My child is two years old and I am very excited when there are people at home.

This is a typical phenomenon of "people coming crazy".

Reason1-After entering infancy, children's self-control ability has gradually increased, but overall, children's self-control ability has just begun to develop. They often can't control themselves, act impulsively, and their self-control behavior will change with the situation, which makes them have jet lag. When there are guests at home, guests often praise or play with children. At this time, parents are more tolerant, and most of them are unwilling to scold their children in front of the guests. When children perceive this change, they will use this opportunity to liberate themselves, making it more difficult to control their words and deeds.

Suggestion: The development of children's self-control ability is influenced by genetic factors (such as temperament type), but acquired factors such as environment and education play a decisive role. Parents can put forward consistent and reasonable basic rules of behavior to their children (such as basic courtesy of hospitality at home, etc.). ), and when children can do it, they should be praised and encouraged in time. When children are forbidden to do something they shouldn't do, they should pay special attention to guiding them to do something they can at the same time. Grandpa, grandma, parents and other family members should have the same requirements for their children, and these basic requirements should not change with the situation, because children's self-control behavior often varies from person to person and from occasion to occasion. Reasonable behavior rules with consistency and coherence can help improve children's self-control ability. In addition, parents can help children learn to evaluate their own behaviors, such as guiding children to compare their own behaviors with others, and gradually strengthening children's internal regulation of their own behaviors.

The second reason is that children's communication needs are not met. Many parents seldom take their children out for a walk because of their busy work. Children always deal with family, toys or TV at home, and their social circle is narrow. When there are guests at home, I will feel curious and excited, and I hope others will pay attention to me. If the host and guest talk and ignore the child, the child will feel left out psychologically and will consciously make some abnormal behaviors to attract the attention of adults. When they found that adults began to pay attention to themselves, they tried their best to express themselves. Maybe they know that they will be criticized for some misconduct, but they are still satisfied.

Suggestion: Create more opportunities for children to get in touch with the outside world, such as inviting neighbors and friends to their homes and taking children to some parties or group activities to reduce the freshness of children seeing strangers. On the occasion of strangers, take the initiative to introduce children to others, so that children don't feel left out, and adults can talk or engage in activities. If children don't need to avoid, they can be allowed to participate.

Reason 3-Parents' overindulgence or harshness. At present, many children in China live in one-child families, which makes children's "self-centeredness" intensified. Some families spoil their children too much, giving them all the satisfaction regardless of whether their demands are reasonable or not, making them selfish and willful, turning a deaf ear to their parents' words in front of guests and making trouble without reason; However, some families have high expectations for their children and are very strict with them, which seriously inhibits their playful nature. With guests present, parents pay more attention to hospitality, and children often seize the opportunity to release themselves.

Suggestions: Learn more about the characteristics of children's physical and mental development, change the over-indulgent or over-strict parenting style, gradually accumulate appropriate educational methods, communicate with children more on the premise of creating a harmonious family atmosphere, and set an example for children with their own words and deeds in daily life, so that children can spend their childhood happily.