Advice from a 40-year-old middle-aged elder sister: What are the three most obvious losers?

As the saying goes, "every family has its own problems." A few days ago, 40-year-old Jason came to me to complain. She asked me to help her educate her worthless husband. In Jason's eyes, her man is just a pool of mud, unable to support the wall.

Zhang Jie said: Although "it is not as people who have been poor together know", she never disliked her husband who had no money, because when she married him, he was poor. Now, because the child is going to college and the family is really desperate, she finds me and lets me enlighten her worthless husband.

I asked Jason, "How do you judge that a man is worthless? Sister Zhang told me that in her opinion, these three performances are especially obvious for a worthless man.

1. Lazy and irresponsible.

Sister Zhang said that the less promising a man is, the lazier he is and the less responsible he is. Take her own husband for example. Her husband is lazy. Not only did he not have a serious job, but he also asked his parents for money at a young age, and even shamelessly asked Jason's parents for money. And he has no sense of responsibility. He has no responsibility as a husband or father. Even he didn't do his duty as a son. Do you think such a man has a future?

2. Like to brag and not do practical things.

Jason said: The more hopeless a man is, the more he likes to brag, all kinds of bragging. The reason why they are all boasting is that they have never done anything practical. They just talk about it and then forget it. What they often do is to compare those successful people. They will hate rich people and look down on successful men, because in their own view, if they have that much money, they can do better, and they can't see themselves clearly. Take Jason's husband as an example. He can talk big, but he just won't do it.

3. Like complaining, unwilling to work hard.

Sister Zhang said that the more worthless men like to complain, the more they like to find various reasons and excuses for their laziness and incompetence. These men often complain that God is unfair and their parents are incompetent. They will find all kinds of reasons and excuses, that is, they simply can't see their own problems, don't want to face the reality, and don't want to make any efforts. They always fantasize about getting rich overnight. Jason said that her husband is a complainer. He can only complain, but he won't make any effort because he doesn't believe in himself at all. He only believes in fate and makes excuses for his laziness.

Bian Xiao has something to say:

Actually, I agree with most of what Jason said. Whether a man has a future depends not on how much money he can earn, but on whether he has taken up his responsibilities and worked hard for his future or family. In my opinion, "life takes three minutes, and seven minutes depends on hard work." Only children without umbrellas can run hard, because if you work hard, there will be hope, and if you don't work hard, there will be despair.