Tell me about a family with many children. Does having more children really make you think it's a good thing?

Sharing is the biggest problem facing the only child now, because all the adults in the family are surrounded by a child, and everything is centered on the child, and all the delicious and fun new clothes are given to him. Apart from sharing with adults around them, they have no other opportunities to share with others at home, and many adults don't really share with their children when educating them to share. They always say, "Good boy, if grandma doesn't eat, I'll leave it to you!" " This left an impression on the child: "Everything is mine." The concept of "sharing" gradually faded. Because many children have no opportunities to exercise and share at home, once they go out to play with strange children, they will find it difficult when their parents ask them to share. Because they have formed an idea in their minds for a long time: "Everything is mine and can't be given to others." Of course, they can't taste the joy of sharing.

However, when you have two or more children at home, they will naturally learn to share in their daily family life, and they can often practice and enjoy the happiness brought by sharing, such as delicious food, good toys and gifts bought by their parents. About waiting in turn? Waiting by turns is also a feeling that many only children can't understand, because he is the only one at home, and he doesn't need to take turns with anyone, let alone wait. However, once they enter the collective life such as kindergartens and primary schools, it is difficult for them to adapt to this feeling and it takes a long time to learn and experience. Some children become impatient, domineering and even have inappropriate violence in collective life because they don't want to learn to wait in turn, such as hitting people. There are two children at home, even more children. They have to study and practice waiting in turn since childhood. For example, there is only one IPAD at home, and three people have to take turns to play it once. There is only one sports bike at home, and three people take turns to play it once. They have to wait in line to go to the toilet in the morning, wash their faces and wash their hands, wait in turn for the privilege of sleeping with their mothers, and so on ... because they have to wait, they will cherish it more, because they have to take turns. About caring and missing? Because the three children in the family are almost the same age, they always care about each other and miss each other after being separated for a long time. These are their natural psychological phenomena, but at the same time they also experience emotions that only children can't experience. What impressed me the most was that all three children had a holiday at home this summer, and there was no aunt at home. My husband and I both went to work. Grandparents can't take care of three children at home, so I decided to send my daughter to my aunt's house. That night, my aunt cooked braised prawns for my daughter, and her daughter liked them very much. Finally, there are two shrimps left. My aunt said, "Yue Yue, you can eat them!" " But to my aunt's surprise, Yue Yue said, "Take it home to my two brothers!" As a result, when my husband and I came home from work to pick up Yue Yue, Yue Yue was holding a fresh-keeping bag with two braised prawns in his little hand. This phenomenon has happened to every child in my family. For example, my mother took Yang Yang to work and bought potato chips for Yang Yang. He ate some and insisted on saving some for Chen Chen and Yue Yue. Grandma took Yang Yang and Chen Chen to the wedding. They would put two pieces of candy in their pockets and give them back to Yue Yue. Chen Chen was ill and went to the hospital for an injection. When she comes back, Yue Yue and Yang Yang will ask with concern, "Chen Chen, are you better?" Yang Yang's throat was inflamed, so he went to children's hospital for stitches. Every month, every day, chenchen will call to ask how Yang Yang's throat is. And asked Yang Yang if he had a sore throat. This is caring. . . They learn to care about others from an early age, and at the same time express their concern to others.

Although I only have one daughter, I don't belong to a family with many children, but it is good for some people to have more children. I personally have reservations about this view, because many children are not necessarily a happy thing for their parents, who have to face the following problems:

First of all, if you plan to have more children, it doesn't mean that you can simply bring them up. In addition to children, you need to fulfill your responsibilities and obligations as a parent. You need to educate, cultivate and care for children. This process is particularly energy-consuming and physical. For parents of urban families, it is not easy to raise one child, let alone two or more children, especially now that both parents need to work, it is obviously unrealistic to have one more child.

On the other hand, an important problem that families with many children have to face is economic pressure. If you want to have more than one child, the monthly expenses for food, clothing, housing and transportation, especially when the child is young, the custody fee for going to kindergarten, various cram schools after the child grows up, the child will get married in the future, and parents will buy a house and dowry for the child. Of course, if their family conditions permit and they have enough energy, both husband and wife agree to have more children.