I call my uncles and aunts every Spring Festival, but they don't come to my house. Will I go in the future?

You can't blame your uncle and menstruation. As a junior, it is polite and proper for you to pay a New Year call to your elders after the Spring Festival every year. But your parents are dead. They can't pay New Year greetings to your younger generation as elders, can they? When your parents are here (even if they are alone), they should all come to pay New Year's greetings, so unless you invite your uncle and menstruation to visit, they will definitely come. Therefore, you should straighten out your role in interpersonal communication. Only the younger generation will pay a New Year call or worship the elders, which is different from visiting relatives and friends.

As the old saying goes, "Thunder in the sky, uncle in the ground", my uncle's position at home is very lofty. It is only natural for my nephew to pay a New Year call to my uncle during the Chinese New Year holiday, even if my mother dies, it will not be interrupted. This is a respect for my mother.

Where do we have such a custom? On the first day of the Spring Festival, it is a New Year greeting between in-laws, that is, between uncles and uncles: the second day begins. I'm going to my relatives' house, that is, my mother's house, mainly my uncle's house. If you get married in time, my uncle will be willing to forgive you for not going to his house in the first year, and you must go to my uncle's house first in the second year.

If both parents are here, or one parent is here, then my uncle's son will come to my parents' house to return the gift before the fifteenth day of the first month. You wouldn't have come without your parents. As for the reason, as we all know, it is impossible for my uncle's children to give you a New Year greeting on behalf of my uncle. In my hometown, you don't have a good tooth.

Festivals, such as Dragon Boat Festival and Mid-Autumn Festival, are only sent to my uncle, not sent back. This is an old gift. No savings, no losses. It has always been like this. This topic is a bit dramatic.

Menstruators look at local customs, which are not found anywhere in our family. Generally, menstrual families don't pay New Year's greetings on holidays, and mothers will visit their sisters at the right time.

I have been paying New Year greetings to my elders, but the children of my elders have never come to my house to pay New Year greetings.

When I was a child, I thought it was normal. My heart was cold until I heard a word.

Let me talk about my relationship at home now, because there are so many families on my mother's side, and my mother has many brothers and sisters.

I should call my uncle or aunt. Some of these children are older than me, some are younger than me, and the younger ones usually call me brother.

It is understandable that we have little contact on weekdays.

After all, I work in a big city in the south, and others either work in a big city in the north or work in other counties and towns.

We can't see each other all the year round, but when we can really meet, it may be the days of the New Year. During the Chinese New Year, according to the etiquette of generations or families, I need to kowtow to these relatives one by one, especially some elders.

For example, my big uncle and my second uncle; My third and fourth uncles pay New Year greetings to them. What makes me curious or puzzled is that my uncle's children have never come to my house to celebrate the New Year.

Some people are younger than me and should call me brother. Of course, they don't pay New Year greetings to me, they pay New Year greetings to my parents.

The reason is simple, because I call them uncles or aunts when I give them New Year greetings, but their children should call them aunts when they give my parents New Year greetings.

This is normal human communication or walking. After all, I went to pay a New Year call to them, and they should also pay a New Year call to me.

Some friends may not quite understand this custom. I'm not sure every city or place has it, but in our place, especially in the days after the New Year, the younger generation should pay a New Year call to their elders and get in touch with their feelings by the way.

Until one day, I was curious and couldn't help asking my mother: Why do I want to pay a New Year call to them, but they never pay a New Year call to our family?

After hearing this, my mother was quite puzzled and said, alas, I don't quite understand this either. Maybe their children are very busy and have something to do.

Until one day I went to my uncle's house to pay New Year's greetings. It should be two years ago, I went to ask my uncle, why? Why did I come to pay a New Year call to you? Won't your children pay New Year greetings to my parents?

Do you know what my uncle said? Uncle said, hey, it's just Chinese New Year, just for fun. The children can go if they want, but forget it if they don't want to. Aren't all the children busy?

After the big uncle said that, he subconsciously pointed to the child's room, and I entered a door in the direction of the big uncle's finger. There are two of my brothers in this room. Do you know what they are doing? Yes, playing games.

After reading it, I asked my uncle with an incredible face: What are they busy with? Are you busy with the game? Sorry, I don't need to say more about this game. It's fighting landlords. They are too busy. They are busy fighting landlords every day. Are they professional anchors or something?

After saying this, my uncle's face couldn't stand it, so he said, "When you first came, they were just resting. On weekdays, they are very busy. "

I later learned that my relatives, my great uncle and my second uncle didn't say not to pay New Year greetings to every relative. On the contrary, they just didn't pay New Year greetings to our poor relatives. Who are they going to pay New Year greetings to?

Give a New Year call to one of my uncle's children. Why do you want to pay New Year greetings to my uncle's children? Because my uncle is very powerful and can make money. Several of his children either run businesses or start companies, or even set up four companies in our county by themselves.

On weekdays, my uncle also likes to brag, always preaching to the younger generation: if you encounter difficulties or accidents in the future, come directly to me and help everyone in need.

But this uncle is just bragging. Although he has two money at home, he has never given any help to these relatives.

Even if it helps, it's just a few empty words, but even so, some of my relatives' children followed the magic to visit my uncle's house and never came to our house again. At this time, I realized that relatives are not only family members, but also power and even snobbery.

Then you have to ask me how this matter was solved, and it can't be solved. I politely told my parents that I wouldn't go to these relatives' houses to pay New Year greetings because they didn't come to our house at all.

When I finished this sentence, my parents looked at me strangely and accused me: no, you can't. It's their business that they don't come to our home to pay New Year's greetings, but we have to go to other people's homes to pay New Year's greetings.

This face must be done, otherwise it will be easily found fault by others.

Until this time, I was still disappointed when I saw my parents looking sad. I even told them about it on striking table, you know? Our relatives are snobs. They don't come to our home to pay New Year's greetings because we are poor.

They go to those relatives' homes to pay New Year greetings because they have money. What shall I do after I leave? Are you looked down upon?

After hearing this, my mother just said a word lightly: She said it was mutual affection, so we should do it well. Even if you don't go to see your big uncle and second uncle, you will only go to see your grandmother alone, okay? I'm going to worship this year

However, it is worth mentioning, or embarrassing, that I am gradually making a difference. Friends who are familiar with me know that I started a company and my life is not bad. Although I am rich or expensive, at least I have a good life among our brothers.

Do you know what strange things have happened? Since last year, to be exact, this year, that is, 10 months ago, my relatives who I haven't seen for a long time suddenly came to walk. They came to our house carrying big bags and small bags. Why?

Because some people have heard that I am very successful and can work in a big city, these relatives also come to our house to pay a New Year call this Spring Festival, that is, several children of my uncle's family.

After I read it, I just laughed coldly. Of course, I have to receive the reception. However, if my uncle and his family have any difficulties and ask me for help, I'm sorry I may not be able to help. After all, I don't like to brag as much as my uncle.

I have finished my business. Let's talk about each other. I often pay New Year greetings to my elders, but what if my elders' children don't pay New Year greetings themselves? Listen to me, first do these three things:

Click 1 to explain clearly why these younger generations don't come to pay New Year greetings to their families. Understand that the other person is also a child, and they are also children. The reason why children pay New Year greetings to their children is not for their children, but for their parents.

Whether you call your uncle or uncle or uncle, these are your elders. It's no problem to pay New Year greetings to the elders themselves, but should the children of the elders also come back to pay New Year greetings to their parents?

This is a normal process. You must not be embarrassed to mention it. You must understand why your children don't come to our house to pay a New Year call this year, and make this matter clear. If the other person is really in trouble, then help them along this topic.

But if the other children just don't want to come to their home to pay New Year's greetings, should we consider whether we should also refuse them and not go to their home to pay New Year's greetings?

Second, if there are family conflicts, we must communicate in time. In fact, sometimes it is a face-saving project to pay a New Year call instead of a New Year call. Hello, I am good to everyone, but some people are too lazy to do this face project. Why?

Because this face-saving project makes people feel humiliated, don't naively think that the Chinese New Year is a meal, but it is not.

In addition to eating this meal, it is more important to be able to handle the relationship with others in a short time and handle the affection, friendship and love with others.

This is very important. We haven't seen each other for many years, and we are all relatives. During the Chinese New Year, we were counting on chatting, but this person suddenly didn't come. You must find out when you have offended him.

If you really made a mistake on your side, take the time to bow your head and admit it. This is also a good time to celebrate the New Year. After all, we all have an old saying: Chinese New Year.

But if you didn't do anything wrong here, but the other party misunderstood you, you should also take the time to mediate. We are all relatives and have something to say, but if the other person simply doesn't want to pay a New Year call to himself and feels that he is worthless and unworthy, then there is no need for you to pay a New Year call to the other person.

Third, New Year greetings are about the world. This is about interpersonal relationships. Don't think I am too worldly, and don't think I am too dark inside. It's not necessary. We just need to understand, especially in the village, that this is the way about the world.

You respect me, I respect you, this is called a gift.

If you don't even have this etiquette, then you don't deserve respect from others. Although it is cruel, it is also realistic. You might as well taste it carefully.

First of all, you did a good job! What a sentient and righteous person! It has been more than twenty years since my parents died. Twenty years have passed, and you have always insisted on paying a New Year call to my uncle and aunt every year. Valuable, awe-inspiring!

My mother's uncle is big, and his house is also called "water source". Because my mother came out of this family and married her father, she had your family and gave birth to your brothers and sisters. So my uncle's house is like a water source, because there is water, it will become a river in the future. Think of the source of drinking water, but don't forget the root.

My aunt is my mother's sister, and she is also the one who calls you nephew, so my aunt is a very important relative. Seeing my aunt is like seeing my mother. It is also reasonable to pay a New Year call to menstruation.

Needless to say, growing up, your parents must take you to visit your uncle and aunt every year. It is said that this etiquette and custom will exert a subtle influence on you. Although your parents have passed away for many years, you still insist on paying New Year greetings to your uncles and aunts every year for twenty years. This is inheritance and inheritance, this is perseverance and perseverance, and this is also the power of faith and belief!

As the saying goes, reciprocity is indecent. After your parents died, you insisted on paying New Year greetings to your uncles and aunts for 20 years, which was very kind. But unfortunately, your uncle and aunt have never sent someone to pay a New Year call to your family, which is really a bit unexpected and puzzling. Probably because they think your mother is dead, and even your father is dead. When you are a second-generation relative, they may feel less intimate and affectionate than before, so they will no longer pay attention to it and don't want to walk around. There is an old saying in the countryside: first generation, second generation, third generation and fourth generation. This means that the first generation is true relatives, the second generation is only cousins, and the third and fourth generations are no longer relatives. You still insist on visiting New Year 20 years after your parents died. Of course, they can't control your actions, nor can they tell you not to go. But they can decide their own actions, and they may not have the freedom to go to your home for the New Year. Their coming or not is also an attitude and a signal.

So, what should you do next?

First, if your aunt and uncle are still alive, you should continue to pay New Year greetings to the end. Especially my uncle and mother. If my uncle is still alive, you should pay a New Year call to him every year. It doesn't matter if there is no one over there. This is another matter. It is unconditional to pay a New Year call to my uncle. Auntie, if Auntie is still alive, you can continue to pay New Year greetings. It's been 20 years. Why don't you finish what you started? It's not surprising that many people are polite anyway.

Second, if your aunts and uncles are gone, you can stop visiting them. All good things must come to an end, and all the elders have left. You already sent them away. Next, between peers, that is, between your cousins, you will walk around. That depends on your feelings, mood and actual situation. The actual situation now is: although you always pay a New Year call to your cousin, he never comes to see you, which means that they don't want to talk to you about relatives any more, so you don't have to go to your home to pay a New Year call. Otherwise, you go to your relatives' home every year to pay a New Year call, but they don't give you a New Year call, which makes them a little embarrassed. So don't pay New Year's greetings. One more thing is better than one less thing.

According to our custom and etiquette, as long as my uncle's period comes, my nephew will pay a New Year call. If your parents are still here, my uncle's and aunt's children should also come to pay a New Year call to them. If your parents are gone, they don't have to come, because New Year's greetings are to pay homage to their elders. If you really don't want to go, as long as you feel at ease, others have no reason to accuse you, and the result is to break up with them!

My parents died, too. My uncle was over 80 years old and my brother was 65 years old. I also pay a New Year call to my uncle every year.

It's no problem for your uncle and menstruation not to come to your house for the New Year. If you want them to be a guest to show your affection, you can invite them, otherwise they will always be elders, and their sisters are gone, so they can't come to their home on their own initiative. As for their children, your cousins depend on the mutual affection you got along with when you were young. It is normal to get along well and get along well. Some relatives naturally broke up in the second and third generations.

I call my uncles and aunts every Spring Festival, but they don't come to my house. Will I go in the future?

Let me answer your question. I think you should also go to the Spring Festival in the future. Because it is a traditional custom of our Chinese nation to visit relatives in the New Year and pay a New Year call to relatives, and it is a fine tradition of respecting the elderly. Aunt and uncle are your closest relatives. You should pay a New Year call to them. As for them not coming, it's because your parents are gone, and your uncles and aunts naturally don't have to come to pay New Year's greetings. Cousins of the same generation don't have to pay New Year greetings to each other. Although they don't have to pay a New Year call to you, you pay a New Year call to your aunt and uncle every year, which is not only a respect for them, but also a way to maintain family ties. If your children get married, you can also inform them to attend, because you are close relatives. You can ask each other for help if you have any difficulties. When you really need help, how many friends do you think besides these relatives can give you money to help others? If you don't pay New Year greetings to your uncles and aunts because they don't, others will think that you have no elders in your eyes, and your affection will gradually fade away. People around you will think you are cool thin's suspect.

First, take my husband's house as an example.

My mother-in-law often visits her house when her parents are around. Because the old man is old and lives with his son. Mother-in-law has a lot to do with her brothers. My mother-in-law is handy. Every time she goes to make a quilt for her mother, she will also make a quilt for her brother's house by the way. Usually, I also make cotton-padded clothes and shoes for my niece's and nephew's babies.

Our custom here is that my brother will pay a New Year call to his married sister during the Chinese New Year. So my husband's uncle will take the children to pay a New Year call to her mother-in-law. Of course, my husband, as a junior, is also going to pay a New Year call to grandma, grandpa, uncle and aunt. We should also go to such an important festival as Mid-Autumn Festival.

On the first Mid-Autumn Festival after the death of grandparents, my husband prepared gifts and prepared to visit my aunt and uncle. When I told my in-laws, my mother-in-law said, "Your uncle didn't come to see me, so don't go." My husband thinks that my uncle didn't come to see his sister because he didn't do well. But as a junior, he should go to see his uncle and don't care too much. Don't meet other relatives and ignore him? Why are you with him? Mother-in-law acquiesced, and her brother would not be really angry with him.

Second, the northern rural customs

During the Spring Festival in the northern countryside, some old people will pay attention to whose children will come to pay New Year greetings. Those who don't come to worship will keep it in mind and won't let their sons and daughters-in-law pass by. In fact, people don't care that much. What should people do for special reasons? Unless they really don't want to see each other again, that's another matter.

Third, take my home as an example.

Before she died, my mother told my father not to break up with her family after she died. Therefore, my father will go to my uncle's house for three paper burning festivals every year (Qingming, July 15th and October 1st). The old man is too cheeky. I don't know how to buy some burnt paper every time I go. It's a wry smile! Or does my sister go with him every year and even prepare gifts to burn paper? Dad just followed empty-handed.

My uncles are always hospitable. This year, my little brother moved to live in the city. On July 15, when my father and wife went, my uncle and aunt rushed back to their hometown to entertain their father. Cousins often visit their father, too. Of course, my brother will also go to my uncle and aunt's house during the Chinese New Year. Our cousins help each other when things go wrong. Every time I see my uncle and aunt, I feel very close. As I get older, I feel that their facial contours and smiles are more like my mother. Although my mother is gone, my uncle and aunt are her closest relatives besides us, and they are her brothers and sisters. We won't alienate them just because mom is not here.

Therefore, I advise you not to care whether they will come to your house on the New Year's Day. My uncle and aunt are your own flesh and blood, so it is right for you to visit them on the first day of New Year's Day. They will be happy to see you. You are also a child in front of them. Are you unhappy to be loved by your elders? I don't think you care about the gift and the trouble of going back and forth, just a little unbalanced, right? I have realized that at a certain age, the elderly around me have passed away one by one. Counting the closest people around you is getting less and less, and even ten fingers can't be counted. Cherish the rare family ties. Blood relatives are generally better than outsiders. No matter how good friends are, they are scattered, but their loved ones are different, which hurts the muscles and bones. Unless it's a strange flower and grass that doesn't make sense. As for distant relatives, they generally focus on the overall situation and communicate with each other more. Personal opinion, don't spray if you don't like it!

First of all, there is nothing wrong with what you did. Since parents are gone, we can pay a New Year call to the elders as a gift for the younger generation. According to our rules, uncle and aunt are two different concepts, so it is appropriate to give them a New Year greeting. Aunt and uncle are different and belong to reciprocity.

My uncles and aunts, and of course my grandparents. This is the elder you should naturally respect. When they are alive, they will have a ceremony for their grandchildren and nephews. Every Mid-Autumn Festival and Spring Festival, they always give gifts and pay New Year greetings. Even if they never associate with you, obey the rules. You have to wait for them 100 years before you can finish the task, and then you will be equal when you get to your cousin. You can't go if they don't come.

Aunt and uncle are different. According to what you described in the title, you don't need to pay attention to them at all. There are no rules for giving them New Year greetings and gifts. On the contrary, they need to care about you more, because your parents are gone. As uncles and aunts, we should care and support the younger generation. Under normal circumstances, they treat you as a nephew, so that you can get the respect you deserve!

I don't think so. After my father-in-law died, my second uncle and brother-in-law broke off contact with their second uncle, but my husband always insisted on visiting their second uncle's house during the Spring Festival and never left them. The family spent 200 yuan to save money for four old people to buy some gifts. What my husband and I mean is that even if my mother-in-law dies in the future, he will still take his two uncles everywhere. After all, when they were young, their three brothers often went to my uncle's house to play, and my uncles were also very kind to their three nephews. We don't care if people have a conscience, but we have a conscience anyway. I hope our filial piety can touch God and make our daughter succeed in the future. Moreover, my uncle and menstruation are elders, so I don't need to pay a New Year call to you.

Courtesy is reciprocated. You visit them, and their children visit your parents. If you don't visit your parents more, you can tell them, because if you don't visit my parents, I won't visit you.

Personal opinion: It is natural for you to visit your uncle and aunt's house with gifts every Spring Festival.

As for you, it is understandable that they don't come to your home to pay New Year's greetings. I don't know your customs there. In our hometown, the younger generation pays New Year greetings to the elders, and the elders don't pay New Year greetings to the younger generation.

For example, your parents have died, but your parents' peers are still alive. You should pay a New Year call to them every Spring Festival. This is respect for the elderly, and you must do it. They don't have to pay a New Year call to you, but if they know how to reciprocate, they will let their children pay a New Year call to you. They are elders and won't give you a New Year greeting in person.

In addition to New Year greetings, if your uncle or month has a birthday, or you know they have to arrange it, you should also give them a birthday. There are not many gifts, as long as there are human feelings. This is also necessary etiquette.

When my parents were alive, I had a distant relative whose parents were my contemporaries. Her parents are gone, but every year on my mother's birthday, she comes to celebrate her birthday. Although the gift she brought was simple, including a pack of snacks and steamed peaches, it was very emotional. So their family has something to do, and our family will definitely go. This is reciprocity.

If your uncle and menstruation are gone, only your peers are left. They get along very well and don't want to communicate with each other, so there is no need to pay a New Year call during the Spring Festival. If you get along well, you can walk around each other during the Spring Festival.