Phoenix man's wedding bride price has been changed from 66,000 to 20,000, requiring an RV! The reason is that you have money and you pay for it. what do you think?

As the saying goes, "Don't marry a Phoenix man or a Peacock woman."

The word "Phoenix Man" originally meant that boys in poor areas studied hard and eventually became "golden phoenix flying out of the mountain nest", thus bringing hope to a family transformation.

However, with the development of society, this type of boy always gives people a bad impression in marriage, so gradually "Phoenix Man" has become a derogatory term.

But it doesn't mean that all boys from poor areas are this type of people. We also see that many boys from poor areas still maintain a supercilious attitude and get along with people around them. They always insist on:

"You invite me to dinner, I invite you back, you give me a gift, I give you a gift, you take care of me financially, and I take care of you in life." Never be too greedy for other people's efforts, these people can often be respected by others.

But since the word "Phoenix Man" can be popularized, it shows that these boys still exist widely. They are greedy for each other's efforts and always think: "I am poor and I am reasonable, and you are rich and you pay the bill";

In marriage, they are insatiable about the assets of the woman's family, eager to pay 1 in the gift money and get 2, so these boys are gradually despised by the society.

"Phoenix Man" like this often doesn't know how to be grateful. He thinks he is good enough, which is the hope of his family. He thinks that ordinary girls can't afford it. He always likes to find some girls with better family conditions and then "want".

So gradually, people began to despise or look down on "Phoenix Men", mostly because they ruined their reputation.

Emotional case:

The girl Xiao Yang is a member of the love of Phoenix Man. Xiao Yang and her boyfriend have been together since high school. At that time, her boyfriend "Gao Fushuai" met the other two requirements besides wealth, with good academic performance and handsome sunshine. At that time, he also charmed many school girls.

Therefore, with such a boy, she especially cherishes and looks forward to her future life. As Xiao Yang said, "We agreed to enter the same university together in the future, and then the young couple will grow old together."

Sure enough, they got into the same university as they wished. Their relationship was also stable during college. Two years after they left the society, they also reached the age of talking about marriage.

The woman's family has long heard that the man's family is not good, but his daughter is their only treasure, thinking that the future life is not good, and they have not stopped their love too much.

Xiao Yang's parents simply think that the man is only poor in family conditions and think: "My daughter likes boys for so many years, and her personality conditions should not be too bad." I invited the boy to meet me at home.

When we meet for the first time, according to the woman's rules, we should bring alcohol and tobacco to the woman's father, some health products to the woman's mother, and then give the woman's parents a small red envelope as a gift. The woman will also give him a big red envelope and a gift, which are equally suitable.

It's also because Xiao Yang didn't talk to her boyfriend in advance. The boy bought some fruits and gift boxes at random on his first visit. She saw it and had to take him to buy it again.

She is also considerate of her boyfriend. After all, after all these years together, she knew what kind of person he was and thought, "Maybe it's because their customs are different from ours!" " "

Xiao Yang's parents didn't have much opinion when they first met the boy. After all, boys are still handsome and self-motivated in their careers. Although his family's family is poor, they don't have much to do with seeing his daughter like it so much. Let's talk about the bride price:

"According to our custom, the bride price is required to be 66,000 yuan, of which the jewelry money is about 1000 yuan. Secondly, we will buy you a scooter within 200,000 as a dowry. " Xiao Yang's boyfriend also agreed, and the two sides communicated with each other to meet the two families and finalize the wedding date.

At that time, Xiao Yang's boyfriend went back to discuss with his parents and told her that there was no problem. Unexpectedly, at the end of the family meeting, the man's mother didn't say this, suddenly changed to say:

"The bride price you ask for here is too high. As you know, our family is relatively poor. The two children have been together for so long, and their feelings are visible. The wedding is just a formality. They are the real living people. Do you think this gift can be less? "

Xiao Yang's parents also agreed with the man and mother, so they asked how much they thought was appropriate.

The man's mother said firmly, "Twenty thousand yuan includes jewelry money. You can buy a car. If you have money at home, you can pay more. Our family doesn't have that much money. There will be a large expenditure on wine. "

In the face of future mother's rudeness, Xiao Yang's parents are naturally rude: "At the beginning, we all agreed, and now we regret it. Twenty thousand dollars is too unreasonable. We didn't raise our daughter so big to get rich by getting married, but is your attitude a bit like "sending beggars away"? "

The man's mother didn't realize her mistake at all, thinking that the woman's family looked down on her own, and the two families had a dispute. Finally, under the anger of Xiao Yang's father, the quarrel stopped.

Who knows that the man's mother shouted at the top of her voice: "There are so many bride price anyway. Your daughter slept with my son for so long and had an abortion once. Who needs this prostitute except our family! "

Everyone present at that time was dumbfounded. Xiao Yang's father was so angry that he slapped her on the spot and pointed to the door to let the boy and her mother go out.

Afterwards, Xiao Yang was very sad and took the initiative to ask her boyfriend for peace, and said that in fact, their family had prepared a suite for her. On the same day, the boy brought his parents to apologize, but they all threw Xiao Yang's parents out of the door, locked Xiao Yang at home, and refused her to associate with the boy. Their feelings finally broke down.

With the forgiveness of his mother, Xiao Yang gradually got out of this relationship and accepted the blind date arranged by his family. Finally, she married a boy who was quite close to her family. The boy's parents also attached great importance to Xiao Yang, fearing that she would not be guaranteed after marriage, and promised to write only her name in the wedding room. They really lived a long time.

In retrospect, Xiao Yang realized how right his parents were. She is very grateful. Her mother knelt in front of her and said, "Parents are doing this for your own good. Marrying such a family will ruin your life. "

Emotional advice:

In this relationship of Xiao Yang, Xiao Yang really has to thank his parents for their rude feelings, so that he didn't set foot on this "fire pit". Many times, young people always think that it is good to love each other, but they have never thought about how to live in the future.

The role of parents is very important at this time. They have gone through the stage we have experienced, and they have seen the love that we are so interested in. They can predict that their future marriage life will be like this. Poverty is not the biggest problem in a wedding, but the personality and selfish behavior of a family are the biggest stumbling block to marriage.

As the saying goes, "a leopard cannot change his spots", and the family's personality greatly affects the marriage life. In the face of bottomless greed, there is no room for them to change how much energy they need to fight against them.

Finally, I want to give it to all women before marriage: when you meet the "Phoenix Man", you must choose carefully, and maybe you will be responsible for your love after many years.

It is not unreasonable for people in society to despise "Phoenix Man". Because of the poverty of families, they often have psychological polarization, such as inferiority or conceit;

People with low self-esteem can't touch their weaknesses, and conceited people feel that they are very powerful. They have worked hard to get to this point. They get along with others with utilitarianism and pave the way for their own goals.

Secondly, a large part of boys like this still don't know how to be grateful. After living a rich life, there will be more "bad wives" incidents, and eventually they will die of heartbreak. Therefore, unmarried women must learn to polish their eyes and know people.