Talking about the strong feelings after divorce (the strength of a woman who has been divorced for 8 years)

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What is it like to live alone? A woman who is used to having a person by her side cannot imagine leaving this person and facing life alone. life.

Therefore, even if many marriages end up in a bad state, they still cannot leave each other.

People are social animals, and women are inseparable from emotional animals. Living alone, facing various situations every day, is difficult for a woman to accept, and it is also difficult for a woman to accept it. It's hard to face.

But if you really have to face the situation of living alone, what will it be like if you really face life alone, the pain and discomfort of divorce, the pain of being alone? It takes strength to build a family, and no woman can refuse it.

Even if these unaccustomed women gradually adapt, will it be easy for a woman to live alone? Does she still need a man?

01 Divorce, life is not easy for a person, and I have thought about compromise many times

In fact, if two people can live together, no woman will be willing to live alone, no matter what That period recorded many unpleasant memories in the lives of two people.

Divorce is always a last resort.

If you live happily, who has the courage to leave everything behind and start over alone?

Luo Meng decided to divorce after experiencing many inner struggles. She no longer loved the marriage without warmth, and kept the form of marriage, unable to retain the feeling that once made her feel happy.

After the divorce, Luo Meng had to start all his life from scratch. He had no place to live and had to find a house. He had to find a suitable school for his children to go to school. He also had to be strong in front of his parents... ...

Only Ye knew how helpless and fragile she actually was.

Less than two months after the divorce, she gave in and thought about remarrying her ex-husband.

As long as she doesn’t have to work so hard alone, she is willing to forgive his betrayal and accept his apology that is not so heartfelt. As long as he can still give her a seemingly complete home, as long as her life can be restored. In the past, she could accept it without having to carry so much on her own.

Every time I make a decision before dawn, I am awakened by the reality after dawn. A broken marriage, even if we go back, what will happen? Maybe it is just one person in the name of two people. people live.

A woman who has just left a marriage is like a chick who wants to stand up but lacks the ability. She has thought about compromising with life countless times, but in the end she has to choose to be strong.

02 I have been divorced for a long time, although I still feel bitter in my heart, but I gradually got used to it

People have a very powerful function, that is, they gradually get used to everything. You will get used to living with one person, and you will also get used to facing life alone.

The first two years after Luo Meng’s divorce were very difficult. He would always cry with grievances, always be indifferent and want to compromise with life, and always feel helpless when one’s strength is weak, but these will all come true. Become a habit.

Wipe your tears and continue to smile when you feel wronged. Hug yourself when you are tired and continue to pick up your child and walk. When you are miserable, pour yourself a glass of sugar water and tell yourself that you can be sweet alone.

The child is growing up day by day, and Luo Meng’s life is getting on the right track little by little. She has found a job that she likes, and she is also studying while working. The child has the help of Luo Meng’s parents, and the family of four People's lives are also very good and they are very accustomed to it.

Sometimes she thinks of her ex-husband, the man who once gave her laughter and warmth. Later, she said he had changed, and she still felt unwilling to do so. However, they had already stopped contacting each other and lived hundreds of miles apart. It is also slowly becoming a habit.

When a person lives alone for a long time, he will become accustomed to facing everything alone. He will no longer show his vulnerability and think that there is someone who can protect him, and he will learn to make himself strong.

After living alone for a long time, many unaccustomed things will slowly become habits, and the pain of divorce in your heart will slowly be diluted by time.

03 I have been alone for many years and no longer need a man. Although I dare not relax even a little bit, I am willing to bear all the life by myself

After the divorce, I live alone very casually. Do women still need men?

Then we must first look at what women need from men.

The most important thing is emotional needs, and then there is the need for responsibility, which is the need for mutual help and warmth in life.

A divorced woman may be able to understand these needs best.

It doesn’t mean that having a relationship with a man will make you as happy as you dream of. Not every man has a strong sense of marital responsibility. It doesn’t mean that having a man can really get along well with each other and rely on each other in life.

Luo Meng has been divorced for 8 years and has always been alone. Her daughter has grown from a little girl to a graceful little girl. She has also changed from a divorced woman who was confused and had no direction to a woman who can dominate the workplace and cope independently. Life of a white-collar woman.

Many people have introduced boyfriends to Luo Meng. At first, she didn't have the energy to care about it. Later, she was not in the mood to care about it. Now, she doesn't need to care about it.

Luo Meng does not plan to remarry. She feels that her strength can support her life, although she has to shoulder a lot by herself.

After being divorced for many years, she has experienced the sadness, grievance, vulnerability and helplessness of a person, as well as strength, strength, and patience. She has adapted to and can fully bear the life of her daughter and parents.

Emotionally, she does not need a man to comfort her, because she knows how to comfort and please herself. In life, she does not need a man to help her, because her abilities have already brought material wealth to her family and herself. Life,

As for her vulnerability in work and life, she does not need the care of a man. She is rarely vulnerable anymore, and even if she is fragile, she can face it calmly and calmly.

Therefore, if the probability of this man bringing happiness to a woman is not very high, and his appearance will disrupt the stable life of a single woman, then maybe the woman who has been living with her for many years is not What is needed is such a seemingly “fulfilling” marriage.

The life of a woman who has been divorced for many years has been based on stability through her own efforts. She will no longer easily have her heart shaken by a man, nor will she make her life more turbulent because of a man.

Although a person's life requires a lot to bear, and although a person's life does not dare to relax for a moment, compared with the quiet years of a person, a woman who has been single for many years is willing to endure a little bit of loneliness, and Stay away from the entanglement that is not easy for two people.