In the countryside, the old man said, if these three relatives don't walk, they will suffer? Why?

The old people in the countryside said that if these three kinds of relatives don't move around, they will suffer. To tell the truth, it is definitely necessary to visit relatives in daily life, especially the elderly, who attach great importance to the relationship between relatives. But visiting relatives means visiting relatives, and some relatives say they won't leave, otherwise they will suffer. What kind is it?

I think the first kind is relatives who love to sow discord and talk a lot. When you meet this kind of relative, you can stay. Just like a harmonious family, at parties, people who love to sow discord often say something uncomfortable. I remember a family gathering, when an aunt started talking because a relative lent money to others, so that everyone behind her stopped talking, and the relationship between them became stiff. So if you meet such relatives, you'd better walk less.

Second, relatives who are too poor and love the rich. In the past, my family was very poor, and some relatives looked down on our family and didn't follow us around for fear that we would borrow money from them. Now that the conditions at home are much better, I began to walk, but walking is walking, and I almost come to you when I need your help. Moreover, those relatives who used to be good with them are now in trouble and they ignore them. So I think it's not too much for such relatives to walk around.

Third, relatives with bad reputation. There are thousands of people, and they all have many faces. For example, if you lend them money, they look the same. If you lend them money, they look different. Even if you ask him for money, you cheat. In their eyes, they don't pay attention to any relatives at all, just use you.

In a word, people have many faces, and many people suffer from it. For me, after knowing the nature of this person, I can stop and refuse what I should refuse. Sometimes some relatives are worse than friends. Anyway, I think the old man's summary makes sense.

When I was a child, my grandmother said to me, "You are good to others, and sometimes others may not be good to you. We don't mean to hurt anyone at all, but we can't be too painful. People are all fleshy and stay away. "

When I was a child, I liked my grandfather dragging me and my grandmother back to my grandmother's house in a car.

At that time, I was poor, the transportation was inconvenient, there was no telephone, I didn't walk around all year round, and I was very warm when I met you, but now everything is fine, but my family relationship is weak.

I remember the old man said that some relatives had better walk less, and if they can, they should walk less:

The countryside is a small society with three townships and five miles. No matter which village, only here can you talk about your loved ones. It is easy to get along with relatives if they communicate in a friendly and cordial way, but some relatives gossip everywhere, love to sow discord, always watch the excitement and feel that it is not too big and want others to fight. He is jealous when others live well, and disdains when others live badly. Such relatives had better stay away from each other and have serious personality problems.

In the past, when we were not rich, everyone was in trouble. Who could be fine? I'm not afraid to borrow money, but I'm afraid someone will not mention it after borrowing it. This is no longer the case now. Even if you ask for it, you will try your best to avoid it. Ah, having such a relative in my family makes my grandmother very angry. At that time, the old lady borrowed money from autumn to winter and never paid it back, which made the old lady very angry.

Some relatives usually care too much about their connections. They don't care about trivial matters, and they can't lose anything. They always want to take advantage of them, but they are all fools. They have cared too much about it for a long time. Who loves to deal with him? Rural transportation is inconvenient, and the circle of people's communication is actually quite small. Many things are mutual. Where did they come from? But some people just can't see through this.

There are all kinds of people in the world, and most relatives are related by blood, but to be honest, some people are far worse than ordinary friends. If you do meet them, stay away from them, stay away from them and eat less. What old people say sometimes makes sense, don't you think?

I use modern thinking to answer this question raised by the teacher.

In rural areas, in addition to neighbors, there are families of their own relatives. In the past, the rural areas were poor, and everything in the family, big and small, relied on the help of these neighboring relatives to tide over all kinds of dangers. But with the development of society, neighbors rarely go out to work, and relatives are not as frequent as in the past. Nominally, they are relatives, but they don't come and go frequently, and many relatives are not as affectionate and credible as friends they make outside. Because I don't know much! Therefore, the rural elderly concluded that there are three kinds of relatives who do not come and go.

The first kind of relatives are just icing on the cake, they won't come and go. In the past, when the family was poor and in trouble, these relatives never asked you and pretended not to know anything. When you are in trouble, he stays away for fear of provoking him. By working hard to change poverty and make a living at home, he appears in front of you, showing his sense of existence and expressing how close the two families are. This kind of relative is still indifferent, neither humble nor supercilious, allowing him to perform, only responding, watching the Yangtze River disappear eastward and seeing when he performs.

The second kind of relatives like to take advantage of small things, not money or things. As long as they come to your house, they don't care about anything and take it for themselves. Such relatives often meet in the countryside. They don't work hard, they do things practically. They earn what they like with their own labor. When they see whose house it belongs to, they always take it for themselves by various means. Such relatives are not worth associating with.

The third kind of relatives are right in everything, giving priority to everything, right for themselves and wrong for others. There is no tolerance and forbearance. Such relatives let him go, and whoever loves to take care of him. If you have different opinions, he is in a hurry with you, and he doesn't want to suffer a little loss. Everything must use it. If you don't agree with each other, you will be unfriendly. There will be no happy time together, and there will be no affection between relatives. Such relatives do not need to communicate.

In a word, some social experiences of rural elderly people are summed up just right. Just like the interpersonal relationship between relatives, getting along well is the mutual affection between relatives, helping each other and being affectionate and righteous; Some people are low-quality, stubborn and get along well, but they are hurt. These relatives can stay away from each other instead of being amiable.

Everyone knows that people with bad conduct can't go out with each other, because they are a problem child, who steals things when they see them, and even beats and scolds them after drinking. Especially educated people, if they can turn over a new leaf, it is still very good. The prodigal son won't change money, but these people are very poor in nature. There is little possibility for them to go back to shore, and the nature of villains is in the cracks.

It's really irritating to some snobbish relatives. They climb high and expensive, and they denigrate and belittle people who are not as good as them. It seems to be above them. This snobbish relative is really no good, walking around makes people angry. Everyone is proud, especially those snobs. Sometimes it's really humiliating, making people unable to go downstairs, which is particularly excessive, so these snobbish relatives try not to walk around.

People are sincere-oriented. If we live by cheating and cheating every day, this kind of disreputable relative will cheat his relatives sooner or later and finally his family. Because for people with a bad reputation, they don't believe anything except the money they can cheat. As far as their ideological strength or consciousness is concerned, they know nothing about family, friendship and love. Their eyes are full of deceptive behaviors and practices.