Stupid women are "smarter than their mother-in-law" in marriage. What do smart women do?

Introduction: Whether the marriage is happy or not, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law may not be important, but your understanding of intimate relationship is the key.

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Colleague KINOMOTO SAKURA was in a bad mood for a while two years ago. She looked weak and tired all day, and even her skin became dull.

One day, out of curiosity, I really couldn't help asking Who knows that KINOMOTO SAKURA, like a bamboo tube, poured out all the unhappiness that had been suppressed for a long time.

It turns out that KINOMOTO SAKURA KINOMOTO SAKURA's husband has just moved to a company in Beijing, and his salary has increased a lot. But KINOMOTO SAKURA and KINOMOTO SAKURA have become weekend lovers, and they can only take the high-speed train to and from Beijing and their home city every weekend.

So KINOMOTO SAKURA spent a lot of time alone with her mother-in-law, who came to help take care of the children. The conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law became more and more noticeable, and people could not avoid it.

In addition to various maladjustments in living habits, what KINOMOTO SAKURA can't accept most is that her mother-in-law is like a saint at home. She doesn't pay attention to food and clothing, works hard every day and doesn't expect anything in return.

Usually I don't talk much, and I have differences with my family. I don't argue, and I look resigned.

But the next time she meets the same thing, she still goes her own way and obviously doesn't listen to other opinions at all.

KINOMOTO SAKURA KINOMOTO SAKURA was greatly influenced by her routines.

In view of her mother-in-law's "selfless dedication" and her good image of never arguing with others, let KINOMOTO SAKURA say no and don't say no whenever there is disagreement.

Too much talk made her daughter-in-law refuse to make peace. If she doesn't say anything, she can only hold back the fire by herself, like a sore throat, but she can't express it.

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In the eyes of KINOMOTO SAKURA's husband, his mother is the best mother in the world. When I got married, I funded him to buy a house, and I didn't say anything to help him take care of the children after giving birth. Even in the eyes of KINOMOTO SAKURA's son, her mother-in-law is the best grandmother in the world.

KINOMOTO SAKURA KINOMOTO SAKURA's son is over one year old and very cute. Grandma is obedient to this grandson. She wants stars and hates the moon.

No matter how naughty the baby is, grandma follows him. KINOMOTO SAKURA sometimes says something about the baby when he can't stand it. Gradually, KINOMOTO SAKURA KINOMOTO SAKURA became a bad policeman at home.

Mother-in-law should not be a villain herself. Whenever she doesn't want her baby to do anything, she will move KINOMOTO SAKURA out as a cover.

For example, if the baby eats too much sugar, if the mother-in-law thinks he eats too much, she will say to the baby, "The baby can't eat any more sugar, and mom will know at smack." KINOMOTO SAKURA KINOMOTO SAKURA is angry and funny every time he hears it.

Unexpectedly, after a while, the baby and grandma became closer and closer. She insisted on sleeping with grandma at night, but she refused to sleep with KINOMOTO SAKURA. If KINOMOTO SAKURA insists on keeping him with her, she will cry, causing her mother-in-law to directly open KINOMOTO SAKURA's door and take the baby away.

KINOMOTO SAKURA KINOMOTO SAKURA was so angry that she complained to her husband, who said, "It's normal for grandma to spend so much time with her baby every day. What kind of vinegar are you eating here? "

KINOMOTO SAKURA KINOMOTO SAKURA said, "It's your mother who always destroys my image in front of the baby and makes the baby stop kissing me. Besides, the baby cried twice. As for her coming to our room right away and taking the baby away? What can I do with the child? I am his mother, not his stepmother. "

After this, I don't know what my husband told her mother-in-law, but even if the baby cried again, her mother-in-law didn't go into KINOMOTO SAKURA's bedroom.

But the baby jumped out of bed one day, cried and ran to grandma's room, saying, "Mom is not good, she wants grandma."

KINOMOTO SAKURA KINOMOTO SAKURA is really sad this time. Her husband comforted her and said, "No matter what, it's your son. It's natural to grow up later. "

After this incident, KINOMOTO SAKURA KINOMOTO SAKURA realized that in her eyes, her mother-in-law had various problems, such as poor hygiene, sloppy housework, poor cooking and so on.

But she knows how to temporarily retreat and exert influence imperceptibly, so in the eyes of her family, she is the image of a perfect mother.

From this point of view, KINOMOTO SAKURA will never beat her.

So KINOMOTO SAKURA KINOMOTO SAKURA is very depressed. Her husband is not in front of her, but she will come back at the weekend. If she chooses to stand aside, she will always stand with her mother. Her son is obviously closer to her grandmother. KINOMOTO SAKURA KINOMOTO SAKURA felt lonely and a failure in life.

After listening to KINOMOTO SAKURA's story, I also have to sigh that her mother-in-law is really a superior opponent, and KINOMOTO SAKURA is too immature compared with her.

Want to beat her, KINOMOTO SAKURA will spend one hundred times the energy, and spend half his life fighting a protracted war with her. In my opinion, it is really a time-consuming and laborious war.

KINOMOTO SAKURA KINOMOTO SAKURA listened to my point of view, without saying a word, lost in thought.

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After a while, KINOMOTO SAKURA's mood seems to be a little better, and his energy has obviously recovered a lot.

Listening to her, she has been more open-minded these days and no longer spends her energy fighting with her mother-in-law for family control. She is going to take the CPA certificate to improve her business ability.

After work, I spend a lot of time studying, and I no longer force my children to be close to myself. Read the picture book to my son at night and let him choose who to sleep with.

As for her mother-in-law's evasive attitude in case of disputes, KINOMOTO SAKURA chose not to look at it. After expressing her views, she quickly withdrew from the battlefield and continued to do her own thing.

KINOMOTO SAKURA KINOMOTO SAKURA feels that since she adopted the method of doing nothing at home, her pain has become less and she seldom complains with her husband.

But my husband pays more attention to himself and doesn't always lean on the sofa on weekends. He offered to take his children and his family out for a walk, instead of always feeling that he usually mistreated his mother and took his mother-in-law with him every time he went out.

I am also glad to hear about the changes in life in KINOMOTO SAKURA.

I didn't expect this to be the final outcome.

Recently, KINOMOTO SAKURA, KINOMOTO SAKURA, looks more energetic and walks to work at a brisk pace every day. It turns out that KINOMOTO SAKURA and her mother-in-law live separately.

KINOMOTO SAKURA KINOMOTO SAKURA sold the old big house and replaced it with two smaller houses for children to go to school in the future. The apartment in KINOMOTO SAKURA, KINOMOTO SAKURA is a school district, and the supporting facilities are relatively good kindergartens and primary schools.

My mother-in-law lives in another community, and the distance between them is not far, almost twenty minutes away. Now my father-in-law has retired. He lives in that small house with his mother-in-law.

Usually, my parents-in-law take care of the children together. KINOMOTO SAKURA goes to her mother-in-law's house for dinner after work and plays with the children by the way. If the children want to go with them at night, take them back to their small home.

The next morning, my mother-in-law will come to take over to accompany the children, and then KINOMOTO SAKURA will go to work by herself.

The growing physical distance between the two sides makes KINOMOTO SAKURA feel more comfortable, without accommodating each other's living habits and becoming more polite. The war between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is almost extinct, and now everyone in the family is in a very satisfied state.

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I thought to myself that in this marriage, the biggest problem KINOMOTO SAKURA faced before was her mother-in-law? The answer may be no.

On closer examination, the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is actually a false proposition.

KINOMOTO SAKURA KINOMOTO SAKURA and her mother-in-law have never met, because a man has to live under the same roof.

The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was originally the contradiction between the old family and the newly formed family, but it was maliciously attributed to hatred and war between two women.

Both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law regard each other as opposites, trying to transform or influence each other and bring her into their own family order. In this process, the two sides fought bravely, but it greatly consumed one side's time and energy.

Just to choose a person you like to live with, you have to fight with his family for life. It's terrible to entangle each other.

Therefore, the enemy of KINOMOTO SAKURA and KINOMOTO SAKURA in this family is not actually her mother-in-law, nor her husband, nor her children, but the entanglement and struggle between people in intimate relationships.

But even if she won in this battle, just like KINOMOTO SAKURA's mother-in-law, she spent decades trying her best to establish a good reputation for herself, but she won by inches. What's the point of that acre of land at home?

Like KINOMOTO SAKURA and KINOMOTO SAKURA, he voluntarily withdrew from the war, tried to get rid of the other side and stopped spending his energy on meaningless things.

At present, KINOMOTO SAKURA's CPA certificate has been obtained, and it is said that several headhunting companies are trying to contact her.

The company raised her salary for fear that she would be poached. With abundant funds, KINOMOTO SAKURA, KINOMOTO SAKURA, moved the idea of changing the school district from small to large, and everything is developing in a better direction.

Therefore, in any relationship, if you feel trapped by the other person's negative energy and become depressed, you should wake up in time.

A good relationship, especially a marriage relationship, should enable people to get enough positive support and energy, so as to confidently meet external challenges, obtain better resources and achievements, and further improve the quality of family life.

When a person is stumped by his family, all his energy can only be used for internal friction and struggle with his family, then life will become more and more unsatisfactory and he will resent each other more and more.

Realizing this in time and getting rid of this unhealthy relationship as soon as possible can avoid falling into an unfortunate fate that is irreparable.

Therefore, a woman's greatest enemy in marriage should never be her mother-in-law, let alone her husband and children, but her improper entanglement and fetters with her relatives. A healthy relationship should be intimate and keep a proper distance from each other, which is the most suitable way to get along.