Briefly talk about the original ecological family

Growing up, the main power in our family has been concentrated in the hands of my mother. Usually my mother says one thing, but my brother and I don’t dare to say two things. Sometimes my father would say something, and then my mother would pull my brother and me to boycott him. That scene still seems funny when I think about it now.

The power in our family is really in the hands of our mother, whether it is financial or all kinds of big decisions.

Later, when I grew up, I began to realize that this was the desire for control. My mother’s desire for control was really not ordinary, but very strong. So much so that now after her brother gets married, she will feel very sad if he doesn't listen to her advice on some things. I feel like raising a son is useless.

Relatively speaking, my father is a fairly honest man. For the sake of family peace, my father usually "sucks up". But of course there will be times when two people have very different opinions, and in my memory there are times when parents quarrel and fight. But it's very rare. As I've grown up, I only remember this happening two or three times.

So generally speaking, I am still a child who grew up in a happy family life.

But because my mother has a strong character, there are some weak elements in my character. When I was a child, my mother would always scold me for some things, but I chose to endure silently when faced with her scolding. Over time, I began to fear my mother’s scolding.

I am also very touched by my father’s love. When I was a kid, my dad would help me block things to avoid my mom’s scolding. I remember when I was in high school, I dropped my Nokia phone. When dad found out, he said, you told mom you lent it to dad, and dad accidentally dropped it. This is something I still remember to this day. That time my father was scolded by my mother in front of me. I felt very guilty when I saw my father not speaking. Afterwards, my father said it was okay and the incident passed.

When I grew up, I also met some friends. Some of them were from single-parent families, some were from divorced families, and some were from remarried families. After listening to their stories, I was very moved. Compared with them, I am really happy. After all, my childhood was happy. But their childhoods were not so lucky. It takes them a lifetime to heal their childhood wounds.

The impact of an original ecological family on a person is huge, and this impact is profound to the core. So don’t start a family and have children easily before you have even thought about it. Because this affects two entire generations.