"You have been married to my son for five years and don't come back for the New Year every year. Do you want a divorce? " What do you think of such a mother-in-law

As the Chinese New Year approaches, many couples will quarrel. Many women are very resistant to going back to their in-laws for the New Year, which men can't understand. They often think that it is natural and natural to go back to her husband's family for the New Year, because in many men's minds, even if he has his own small family, his parents' home is also his home, and his wife and he are both members of the extended family, so he should return to the extended family for reunion.

However, in the eyes of women, the husband's family is always the husband's family, and the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is often a reason why the daughter-in-law is unwilling to get close to the husband's family. Mother-in-law is her husband's mother. She can't ask her husband to break off the relationship with her mother-in-law, but it is also difficult for her daughter-in-law to let go of her bad feelings. Many women who are daughters-in-law would rather have less contact with their in-laws

But men often can't understand this kind of psychology of their wives. They think that the wife does not respect her mother-in-law and looks down on herself, but they never think about why the wife does this. Sometimes, it is not a good thing to ask the other person to integrate into the family where he came from, and it may even lead to changes in feelings and the breakdown of marriage.

Many times, what a mother-in-law wants from her daughter-in-law is that she wants her daughter-in-law to do what she says and be as filial to herself as a daughter to her mother, but she never asks herself to treat her daughter-in-law as a daughter. Such a mother-in-law can easily arouse the resentment of her daughter-in-law.

Mother-in-law believes that when a daughter-in-law marries her son, she is subordinate to her son and should listen to her like a son. But in the daughter-in-law's view, her mother-in-law is just her husband's mother and an elder. She only needs respect, and her mother-in-law can't meet her expectations.

The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is often caused by the vague sense of boundaries between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Especially when a woman is in confinement, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can easily erupt and even become an indelible shadow between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

When Angelie Liu and Song Yuegang were together, her mother-in-law didn't like it, and she couldn't say what she didn't like. She probably thinks that her son was robbed by another woman, so she has been very uncomfortable.

Angelie Liu's family background and appearance are good, while Song Yue is an ordinary person. Many people don't understand what Angelie Liu likes about Song Yue. Love is blind. Angelie Liu thinks that Song Yue is better than others, at least for himself.

When Angelie Liu and Song Yue first went home to meet her future mother-in-law, her future mother-in-law showed that she didn't like her. She felt that Angelie Liu had been spoiled since childhood and could not serve her son well after marriage. When they first met, Angelie Liu was allowed to cook. Angelie Liu's performance is not satisfactory, and her mother-in-law doesn't look very good. She said that her son's family is not as good as Angelie Liu's, but it is also excellent. Many girls are rare. If Ada wants to marry her son, she must practice her cooking skills.

Angelie Liu, who was held in the palm of her parents' hand since childhood, couldn't stand this anger, but she endured it for Song Yue's sake. Afterwards, Song Yue also promised that she would not live with her mother-in-law after marriage, and the matter would go away.

However, even if they don't live together, contradictions are inevitable. For women, the time when a husband is most needed in marriage is the time of confinement. If there is no husband's company and understanding at this time, it will be a lifelong pain for women to have a mother-in-law who keeps picking things up.

During her imprisonment in Angelie Liu, she happened to meet Song Yue's title evaluation. Song Yue needs to work overtime frequently, and her work is quite tiring. In order to take good care of Angelie Liu, Song Yue asked her mother to help. Her mother was not very happy, because "Song Yue" was handed down for three generations, and her father went early. Her mother has always wanted to carry on the family line of the Song family. When she learned that Liu Yansheng was a daughter, she was even more dissatisfied with Angelie Liu.

Now my son naturally doesn't want to ask himself to take care of his daughter-in-law, but he asks himself and doesn't want to embarrass his son, so he has to bite the bullet and go.

Angelie Liu was naturally happy to think that her mother-in-law really took care of herself. She prepared a room and a new quilt for her mother-in-law, but her next performance made Ada cold. Her mother-in-law nominally came to take care of her daughter-in-law, but in fact she came to have fun and take care of her son by the way. She left all the delicious food to her son, but the food prepared for Angelie Liu was casually treated. Sometimes, the leftovers at noon are just hot for dinner.

But my mother-in-law doesn't know why she always speaks ill of herself when coaxing her daughter. Although her daughter didn't understand, Angelie Liu was always uncomfortable. After all, she was conceived in October. She said something about her mother-in-law, saying it was not good for her children. Disembarking, the mother-in-law turned her head and complained to her son that she had worked hard to take care of her daughter-in-law.

Song Yue was ashamed that her mother was crying, so she had to say something about her wife. Ada was wronged. Unexpectedly, her husband didn't understand himself and helped her mother-in-law blame herself. I feel more wronged, but I don't want to affect her husband's work, so I have to put up with it. Looking back now, Angelie Liu almost got depression at that time.

Finally, the conflict broke out when her mother-in-law secretly gave Angelie Liu some potions that were said to give birth to children. Angelie Liu didn't know. After drinking, her stomach ached so much that she almost fainted. If the doctor says it's serious, it's hard to get pregnant again.

Angelie Liu was sad and angry. Unexpectedly, my mother-in-law felt no guilt at all. She also said that this was because Angelie Liu failed to meet expectations and was not compensated. She also said that she married Angelie Liu and gave birth to her son. Liu Yan was furious and now pointed at her mother-in-law. Said a word: "get out!" Mother-in-law didn't expect Angelie Liu to have such a big temper, and now she froze. Song Yue didn't expect his wife to be so angry. She advised Angelie Liu that her mother was also good for us, but she was kind enough to do bad things. She also blamed Angelie Liu for not talking to her mother like that.

Song Yue's reaction completely chilled Angelie Liu, and now she has the idea of divorce. But when she thought that her child was still young and her condition was not very good, she had to fight back and said that as long as her mother-in-law left home, she would let bygones be bygones.

Although Song Yue was uncomfortable, in that case, all she wanted was to temporarily stabilize her wife's mood and then tell her how to be a wife and how to respect her mother-in-law.

However, this incident has become a gap between husband and wife. It is untouchable and hard to touch. Angelie Liu is full of resistance to her mother-in-law. She doesn't care what Song Yue did to her mother-in-law, but even if she saw her mother-in-law, she wouldn't talk to each other. Especially in the New Year, Song Yue suggested going back to her husband's house for the New Year. Angelie Liu never refused. No matter what Song Yue said, because she decided that Song Yue didn't dare to leave, Angelie Liu bought the house before marriage, which had nothing to do with Song Yue.

And Angelie Liu in this period, constantly improve themselves, whether management or self-management, daughter also grew up, in the face of Song Yue, she would have been disappointed, if five years ago, she still had a glimmer of hope for him, but in these five years, Song Yue's performance has completely destroyed her fantasy about him, and she decided to give up.

When she threw the divorce papers in front of Song Yue, Song Yue was unbelievable and unacceptable, but Angelie Liu made up his mind and Song Yue had to sign them.

After the divorce, Angelie Liu and her daughter started a new life. She didn't expect her former mother-in-law to bring her a phone call. As soon as she opened her mouth, she said, "You have been married to my son for five years and never come back for the New Year every year. You can't divorce. " Angelie Liu felt ridiculous and said, "You left early!" , the other party is still asking where, Angelie Liu don't want to tangle with each other, just hang up the phone.

Shortly after hanging up the phone, her ex-husband called and asked Angelie Liu why she told her mother-in-law about the divorce. She also said that divorce is a matter for two people. Don't bully the old man. Hearing this, Angelie Liu wanted to argue with the other side, but it was ridiculous, that's all.

Angelie Liu saw the true face of her ex-husband thoroughly at this moment, and he was glad that he was divorced from the bottom of his heart. His ex-husband is not only a mother-in-law, but also a selfish and incompetent coward. Although her mother-in-law is wrong, her ex-husband is not a poor person.

In fact, many times, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can be resolved. As long as the man has a little sense of responsibility, don't think about muddling along. A mother always wishes her son well. As long as the son insists, the mother-in-law can do nothing. Finally, the cowardice of men led to the further deterioration of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

But unfortunately, many men do not understand this truth. They often think that when a wife marries home, she should listen to her parents like herself. Whether her parents are right or wrong, in fact, a man has no right to ask her to do the same to her parents, because parents are good to their sons and not to their wives. That mutual affection is only based on mutual respect. If you can't respect each other, men ask too much.

When a man overprotects his mother and ignores his wife's feelings, it will make her feel insecure and have no sense of belonging, which will eventually lead to changes in her feelings.

Therefore, in a good marriage, there must be a man who knows how to put himself in a correct position, so that no matter what difficulties he encounters, his wife will be full of confidence in you.