A woman always makes it look like my fault. What's wrong with this kind of person?

Of course not. It's not your fault that your relationship is in trouble. Because you didn't see what kind of person she was from the beginning. She doesn't know how vicious and despicable it is under the gentle surface. Of course, it may be just your personal problem. You misunderstood her, but it seems impossible to listen to what you said. So this kind of person is very similar to someone I know, typical: neurotic+right and wrong+black and white+vitriolic, break up if you can. But it's your choice, and we can't interfere.