Ma Bao has no time to clean the room when he is taking care of the children alone. Mother-in-law always says that her daughter-in-law is timid, right?

"Ma Bao has no time to clean the room alone with her children. My mother-in-law always says that my daughter-in-law is timid, right? "

My answer is, no.

I am a nanny myself, so I know exactly what it's like to take care of the children alone. "That's a person's shuddering", which is really appropriate to describe.

Mom is a 24-hour, 24-hour career.

Get up early during the day, take care of children's eating, drinking, eating, studying, washing and cooking, every detail. Dare not sleep at night. I always get up several times a night to see if the children sleep well. Did you kick the quilt? The mental state of the whole person can be described in two words, "tired" and "tired".

My mother-in-law is in poor health and can't take care of my children. But every time she comes, she will buy me food, rice and help me clean my room.

Shouldn't families be considerate and caring for each other?

I don't think a family needs to be so clear. Everyone is responsible for housework, and whoever has time can do more. My mother-in-law is also a daughter-in-law. If you have time to complain, why not start sharing some housework?

Look on coldly or cynically, it will only lead to family conflicts, and if the conflicts escalate seriously, it will even lead to family breakdown.

As an elder, if she really loves her children, I don't think this mother-in-law wants to see bad results, right?

I think family members should learn to put themselves in other's shoes, be considerate and share with each other, instead of complaining and accusing blindly. Are you right?

I am a floating wind, a person's nanny. I hope my answer can help you.

I think it's wrong for my mother-in-law to do so.

Because it's really hard for Ma Bao to take care of the children alone, even if it's really Ma Bao's cowardice, it shouldn't be said by her mother-in-law.

I think of a colleague's mother-in-law, and I did well!

Shortly after my colleagues got married, my mother-in-law opened the door with the key to deliver meals to the young couple. Seeing young people living in a messy new house, I began to help them clean up. She washed clothes, polished doors and windows, and cleaned up all the mess. Then he left the key to his son's house and left. Didn't mention it when I saw my son and daughter-in-law.

Colleagues learned this from me, and I said that her mother-in-law is a very smart and good mother-in-law, with appropriate limits. She did so and told her son and daughter-in-law:

First, she can't stand such a mess;

Second, I will give you a sample of what a home should look like;

Third, respect each other and maintain dignity (don't criticize your daughter-in-law, don't be mean and then take charge).

As a son and daughter-in-law, it is really necessary to keep the house clean and tidy, but because the baby, as a mother-in-law, can help, but if you can't help, you can't see it. Never mind! Don't interfere in other people's lives, one by one.

Ma Bao takes care of the children by herself. If her mother-in-law doesn't help, don't judge. It is wrong to always say that her daughter-in-law is timid. Ma Bao doesn't tidy the house, but she also needs to be corrected.

Because children need all-round care, Ma Bao takes care of children alone, and sometimes it is difficult to have time and energy to take care of others. After all, children's health and safety are more important than a clean environment.

Mother-in-law always accuses her daughter-in-law of not cleaning up the house and always says that her daughter-in-law is timid. Apart from increasing family conflicts and affecting the feelings of husband and wife, it can't solve any practical problems. What's more, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law turned against each other and the marriage broke down.

First of all, the mother-in-law should be an understanding elder and understand the daughter-in-law's hard work. Give a helping hand when necessary, don't just say fast. When the son and daughter-in-law encounter difficulties, the parents-in-law lend a helping hand, take time out to help take care of the children, and let the daughter-in-law free up her hands to clean up the house and do housework. A happy family is better than a bad word.

Secondly, the daughter-in-law should be a hardworking and virtuous mistress and listen to her mother-in-law's suggestions and opinions. If the mother-in-law says that the house is dirty and messy and dislikes her daughter-in-law, it is not malicious. We must find ways to improve the hygiene of our living environment. After all, the healthy growth of children is inseparable from a clean and orderly environment. There is always time to squeeze, but it is more difficult.

Finally, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are a family, sharing weal and woe and maintaining each other. Whether the daughter-in-law is sloppy or the mother-in-law is nosy, it is a small problem within the family, which is not suitable for publicity and intensifies contradictions. In the eyes of outsiders, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are a family, tearing each other apart, blaming each other and belittling each other, which can only become the talk of others after dinner.

To sum up, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is inherently bad, and it is even more impossible to go online because of such a trivial matter. In life, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are a family. They should tolerate each other, safeguard each other's interests, ignore trivial matters and make the family's dirty laundry public, so as to maintain the harmonious atmosphere of the family and make everything go smoothly. Don't dwell on your mother-in-law's evaluation. You know you've worked hard. You've done your best for your family and your children. Don't care what others say about you. Don't give yourself to others for evaluation. You don't need her to give you a certificate. Similarly, just listen to her bad words and don't take it to heart. After all, your mouth is on someone else, and you can't control it. But your ears and heart are on you, and you can choose to close them.

And you can put down your face and let her talk. It's best to tell the neighbors that "the daughter-in-law and children's homes are messy and dirty." The less you care, the more she finds it boring to say you.

People who have taken care of children know the hard work of taking care of their babies and are busy with all kinds of housework, while a baby has many things to do alone, such as feeding, sleeping, making complementary food, taking the baby out for a walk and so on, which all take time.

Besides, it takes a lot of time to sweep the floor, wash clothes, pack things and have three meals a day at home. Especially for babies who are young and wake up at night to change diapers and feed, it is even worse. Mom didn't sleep well.

Therefore, it's not too hard for a nanny to take care of her baby alone. Your most important task at this stage is to take good care of your children and make them grow up healthily and happily, which is your irreplaceable contribution to your family. Don't pursue perfection, a person's ability is limited, of course, do the most important things well first.

It is also very important that you should communicate with your husband and strive for his understanding, support and help. Let him see what you have done, where is the focus of the family at this stage, and which is more important than housework and children. A happy mother and a harmonious and friendly family are the spiritual food for the healthy growth of the baby.

Come on, Ma Bao!

This kind of mother-in-law is purely a nosy woman. Stay away, or the family will fall apart.

I have seen such a mother-in-law. Let me give you a few examples:

Example 1: I didn't make cotton-padded clothes and trousers for my grandson, but my daughter-in-law couldn't, so she learned to do it. My mother-in-law told everyone that her daughter-in-law is all thumbs and can't even do needlework well.

Example 2: I often teach my daughter-in-law to be a good wife and mother, but I often scold my wife for training her children and even get drunk.

Ex. 3: I often accuse my daughter-in-law of being lazy and timid at home, but her own kitchen is messy, the basket is moldy and the wok never washes. After cooking, she cooks the next meal.

As a result of many things, one son divorced and the other husband and wife separated.

Her mother-in-law can't help it, so she immediately called her husband and told him to go home and tidy up the house. There is no daughter-in-law at home. He's in on it.

Every mother-in-law wants to marry a diligent daughter-in-law BMW and take care of the children alone. It doesn't make sense to say that she doesn't have time to clean the house. It is said that it is not easy for her to take care of the children alone, and it is very, very hard.

But if you don't even have time to clean the house, it's just an excuse, just a treasure mother who doesn't like to clean the house.

How can a lazy daughter-in-law and mother-in-law value it? Even my husband doesn't want to marry such a wife. Since the mother-in-law pointed out the shortcomings of the daughter-in-law, the daughter-in-law should self-examine, and then try to change herself and correct her mistakes.

You shouldn't complain about your mother-in-law You shouldn't say you shouldn't care You shouldn't be self-righteous. You are not the emperor. You can't even talk? People who don't accept criticism will never see the back of their heads and live in the wrong world forever.

At home, your family can tolerate you, and no one in society is used to you. If you form bad habits, you will not only be hated at home, but also be discriminated against in society.

If you want to be a good daughter-in-law, you must have a sense of self-improvement and strive to make yourself better. Don't say that you don't have time to do anything just because you have children. Leave the housework to your husband who is working hard outside and to your elderly and sick mother-in-law.

This is really not a good wife. Not only by her mother-in-law, but also by her husband. She must change herself, otherwise the future will be very difficult.

Unable to empathize, this is the root of many mother-in-law problems.

This is of course wrong. A daughter-in-law is not a daughter, so she can't speak her mind, just as a daughter-in-law can't give advice to her mother-in-law like her mother.

I'm a nanny, too. I take care of the children myself. Even if I did, I wouldn't have time to clean my house. Even if there is, it is only done in a hurry, and there is no time to clean it up carefully.

Every time my mother-in-law comes over, the house is not very tidy, and families with children throw toys around, which looks particularly messy. But my mother-in-law will tell me every time she comes, it's hard work. Sometimes I feel a little embarrassed about the mess at home, but she will say that it is very hard to take care of the baby and it is normal to have no time to clean up. Then, after dinner, she will start to tidy up the whole thing by the way, sort it out and clean it up.

I'm sure she has a problem with my mother-in-law, but she never says anything, but starts to do it herself. While doing this, she will also tell me some tips on how to take the time to organize quickly when taking care of children.

This is actually telling me to tidy up my house by action, but I didn't say anything, and this way made me accept it easily, so there was almost no problem between us.

If your mother-in-law says you are timid in front of you, obviously she doesn't respect you very much and doesn't treat you as a daughter-in-law, then as a daughter-in-law, you also need to show your wisdom and courage to make your mother-in-law respect you and recognize you.

Seeing your question, I thought of something and shared it with you, hoping to alleviate your sadness.

A mother went to her daughter's house and saw her daughter's things thrown everywhere. Her mother muttered, "Oh, my daughter is too tired to take care of the children. You have no time to clean at home. Let me tidy up quickly. " I saw my mother sweeping the floor, wiping the table and taking out the garbage, and soon cleaned the house.

Or the mother who went to her daughter-in-law's house. Seeing my daughter-in-law's house is also a mess. Mother is still muttering: "If you don't go to work all day, you will take care of your children at home and make your home dirty. You don't know how to clean up. The child is asleep, has time, and doesn't know how to clean up when lying down playing with his mobile phone. My son married this wife. "

Did you laugh or be silent when you saw this? Children are all their hobbies, don't be angry.

People can say whatever they want. If we can shut them up, we'll pretend not to hear. Never confront your mother-in-law.

In the evening, you can talk to your husband and ask him to tell his mother that my wife doesn't like this kind of conversation. She is tired to get you a granddaughter at home. Forget it if you don't help. Your daughter-in-law left the child here, but you will look after the child, scare her and look at her.

Nonsense.

Personal opinion, don't spray if you don't like it.

Constantly accusing ("always saying that the daughter-in-law is timid") will only make things worse.

First of all, it is really difficult for Ma Bao to take care of her children alone. Eating and drinking Lazarus takes a lot of experience. When children were very young, they didn't eat and sleep regularly, and Ma Bao couldn't get a good rest.

Taking care of children is the first priority, and cleaning the house should be the second. It's normal to have no time to tidy up the house, so it should be understood.

Secondly, talk about mother-in-law. As an experienced person, she may be stronger, but she can't impose her wishes on her daughter-in-law. It is better to do it than to make irresponsible remarks.

Constant accusations will only create contradictions, but will not solve problems. If the child is just full moon, it is more important to care about the health and mood of the daughter-in-law. There are many people with postpartum depression.

Another situation is that the daughter-in-law is dissatisfied with the birth of a girl, and it is even more undesirable to take it out on her.

If you don't like it, either do it yourself or stay away. Don't make trouble unless you help. In Thirty, Gu Jia's father once said, "It is not easy for my daughter to achieve what she has achieved today. If I don't help, forget it. I can't give her any more trouble. " Although this is a daughter-in-law, isn't this also a son in disguise?

Finally, in this case, the daughter-in-law should not insist. If she can't communicate well with her mother-in-law, let her husband talk. Don't put your wife through the pain of giving birth.

I believe that sincere communication can really solve the problem, and constant accusations will only make things worse.