Is there still abuse of daughter-in-law in rural areas?

The abuse of daughter-in-law in rural areas is an old story. In the old society where men were superior to women, men had three wives and four concubines. It can be said that abuse by mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was commonplace at that time. Now, men and women have equal status and women are more independent. Coupled with the relationship between more men and fewer women, there is almost no abuse of daughter-in-law in family relations. It is said that there is no room for three surnames in one family, which has caused tension in family relations.

Today's countryside is not like the old society. At that time, rural women were mostly "vassals" of men, but now women have the concept of self-life and the ability to pursue happiness. I remember when I was a child, my grandmother told me that the fate of "child brides" in the old society was usually tragic, that is, the maid of the main family existed and was often abused.

In the early 1980s, a "monk" on the mountain near our village died. This miserable woman belongs to our village. I call her Gu Nai according to my seniority. At the beginning, this aunt was married by the elders at home. The other party is a landlord and a veteran. After marriage, she has no family status. After working as a cow and horse for several years, she really can't stand it. She went to the mountains to become a nun. From my childhood memory, I met her several times, and my grandmother took me to chat with her, which left a vague impression on me.

Now that I think about it, the extreme situation like her was a helpless choice at that time, and it is impossible to think about it now. Whose daughter-in-law will never live together because she is abused by her family, and she can live well apart. In the worst case, she can remarry after divorce. In the old society, many cowardly women resigned themselves even if they were abused!

In my grandmother's words, women of her generation "have the hardest time". When they were young, they needed to look at their mother-in-law's face. When you get old, you should look at your daughter-in-law's face. But to be honest, in my childhood impression, my grandmother still used the old tradition as her mother-in-law's "Monday morning quarterback", did not abuse it, and often "bullied" my mother and ran away from home just for the better. As time went on, grandma saw her mother's kindness and their relationship was reconciled.