Many people envy stay-at-home mothers. Is it really easy to take care of children without going to work?

It's not easy for stay-at-home mothers to take care of their children at home. Besides taking care of the children, there are endless housework and no free time of my own. If everything they pay is understood by their families, everything will be fine. If they are not understood, they will be nothing in the end, and they will be exhausted physically and mentally. What's even more frightening is that you will be derailed from society in a few years, and it will be difficult for you to adapt when you return to work. So there is no need to envy stay-at-home mothers for taking care of their children at home. It is better to have someone to take care of the children. Work hard while you are young and provide children with good living conditions.

If anyone envies a stay-at-home mom, I'll switch with him. I'm really going to collapse.

It's not easy to take care of children, it's much more tiring than going to work, okay. 24 hours a day, the children don't sleep, you don't rest, the children sleep, and you have to wash clothes, clean the house and clean up.

My child is now 26 months old and full of energy. If you are tired, you want to lean on the sofa for a while. He can step on your stomach and shoulders and then get on the back of the sofa behind you. Not only does it hurt, but he is really afraid of falling off the sofa.

When I wake up in the morning, I eat and drink Lazar. A person doesn't notice that there are scraps of paper and bread crumbs all over the floor. The toys you just put away are scattered everywhere as soon as you turn around.

Seriously, if someone envies a stay-at-home mom, come and change. I miss working full time. Don't think about anything every day. Do whatever you want after work. Too relaxed.

Now I can't let go of my work, and I have to take care of the children. Take the baby home to work. When you are busy, he must be there shouting: Mom, come here quickly and stop working.

I really think babies are little angels. They play there by themselves every day, never make up for the Huohuo people, and never bother you, so they are very idle every day and have nothing to do.

Therefore, people who envy full-time mothers must not take care of their babies at home independently. Who envies them will know in a few days.

I am Qingquanyun, a post-80s Mabao native in Northeast China, and I like reading and sharing.

I am a full-time nanny and a second-child mother.

Many people say it's easy to bring a baby. If you don't have to go to work every day, just bring two babies to cook. Every time I hear these words, I always have an anonymous fire. Taking care of the baby is not as simple as you think. Taking care of the baby includes his daily diet. You should think about what to give him today to be nutritious and healthy, and what to do tomorrow. Arrange three meals a day, including washing clothes. Children's clothes are changed frequently and dirty, and it is possible to change two or three sets every day. The baby should be washed when he is asleep, but not when he is awake.

Let's talk about it. I always hug when I go out, just like my family is working outside and the traffic is heavy. I take care of the baby more carefully, I can't relax for a moment, and my spirit is highly nervous. I'm not free yet. I take care of my two children by myself. Wherever I go, I always take care of my children. Now my friends around me will not call me when they go out to play, even if they call me. It is inconvenient for me to take care of my children for a while, which will also affect their interest in playing, so I am basically around my family and children now, and I have no free time at all.

Finally, to sum up, it is not easy to take your baby to work, but it will make you out of touch with society.

As a real stay-at-home mom, I think I have a strong say in this issue. I resigned in the last month of the third trimester and waited for delivery. Until now, the baby is two and a half weeks old, and I still take care of the baby full-time.

First of all, let me explain that it is my own choice to take care of my children full time. It's not that no one takes care of me, nor is my mother-in-law unwilling to take care of me. It's purely personal choice.

Is it difficult to be a full-time mother? To tell the truth, it feels very hard all the way, especially hard. There have been many moments of breakdown, even because of the full-time nanny, the relationship between husband and wife is very tense and on the verge of divorce. But are you asking me if I don't regret taking care of the baby full-time? I tell you, I don't regret it, not at all. Because I have been taking care of my baby full-time for two and a half years, and because I have seen many real cases around me, I am deeply grateful that the children raised by my parents are my own children.

In many cases around us, many parents choose to leave their children at home for the care of the elderly when they are 0 ~ 3 years old. As a result, after being taken back to them, no matter how much they pay, the children are always not so close to themselves, sleepy, hungry, sad and disgusting. They only look for grandma, and their mother simply denies it. How many treasure mothers feel sad: they feel that the child is not their own, that they have given birth to a grandmother, and that the child is a baiwenhang ... that is, the child was brought up by the old man. Because of their parents' reasons, most of them spoil their children, and it is easy for them to form many bad habits, such as being too willful and spoiled, too lazy, unsanitary, loving watching cartoons and eating candy and chips ... Not all children brought up by the elderly will do this, of course, some elderly people will take good care of them, but it is undeniable that most elderly people in China are slightly lacking in the way of raising their children.

And I am very lucky, I have gained a baby who is very clever and sensible, excellent in language expression, good in independent self-care and good in living and hygiene habits. The most important thing is that I pay more attention to nutritional balance, and my baby's physique is great, which has laid a good foundation for future growth. At the same time, my baby is also a intimate little cotton-padded jacket that is very close to mom and dad and expresses fancy when there are differences.

Reasons for choosing full-time baby care

The real start of full-time care for the baby is when the baby is more than four months old. After the baby was born for more than a month, he has been living in his hometown with his parents-in-law. After the maternity leave expired, I took my husband, mother-in-law and children back to work in Beijing. After working for less than two months, I chose to resign and take care of my baby full-time.

I didn't want to take care of the baby full-time at first, but then why did you quit? On the one hand, after returning to work, I have to leave work one hour early every day because of breastfeeding leave. Leaders are very dissatisfied with this and usually make things difficult. On the other hand, it is because of China's eternal problem: the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is particularly serious. The younger generation of mothers want to raise their children scientifically and have very high requirements for their children's feeding. Most mothers-in-law insist on using the traditional parenting methods of their generation. Both sides don't give in to each other and stick to their own parenting methods. There are naturally several wars between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. After several struggles, I finally chose to bring my own baby.

Full-time care for the baby's pain

Full-time nanny has four pains. The first one comes from the nanny herself. I can't eat well and sleep well every day. I'm exhausted.

Every day, a stay-at-home mother wakes up countless times a night. When she was young, she fell asleep, she peed, she cried, she was going to eat milk ... When she got up in the morning, she kept cleaning and washing, cooking and feeding, washing dishes and doing housework, and maybe she was still crying. When the baby was young, he slept many times a day and fed many times. When he was fed, he could hardly do anything. She can only wait until the baby falls asleep. All kinds of washing and cleaning up the room, wanting to go to the toilet or take a bath, can only be solved quickly, even squatting with a crying baby ... When the baby is sick, he hangs on his mother day and night, holding her for a night, and Ma Bao can't eat or sleep, and almost collapses.

The hard work of taking care of your baby full-time is like a gyro. From morning till late at night, you can't tell what you have been busy with.

Full-time nanny is the second most difficult thing.

The hardest thing about taking care of a baby full-time is the deep loneliness. Once a person was in high spirits in the workplace, the world suddenly shrank to revolve around children and stoves every day. Children open their eyes and close their eyes every day, 24 hours a day, all year round, and even have no life at all. Especially when children are less than one year old, they hardly go out shopping and don't eat with anyone. The places they go to the most every day are parks and vegetable markets, and what they say the most is what one person says to the baby. People are all group animals. Only those who have experienced it can understand how lonely people have to bear without groups.

Full-time nanny is the third bitter.

The biggest grievance of full-time nanny comes from the disapproval of society and others. As long as people hear that you are a stay-at-home mom, they will feel how relaxed you are with Doby Jr. every day. People around you will think that you don't make money, just take care of the children. What's so tired? No one understands the hardship and helplessness of taking care of your children alone. There are only countless accusations that you are worthless. All you know is that spending your husband's money is of no value except taking care of your children. ...

The fourth pain of full-time baby-sitting.

Full-time nanny is not what others think of you, but what your husband and your family do to you. Once your husband thinks that you have nothing but babysitting every day, he is likely to become more and more condescending, don't understand, don't support you, and don't want to help you with housework and babysitting, then your relationship can be said to be in jeopardy.

Taking care of the baby full-time is really a painful process. When a precious mother wants to choose to take care of her baby full-time, as an experienced person, I hope this is a decision made after careful consideration, not an impulsive maternal love choice.

When you want to take full-time care of your baby, you'd better ask yourself these questions:

1. If you choose to take care of your baby full-time, do your husband and family understand and support you? Will your husband help you with the housework and take care of the children? It is precisely because my husband insists on doing this well that I dare to take care of my baby full-time for more than two years. No matter what others think and say, he can stand in front of me and block the pressure of public opinion. He helps me with my baby's housework every day when he comes back from work. He never used his hard work as an excuse to be the shopkeeper of cutting, and never looked down on me because I didn't make money with my baby full time. But consider my feelings everywhere and respect my decision. )

2. If you choose to take care of your baby full-time, can you make yourself have a strong heart, regardless of the views of society and others? Do you recognize yourself as a stay-at-home mom? At first, I was also very concerned about other people's opinions, and it was often a loss to hear what others said. However, during the period of taking care of the baby, I learned some self-improvement skills and tried to do some part-time jobs. It is these achievements that make me regain my sense of self-identity and make me strong enough to ignore public opinion. )

Are you fully prepared mentally and physically for the coming full-time nanny life? Can you stick to all that hard work? It's really hard to take care of the baby, but it's really fun to watch the baby grow up little by little. The baby grows only once, so I'm glad to witness her growth footprint every moment.

4. Are you willing to say goodbye to your world temporarily for your children? Taking care of your baby full-time may require you to spend more than 90% of your time with your child. Good single life and sweet two-person world will be greatly reduced. What accompanies you most is fatigue and loneliness. Can you really do it? It's really hard to take care of the baby full time. At this time, the role of the husband is very important. We should not only understand and support Ma Bao, but also help Ma Bao to take care of the children together. More importantly, we should find opportunities to take Ma Bao and his children out shopping, have a big meal, have dinner with friends, travel together, and occasionally give the children to the elderly to enjoy the sweetness of being alone. )

Finally, although a stay-at-home mother didn't go to work to earn money, she had to pay a lot to run a family by herself, keep the family in good order, feed the children well and educate them well. I hope this society can give more understanding and respect to stay-at-home mothers, and also hope that husbands can understand and support their wives more. Whether we take care of the baby full-time or work to earn money, we are all working hard for our family, no matter whether it is high or low. As long as the family is happy together, everything is worth it.

Stay-at-home mothers are those who quit their jobs to take care of their children because they have children or their children are too young. Yes, stay-at-home mothers don't have to go to work, punch cards, look at the boss's face and work overtime in the company. It looks so cool. However, there is a pain point that cannot be ignored: no income. Also, as a 24-hour on-call person, it is not easy for a stay-at-home mother to take care of her baby.

Don't envy stay-at-home mothers, even if they don't go to work, it's hard to take care of the baby. As a full-time mother, I summarize as follows:

1, on call 24 hours a day, unable to eat well, unable to sleep well and exhausted.

The main task of a stay-at-home mother is to take good care of the children. How many times does the baby wake up in one night, and how many times does the mother have to get up? Children need to be fed when they are hungry, changed diapers when they pee, coaxed when they cry, and helped to bathe, dress, put on socks and shoes. Clean up the children, but also clean up the house, wash clothes and mop the floor, cook and stir-fry, and in the process, the children keep crying, and sometimes they have to do these housework behind their backs.

When the meal is ready, the child is hungry and crying, and he has to be coaxed to feed him. When this and that are ready, the food will get cold. To put it bluntly, even going to the toilet is a hasty solution.

2. Different parenting styles make feeding prone to conflict.

Now everyone pays attention to scientific parenting, because there are different parenting methods and there have been many disputes with her mother-in-law. For example, before the age of one, complementary food does not add salt, when to wean, eat rice flour or feed porridge, and so on. Mother-in-law insists on the traditional way of raising children, thinking that children have no strength without salt; It is considered that pig bone porridge should be drunk at the beginning of adding complementary food, which is nutritious; It is believed that children can be weaned after 6 months, because milk has no nutrition. Really, it is very hard for full-time mothers to take care of their babies, especially it is even more difficult to adhere to the correct parenting style.

3. Doing the most is the most tiring, but there is no income.

Stay-at-home mothers do the most and are the most tired. They keep the house in good order, but there is no income. Sometimes if they want to buy something more expensive, they have to calculate whether they have enough money to spend. If you spend too much, there may be countless accusations that you only spend your husband's money and take care of the children.

At the end of the article, don't envy full-time mothers. Stay-at-home mothers don't just take their children to play. It is not easy to take care of a family full-time. They have to put in a lot of energy and effort. Therefore, please also respect stay-at-home mothers. Although they didn't go to work to earn money, they made great contributions and shouldered the problems of children's food and education.

Many people envy that stay-at-home mothers don't have to go to work, because they don't have to go out early and come home late, and they don't have to bask in the sun. It seems that I just take my baby to the park every day, so many people will say, "It's just taking a child. How tired can it be?" Most of the people who say this are the fathers of their children, because they always seem to be relaxed when they stand and talk, and they feel that it is easy to take care of the baby.

Many people say that they would rather go to work if they can. Why? Because you can go to work for 8 hours to 12 hours a day at most, you can finish the things within your work scope. As long as nothing goes wrong, I can still get a good salary every month, and I have a few days off every month, so I can recharge my batteries.

As for a stay-at-home mother, it seems easy, but in fact, there is no rest and no salary 24 hours a day, 365 days a year. It's natural for children to take good care of their children. It's all your fault not to take care of them. Spend a little more money and you will be scolded. I don't make money every day, but I still spend so much money. I wonder how difficult it is to make money.

I remember when I first gave birth to a baby, one day I had to take care of the baby alone and cook by myself. Every day, I have no food. After the baby fell asleep, I secretly cooked. Sometimes I start cooking lunch at eight or nine in the morning, and sometimes I stop eating at one or two in the afternoon. When you go to the toilet, your ears stand up like radar, for fear that your baby will wake up and fall.

In fact, there is nothing wrong with a full-time nanny, except that she is often rejected and does not make money.

Taking care of babies is never easy. I hope we can have more understanding and support for stay-at-home mothers.

As the saying goes, every family has its own problems. You envy stay-at-home mothers who take their children to work. From the point of view of stay-at-home mothers, stay-at-home mothers may also envy other people's work and life, and can be completely financially independent without bringing children. However, if everyone can consider and analyze the problem from their own perspective, the result may be different. In fact, as the saying goes, "every family has its own problems." Everyone in every industry has their own problems, but everyone doesn't know their own problems.

Stay-at-home mothers with children also have their own troubles:

1, a full-time mother with a baby, can't be completely alone financially, and the expenses of herself and her children are borne by the father of the child. In the face of rapidly rising prices, a family has to bear the daily expenses of cigarettes, oil, sauce, food, shelter and transportation in addition to raising children, which can easily lead to conflicts between husband and wife due to economic expenses, thus affecting their own harmonious feelings.

2. Full-time mothers with babies are often burdened with babies and busy housework. The housework is complicated and trivial, and children will encounter educational difficulties, refuse to listen to education and even rebel. Stay-at-home mothers are often physically and mentally exhausted.

3. Stay-at-home mothers should also act as teachers for their children in the process of taking care of them. In addition to busy housework, we should also guide our children to study and do their homework. If the child's learning foundation is poor and his interest in learning cannot be raised, it will be very difficult for his mother to guide him. I always feel that it is better to take my children to work full-time.

4. If the baby brought by a full-time mother is a baby, there will always be a feeling of being bound, because if you go, you will take the baby, your freedom will be bound and your time will be occupied.

It is not easy for full-time mothers to take care of their babies;

As the saying goes, I didn't know the hard work of this line until I had a job, and I didn't know the hard work of bringing a baby until I became a parent. Stay-at-home mothers, in particular, have a better understanding. They will personally realize the hard work of bringing a baby, and it is not easy to bring a baby. So, how to show that it is not easy for full-time mothers to take care of their babies?

1, taking care of the baby, doing housework, exhausted physically and mentally.

2. Bringing a baby will definitely involve educating children. Children don't understand and don't understand their mothers' good intentions, which makes their mothers feel that parenting is not easy.

3. Full-time nannies can't achieve complete economic independence, and couples may often have conflicts around economic expenses.

4. Faced with the differences in educational concepts between family members, disputes and contradictions often arise because of children's educational problems.

Mothers need respect and understanding to take full-time care of their babies;

Since it is not easy for full-time mothers to take care of their children, they need to be respected and understood. So, how to respect and understand?

1. Stay-at-home mothers can't be completely independent financially because they take care of the baby full-time. In addition, stay-at-home mothers are also consumers who need to spend money in daily life. It must be understood that this should provide effective economic protection for their reasonable consumption.

2. Research shows that long-term focus on doing one thing often leads to boredom. As the father of the child, he should be aware of this and take the initiative to help share the worries.

3. Regarding children's educational ideas, family members should communicate more, discuss educational views and share educational experiences.

I will answer, because I am a stay-at-home mother of four children. To tell the truth, others envy my mother, and my mother envies others. I know myself. I want to get up at 6 o'clock in the morning to cook for the students, wake them up to read, and dress the youngest child who just went to kindergarten. At the same time, I have to be busy cooking, washing my face and feeding the little ones. It's time for school before the meal is finished. Send the children away quickly, and when they come back, the food will be cold. Sometimes a little, sometimes not at all. I have to wash the dishes and tidy up the housework quickly, and I have to wash some clothes. These activities take at least an hour, almost after 9 am. After work, I have to hurry to buy food and prepare lunch. The children in junior high school will come back for dinner at noon, and I can't delay a minute. I have to pick up the kindergarten. Primary school children can go to school and eat with us, but it is also a lot of tasks to check carefully and sign homework carefully every day. If it is not good, it is difficult for teachers to call their parents directly to criticize. I really don't want to be a nanny, but there is no one to take care of our family. This is the fact that I am experiencing. Do you still envy the full-time nanny after reading it?

Being a full-time mother is really not easy, and it is more tiring than going to work! People who go to work have two days off on weekends, and stay-at-home mothers work 24 hours a day!

Mothers will be a little relaxed when their children go to kindergarten! If children get sick, mothers will accompany them to the hospital for injections. The child has a fever, and mothers may not sleep well for ten days at night!

Mothers will be busier when their children go to primary school! Make breakfast in the morning and send the children to school! Go home and clean up the kitchen after buying vegetables, make lunch, then pick up the children for lunch after school and clean up the kitchen! Send the children to school, go home and prepare dinner, and pick them up in the afternoon! It takes six times to go to school and leave school every day. If it's windy, rainy and snowy, you can only wait outside the campus for half an hour or an hour to pick up the children! Go home and clean up the kitchen after dinner at night! Help the children with their homework! Continue to prepare breakfast ingredients for the next day before going to bed! I have to pick up my children to go to cram school on weekends!

A full-time mother's day is so hard! Many people think that mothers are very relaxed at home, and there is an ethos in the whole society, that is, they look down on stay-at-home mothers and think that their palms are up and they want money from their husbands, and that they live a humble life! There are also many women who give their children to their grandparents at work and have a circle of friends, thinking that they are engaged in a great career! These women with a few silver dollars laugh at stay-at-home mothers. Compared with the growth of children, these women are ridiculous!

In my opinion, stay-at-home mom is great. They sacrificed themselves for their families and gave up their careers for their families! I put all my efforts into it! They accompany children to grow up. They deserve our respect. They are amazing women!