Are most older leftover men selfish?

As social competition becomes more and more intense, the phenomenon of "leftover older men" is becoming more and more common. Some of them do nothing throughout their lives, while others become famous. Among these "elderly leftover men", there is a group of people who are not only successful in their careers, but also exuding charm.

They are often pursued by young and beautiful women around them, but rarely fall in love with them. This is directly related to their social experience and social views on love. Why do I particularly emphasize the word "society"? Because their value orientation is often guided by social values, which is a unique characteristic of a man with thirty or forty years of life experience.

In general, high-quality "old leftover men" mainly have three characteristics.

1. Hypocrisy

Unlike men with rich emotional experiences, these men often only have one relationship experience or even none at all. Therefore, they tend to be emotionally reserved and objective in their sentences. That would be hypocritical. The simplest example is that if he likes someone, he will act very "pretentious", such as deliberately having conflicts with her, covering up his true feelings, etc.

Especially, if the person he likes happens to be liked by his friends, then he can let go and then use forceful words to convince himself and the people around him. Although he will not admit that he likes her, he will not deny that "suffering" is his subconscious approach, because this is how he has endured the hardships of life. He just borrowed this set of life experiences for his relationship. .

So, women’s idea of ??“men will take the initiative to find you if they like you” doesn’t work on them at all. The only way is to force them to admit their feelings.

2. Look forward and look back

To become a high-quality "elderly leftover man", you must have experienced many ups and downs in life and shouldered various burdens in life. Life is a living purgatory. They chew up all the pain in their hearts and swallow it in their stomachs, and then continue to struggle.

They must learn to make choices. When they were young, they gave up love for career choices, and gave up stable jobs for better career development prospects. They have been fighting against fate all their lives, winning and losing.

These life experiences will make them less and less able to understand the laws of emotions, because they have lived according to their own laws. Therefore, they have to look forward and backward no matter what they do, for fear that no one's interests will be balanced, and for fear that the balance they strive to maintain will be broken.

3. A sharp tongue but a soft heart

"Chat with you in a barbed way. In this way, even if he is hated by you, you will not be hurt." Use this sentence There's no better way to describe their inner feelings. Of course, they don't treat everyone like this. People who can be treated like this must be very special.

For example, if the person he likes doesn't like him, or the person he likes can't be together for various reasons, he will behave in a mysterious way, and sometimes they don't know why. It will be like this. Maybe it's because they are particularly afraid of being hurt emotionally, so they protect themselves in this way, and at the same time they hurt themselves.

The above three points are the main reasons why they become "older leftover men". They bear too many responsibilities and pressures in life, but they do not know what kind of men they are with emotional intelligence.

< p>Generally speaking, leftover men are very career-minded men. Maybe when others are in love, he just wants to do his job well, but when others are getting married, he is still busy with his job. For this type of man, love can only be considered if he has a successful career. So, if you find that there are leftover men around you, you can also observe them. Because most of them are busy with their work all day long, they have an indifferent attitude towards others who want to introduce them to their girlfriends. In his eyes, a man should work hard on his career when he is young. Only when he is successful at work can he have the confidence to fall in love. But he forgot that while he was busy working, his peers had already experienced love and marriage, but he became a leftover man.

What are the general characteristics of leftover men

1. Boys who don’t pay attention to their image at all.

This is a huge trouble. I have talked about the issue of boys’ image many times before. In fact, in the eyes of girls, image is very important, but many people just don’t listen.

I don’t care whether the clothes fit me or not, or my sneakers are full of dust if I haven’t washed them for a few days. My whole face is as greasy as a "pig's head". My lips are dry and cracked in winter, so I don't know how to apply lipstick. In fact, when it comes to image, we don’t want to compare with those celebrities. We are all ordinary people and we don’t need to be too glamorous, but you have to be neat and tidy to make people look comfortable. Boys who don't pay attention to their image are really likely to develop into older leftover men.

2. Boys who are too picky.

Don’t think that single boys are not picky. Some boys are very picky. Of course, they often have some small capital, for example, they have a particularly handsome face, or they have several houses at home. These look like pretty good capital. But in fact, I can be sure that they will not be particularly handsome or rich, because in these two situations, they will not be single. Many little girls will be very proactive when they see outstanding boys. These are the ones who always feel that they are excellent and that the girls around them are not worthy of them, but the ones they like don't want them. They also refused to make the effort to catch up. Over a long period of time, it is easy for such people to stay alone, and in the end they are left ruthlessly.

What's wrong with leftover men?

There must be a reason why a man would rather become a leftover man than get married, but you can't say that there is something wrong with him. He may just be because Been emotionally hurt. Because every man must have had more or less relationships when he was young. Maybe he was betrayed by his girlfriend when he was in a certain relationship before, and that relationship was also the time when he was most affectionate, so He was immersed in the hurt of betrayal for a while, and it took him a long time to force himself to forget about it. This resulted in a scar in his heart, which caused him to never dare to fall in love again, and he was afraid of emotional matters because there was a shadow in his heart. He was afraid that he would be severely betrayed when he had given a lot, so he was reluctant to fall in love or get married. This is all because he has a emotional injury in his heart, so he never dares to take this step easily again.

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