family just doesn't agree, saying that we will invite specialized experts to do surgery here, so that we can rest assured!

Then we dragged there for two days, and my dad screamed in pain every day, and his legs were swollen! We can't afford to delay! I just want my uncle to take us to the city hospital, but I don't want to. Let's spend it here!

My mother and I thought we couldn't count on them, so we called an ambulance and went to the city hospital early in the morning! Then my aunt called us and scolded us, and left without saying anything. I am really speechless.

When I arrived at the city hospital, the doctor saw how it was so swollen. I said the fracture has been going on for several days. The doctor scolded me and said why I didn't have surgery the first time. Now he can't operate because of the swelling, so he can only reduce the swelling first. When can he operate? I hated it at that time, with my aunt's family, why did you drag us! Delayed the best time!

My dad endured it for 20 days before the swelling went down. 20 days, how hard these 20 days are!

After the operation, menstruation's family never came to see my dad again! I'm really touched!

Before my aunt's child went to college, we gave him 5000 yuan, and his second child went to school to buy a computer, so we gave him 2000 yuan. Later, I was admitted to the university, and his family didn't give me a penny and never came once!

My mother and I thought about using the money for emergency, but my father disagreed, saying that the money was well spent. Alas! This is a brother's despair of his sister!

Up to now, a year has passed, and my father has been walking in the fields. They didn't come to have a look or make a phone call. This is called relative!

When I ask you something, I look like a person. When I don't need you, you are a ghost!

With the development of today's society, people's life pressure is gradually increasing, and the gap between the rich and the poor is also widening. Now, unlike before, people can walk around when they are resting, and their relatives are getting closer and closer. Now on the one hand, being far from the starting line is also a more important factor. But most immediate family members still have to walk around!

As the saying goes, a distant relative is not as good as a close neighbor. That's true. Some relatives are simply unreasonable. You treat them well a hundred times, but they don't appreciate it. They think that the word relative is tied to you and is rude to you in words and deeds. It seems that you should reprimand him If you treat him badly once, he won't have anything to do with you today, and he will break up with you tomorrow. Anyway, there are many things that make people very upset.

It is normal. There's no need to force it. If you like it, you will associate more, but if you don't like it, you will associate less. There is not a saying: simple life, with people who get along well.

According to my years of observation, who doesn't like kinship? People with more money, people with some status or energy. Of course, not all these people are born like relatives. For example, when I just retired to work in a property management company, a colleague, his wife's cousin, took on some responsibilities here, so he moved his cousin's house here and arranged jobs for three cousins.

However, some people don't like communication by nature, especially for fear that some poor relatives will get up in the autumn wind and ask for work, so they don't like to communicate with relatives and friends.

There are also arrogant and arrogant people, or those who are used to being small leaders and small bosses. When dealing with relatives and friends, everyone knows the root of the matter. When they meet outspoken relatives and friends, they will expose their previous "disgraceful things", which will damage the image of the leader, so they don't want to have more contact with relatives.

In fact, Lao Li wanted to tell the subject that in the last three generations, everyone was an old farmer. No matter how rich the big boss is, he was naked when he was young. (Laughter) People build fences for themselves. If you go to the bathhouse to take a bath in winter, you will find that there is no distinction between rich and poor. (Laughing again)

Finally, I want to say that some people don't like family ties, and some people like family ties, which is very good and normal.

I think people nowadays don't like family ties for two reasons. First, I didn't have a mobile phone before, so I need to come to my house if I have something to do. After coming to my home, my family will give me delicious hospitality. At that time, the economy was very average, and the gap between you and me was not obvious. My life is not rich. I like to eat delicious food, and I am close to you. Second, now everyone has a mobile phone, so you can call if you need anything. In some books, I see you in the New Year, while in others, I see you every few years. Nowadays, people are money-centered, busy with work and money transfer, and their economic income will be high or low. Rich people, awesome people, people without money, don't like rich people to show off in an ostentatious manner. In short, slowly, the contact is less, so I don't want to contact.