Compared with others, I know that if I don't work hard, I will never work hard. How can I make myself work hard?

A tennis player lost a match, which was the fourth time he lost to the same opponent. In every open competition, he is only one step away from the champion, and that opponent seems to stand in front of him forever and cannot surpass him. The tennis player was mentally tortured. Without that opponent, he is the winner. Why does he always lose to the same person?

Finally, one day, the tennis player won his opponent, but he was not happy because his opponent was obviously in a bad state in that game. After the game, reporters and spectators congratulated him and felt sorry for his opponent. I didn't expect the other party to say casually, "It doesn't matter, everyone loses sometimes, so come back next time."

At that moment, the tennis player realized that there was not such a big gap between his strength and that of his opponent, but his mentality and tolerance. Every comparison, he cares about winning or losing, and the opponent cares about the game itself. He can't afford to lose, and neither can his opponent, so he has been under pressure, but his opponent is complacent and arrogant and unwilling to lose.

The tennis player who figured this out spent all his time honing his skills. He still often loses to the same opponent, but he is also gratified to find that the gap between them is narrowing and he is losing less and less goals. He firmly believes that one day, he can surpass each other and stand on the podium of the championship.

Tennis players always lose to the same opponent, and it is inevitable that there will be a sigh of "being born". After repeated observation and thinking, he finally realized that the opponent's advantage over himself was not the skill of the ball, but the mentality of "can't afford to lose". Opponents don't care about other people's opinions or rankings. He was able to devote himself to the game, so he played his best.

Excellent boxers all believe in a famous saying: "If you want to win, learn to be beaten first." People who learn boxing have to get punched by others first, so they naturally know how to dodge, how to wait for an opportunity to fight back, how to figure out the opponent's boxing path to restrain the opponent, and finally sum up the experience of how to defeat the opponent. The same is true of wanting to succeed. How can we gain experience without experiencing failure? If you don't experience failure, you can only talk on paper all your life, or you can't break through by your own small stall. Only after experiencing great storms can we understand that all "failures" can be transformed into "gains".

Those who can't afford to lose are often those who win the most;

Some people take gains and losses too seriously and think that only winning and losing can prove their value. So what if you win? People who really know how to cherish life value their own honor and want to win again and again, but they also know that failure is not a big deal. Life is ups and downs, who can win forever?