I am a country girl who climbed into a rich family. How to solve the contradiction caused by family gap?

Talking about a boyfriend, it feels good. I visited his home this week, and I feel that their conditions are much better than ours. My father is an engineer and the leader of Luqiao Company. My mother is the head nurse in pulmonary hospital. I have a younger sister who studies architecture in England. I heard that she is also the best school of architecture in Britain. Boyfriend is also a key university graduate. Now I am in charge of brand in a foreign company in Guangzhou. He has many relatives. There are about 20 cousins of all kinds, most of whom graduated from key universities, and a few of them have studied. Their cousins are strange, just like their own. We have a good relationship, drink and play mahjong, often travel and sing, and we will go back for 5 days. Every day, families take turns inviting them to dinner and singing parties. From the older generation to the younger generation, they all feel particularly United.

How to solve the contradiction caused by the gap between the rich and the poor when a rural girl marries a rich family?

On the other hand, in my family, my parents are working in Taizhou and doing hard work in the factory. My three sisters, the oldest, went to work in Zhejiang without finishing junior high school. My sister is fine. My second sister is married and has children. She basically ignores her parents and often quarrels. Most of my relatives are in the countryside and don't get along very well. They are always quarrelling over trifles. As for me, I didn't study hard either. Mixed up with a junior college, has been selling houses, likes to play, likes to buy and has not saved money. You spend most of your time fooling around. I'm confused. The gap between our family conditions is too great. Will there be contradictions?

Love is a matter for two people. You love me, you like each other, no matter what anyone else in the world thinks. Marriage is quite another matter. On the basis of love, when two different family cultures and family values are "sweetly married", the happiness of two people will last long.

First, education. As you said, your educational background is obviously far from your boyfriend and his whole family culture. Think about what you can do to improve your horizons, experience and knowledge if you can't continue your studies. The days passed day by day. If you often talk to them at family gatherings or family gatherings, there will inevitably be many embarrassing scenes on both sides. I think this first family reunion has brought you a lot of discomfort and a little inferiority complex.

Second, personality. Everyone's personality mostly comes from the influence of family. On a large scale, personality includes IQ, EQ, financial quotient, adversity quotient and sex quotient. You can engage in sales work, and your IQ and EQ are definitely not low, but the IQ and EQ needed in family relationships are another matter. For example, you say, "These cousins in their family are very strange, like their own." This is the lack of IQ and EQ in China's ethics. At present, many families in China, Jiangsu and Zhejiang provinces are still the etiquette tradition of the whole family having dinner together for four generations, and the younger generation can only have dinner after the old man moves chopsticks.

Obviously, your boyfriend's family has a good emotional foundation. It's a pity that you used the word "strange" in such a family style of mutual respect and love, such a high-quality IQ gene and such a cohesive family. Financial quotient, as you described yourself, also has a lot of room for improvement. Adversity quotient, this situation is the time to test your adversity quotient. It's up to you to be scared away by this excellent family, or to start changing yourself immediately and get along with your boyfriend and his family in harmony. Sex quotient, this is up to your boyfriend, so I won't express my opinion.

Finally, talk about the influence of family environment on a person. I guess this is also the biggest source of stress for you in this relationship. Nothing in life is impossible, only those who can't handle it. Your growing environment is used to family struggles and is divided. The emotional model established by your family may not be used to getting too close to people, so when you enter a high-viscosity family with more than 20 people, you will have a strong sense of discomfort and want to retreat, avoid or even turn around and run.

At the time level, the appearance will always grow old, and a person's inner cultivation and temperament are the flowers that can bloom undefeated. The longer the time, the more attractive and attractive it is. For you, maybe this is an excellent opportunity given by God, giving you the motivation and desire to improve your inner self. If the upgrade is successful, will your boyfriend's house change something for you? Most importantly, when your inner self is constantly improving and growing, you will be happy and like yourself. Are you afraid of being unhappy?