What should I do if I don’t have my own home when I get old, and my children take turns living in each other’s homes, depending on the looks of my son and daughter-in-law?

When people grow old and don’t have their own homes, they take turns living in their children’s homes. Some people also have their own homes when they grow old, but when they get older and cannot take care of themselves in daily life, they have to take turns living in their children’s homes. Regardless of whether they have a nest or not, taking turns living there is not good for the elderly.

I have a colleague, and everyone says her mother is a blessed old man. Her husband died early and she never remarried. She raised six children by herself. She was also a strong woman when she was young. After the six children grew up, they each started families and started careers. They were separated one by one. In the end, the old man lived alone. It was her own request. She has always been in good health and can cope with daily life by herself. When I was 80 years old, there was a car accident in front of my house. I thought the old lady would just walk away. Unexpectedly, an old man who lost a leg in a car accident managed to survive, but from then on he could only sit in a wheelchair and needed someone to take care of him for daily life. After discussion among the six children, they decided that the old lady should take turns living with each other, one family for two months. The old lady was unwilling to leave her small yard. Considering that some of the children had not yet retired, she asked each of the children to come to her house to take care of her for 24 hours a week. During these 24 hours, the child whose turn it was must be 24 hours a day. Hours are here. The six children were very filial and agreed one by one. Just like this, six years have passed, and now the old lady is still well and her family is full of children and grandchildren during the holidays. What a happy old age.

Taking turns to live makes the elderly feel insecure. As we get older, we get less sleep, and some people still sleep in bed, which is really a hassle. If you are filial, try to meet the requirements of the elderly. As long as it is not excessive, everything is as it should be.

My father-in-law has an apartment and two sons. He then gave the house to the eldest son and said that this is the rule here. Even when I was in confinement, I was not allowed to enter the house. A shed was set up at the front door, with a plastic sheet roof, wheat straw for the bed, and tattered quilts for the door. Our family of three lived in front of the house for a month in temperatures below freezing in Anhui. Now we don't ask him for a dime when we buy a house or a car at my parents' place. All the money he earns is given to his boss. When he gets sick, he asks us for money. Now he has been kicked out by his boss and wants to come to my home to take care of himself. I gave him 10,000 yuan. That’s what he said at the time. It cost 10,000 yuan to build the house twenty years ago. Now if you want a house, I will give you 10,000 yuan. I didn’t ask for a cent. Since he said the house cost ten thousand, I will give him ten thousand now and let him build it by himself. If you want to live in my house, there is no door. Unless you live in front of the door for a month, you can't move and I won't serve you. You must bear the consequences of your own sins

The biggest sorrow of the elderly is that as they get older, they start to live according to the faces of their children. No matter what, they must have a home with their own property rights. Let me help you with some ideas. Please correct me if I am inappropriate. Go out to rent a house

Your daughter-in-law and son-in-law may have good friends, just like your own biological children, but they are still outsiders. If you live in their home for a long time, conflicts will inevitably arise due to their living habits. The key points of their words and expressions If it looks ugly, the old man won't be able to bear it. It's time to consider leaving. You can go to a housing agency to choose a suitable house. It doesn't have to be too big, as long as it's clean and has complete living facilities. If you have money, just pay the rent directly. If you don't have money, you can call your children together and tell them about the various disadvantages of living together, and ask your children to raise funds for you so that you can live quietly and comfortably. Just take it. Find a suitable wife

If you can find a suitable wife, living with him is also a good choice. There is no shame in talking about your ideas with friends, relatives, and children, and asking them to help you see if there is anything suitable. Of course, if you can meet someone good in life, as long as you are compatible with each other, then let's be together. At least you will have someone to talk to, and someone will care about you if you have a headache or fever. Spend money to buy happiness

If you go to any child's home, just slap the money on the table and say that you don't live in vain, the money is a subsidy for you, not to mention that you can help them do some things within your ability. . Why do I need so much money when I am old? When I see that my grandson has to pay tuition, I take the initiative to pay for it. In this way, the children may look better.

Choose a reliable son to live with your parents

For the son you raise, you will definitely know which son is reliable. Tell your son and daughter-in-law what you are saying from your heart, and tell them that they will rely on them to support themselves in the future. The private money and the pension after death belong to them. I don't want to live such a moving life, and will live with their parents in the future. If my son and daughter-in-law have a conscience, they will definitely agree. Pretending not to see anything

It doesn’t matter anymore when I’m old. The children are under too much pressure. It’s understandable if they give me a look occasionally. I pretend not to know and didn’t see it, and silently say in my heart: “My biological child, "My own child!" I don't dare to do anything to you, so be more open-minded and treat their cold faces with an indifferent attitude. There is no need to endure it anymore.

When you can't bear it anymore, don't endure it anymore. Let out your anger and don't hold yourself back until something goes wrong. You can call them together, present the facts and reason, and tell how difficult it is for you to bring them up. Now, no matter from a legal or emotional point of view, they should take care of you. Forget what happened in the past. If it continues to be like this in the future, Just go to their workplace to report it to the leadership, or go directly to court to sue them. I believe that after this incident, their attitude towards you will improve. In short, elderly friends should remember this sentence: You should always have a house and some savings in your hands. Times are changing, and people are also changing. It is better to rely on yourself than to rely on anyone else.

"If a young man does not work hard, an old man will be miserable." 》A true portrayal of.

This is the real world report! I regret not being the role model I was.

I don’t understand this question. What did you do when you were young? Why can't a person complete the minimum living conditions for himself? We looked up and saw that the birds on the trees had several nests, and they all found branches and built them one by one. Just imagine how much effort it takes, they all create conditions for your own life.

Question 1, what did you do when you were doing strength training? Why don't you work hard to build a house, or buy even a house, so that you won't be homeless when you grow old?

Question 2: You gave birth to and raised the child. How did you educate him from childhood to adulthood? How could you be so unfilial? The responsibility should be on you. What can you do in such a situation? Just deal with it, you have to find your own way.

Of course, it is too late to say this. You should think about it calmly and find a solution to the problem, or talk to your children about your difficulties and win over their conscience. Good luck!

It depends on whether you have money in your pocket. If so, just rent a private house and live on your own.

My grandma gave birth to six sons and she has been living with us. Anyway, I will not mess with her. The problem is that sometimes she still loses her temper.

Yesterday I took the baby to my grandma’s house. They were willing to take care of the baby, and I could easily do so, but my grandma was not happy. She didn’t like me being too close to my grandma.

She thinks the other person is not good, but I just think the other person is good. She thinks I am confused, but Mom still occupies a very important position in my heart. I just like my mother and want to be close to her. I took the baby and grandma was very angry. What should I do? I have to go out for something, and my grandma is worried about taking care of the baby. My grandma is too old, and she gets angry when others take care of her. She insists on telling her about being a rotten millet. What’s the point?

She said it was hers, and I lived mine, but she still took care to avoid conflicts. Sometimes I had to give something secretly, lest my grandma would be unhappy when she saw it.

Once I gave a fish to my grandma, and she kept a straight face all day long. Now I am wiser and ask my grandma to go away before giving the fish. For example, I asked my grandma to take a few kilograms of fish to my uncle’s house. As soon as she left, I would quickly catch some fish and give it to my mother, or I would put the things I gave her in a garbage bag and pretend to take out the garbage.

It’s hard to be a human being. It’s hard to be a human being. Sometimes you just can’t help yourself, and you can’t help but depend on other people’s faces in life.

It’s not that I can’t afford to offend him, but I don’t want to offend him. Why bother? We are all one family, and everything thrives when we are at home.

Can’t you afford to hide if you can’t afford to offend? Or be more generous and don't take it seriously. No way, everything in life can't go as planned.

Lao Chen is famous as a "capable person" in the village.

Chen was 55 years old at that time. He used his life savings to buy a two-bedroom apartment in the city for his third son. In this way, the eldest son and the second son have a home in the countryside, and the third son has a nest in the city. The mission for myself and my wife has been completed. The burden that was weighing on my heart was lifted.

What then? Lao Chen is used to seeing the elderly people who take turns caring for their elderly in rural areas. They often get into trouble because of trivial matters. Especially when Lao Chen thought about having to squeeze into a two-bedroom apartment with his younger son and his family in the future. I always feel awkward in my heart. Lao Chen and his wife discussed that they would spend most of their lives fighting for their son. While the old couple is still strong, they have to work hard for themselves for a few years.

Lao Chen is a thoughtful person. He has long planned to go to the farmer's market to wholesale vegetables. After he and his wife have connected some things. Lao Chen started a vegetable wholesale business.

Every afternoon, Lao Chen drives a farm truck and goes to the vegetable base with his wife to buy vegetables. Hong went to the farmer's market at four o'clock the next morning, one trip a day, rain or shine. Over the past few years, the old couple has saved some money. I bought myself a second-hand house in an old community near the farmer's market.

Although, the daughters-in-law often have some objections because their parents-in-law do not take care of their children. But Mr. and Mrs. Chen also often give some pocket money to their grandchildren. As time goes by, distance brings beauty, and the relationship with the children gets better and better!

What should I do if I don’t have my own home when I get old, and my children take turns living in each other’s homes, depending on how their son and daughter-in-law live their lives? When a person reaches old age, he will have his own home, a certain financial source, and one or two old friends with whom he can talk. Then his life in old age should be happy and comfortable.

However, if the elderly do not have their own nest, their life will be very passive. As the saying goes, there is no place to put a stick when begging for food. It is indeed heart-wrenching to live in the children's homes in turns and watch the faces of their sons and daughters-in-law. Without a stable home, having to go to the children's homes to eat, my self-esteem is frustrated, and I can't even get over this psychological hurdle. It seems that there is a home everywhere, but in fact there is no place to settle down.

In addition, there is a generation gap between the elderly and young people. They have different ideas, living habits, hygiene habits, and ways of dealing with others. It is inconvenient to live together. If there are conflicts in this kind of family affairs, it is impossible to judge right from wrong, and it is difficult for an upright official to resolve family affairs. The elderly have grievances, and the children may also have grievances. There is no right or wrong in this situation. So how to fundamentally solve this problem? If the elderly have the conditions, it is better to rent a house by themselves, or let the children rent a house together. Living separately from the children in this way is cheaper and can also alleviate this conflict. If you have an old house in the countryside, it would be a good choice to go back and renovate it, grow some seasonal vegetables yourself, and live an idyllic life.

I don’t know if what I said is helpful to you. I am Li Cun434. If you like it, please pay attention.

My grandpa is 89 years old and has always lived in a mud house by himself. Ten years ago, my three uncles said they would take turns raising me, but my grandpa insisted on living by himself. He said that as long as they could move, they should not trouble their children. First, they would not be able to talk to each other, and second, they would not be able to eat together.

Last month my grandpa injured his back. The doctor asked him to lie in bed for a month before he started his rotation. The eldest uncle said that the family would last for a year, and the second uncle said that my grandpa was too old and was precarious, so the family would stay together for half a year. The final result of the discussion was that the family would stay together for 10 days this month to recuperate, and one month after that. Grandpa said that he would have to live on his own after the injury healed, and he felt uncomfortable moving around.

Most of the elderly who have many children adopt the method of taking turns to support the elderly. No one wants to take care of the elderly for one more day. Those with pensions may be more popular and everyone rushes to raise them. Those without pensions are like rubber balls. With the same pushing and pushing, some elderly people have lost their dignity in their lives.

The best way to solve this problem is to go to a nursing home. Those with pensions will pay for it themselves, and those without pensions will let their children contribute. The children will have less opinions about sharing the money equally, and the elderly will not look at their faces. . Once an old man lives his life looking at his children's faces, he will be very unhappy in his later years. It is better for them to spend money to find a nursing home with good conditions to spend their old age peacefully.

Because there are such examples around me. My uncle finally jumped into the river because he didn't feel comfortable staying at his son's house.

Last summer, I went back to my hometown to visit my father, and my father told me the story of my uncle, and he burst into tears when he talked about the sad part.

My uncle has always lived in the countryside and has three sons, all living in the same village. But the uncle is always at his youngest son's house.

With the children around, it stands to reason that the quality of life of the elderly should be good in their later years. But the uncle is unfortunate. He suffered from lung disease. It was said that one of the two lung lobes had rotted away, and the rest had turned black and was severely eroded. I heard that he was also sentenced to death. He coughed all day long and the phlegm he coughed up was sticky and yellow. It's also because the uncle is older (80 years old). He sometimes spits everywhere and doesn't care whether his daughter-in-law has just mopped the floor. This caused her son and daughter-in-law to dislike and look down upon her. The uncle told his father that he also knew that spitting like this was not good, but sometimes he forgot about it, and sometimes it was too late to get toilet paper. Sometimes he would wipe it with a mop. But the phlegm is very sticky...

The uncle has lung disease, but his legs and feet are still fine. He knows that he is not popular with others, so he walks around every day without looking at their faces. But sometimes I didn’t come home even after dinner time. When you are hungry, you can go home to eat. Where can you find hot food? It would be nice to have cold rice. The uncle said that he didn’t know if it was intentional by the couple, but there was no leftovers every time...

Sometimes when the uncle was at home, they would not look good at the dinner table. Either he threw a plate or a bowl. The uncle said he knew they all despised him.

My father persuaded him to go to a nursing home. His monthly salary of more than 4,000 yuan was enough. (My uncle is an employee of a rural supply and marketing cooperative. Although the supply and marketing cooperative is gone, he can still pay his salary as usual). The uncle said he disagreed, saying that others would accuse his son of being unfilial, which would bring bad reputation to the child. My father tried to persuade me several times, but he still didn’t agree!

My uncle is too feudal in his thinking. He always thinks that raising children is to prevent old age, no matter how good they are to him, he accepts this!

But this summer, I don’t know what my uncle went through. He didn’t leave any words before his death, so he chose to end his life by jumping into the river. I think he must be desperate for the children. I felt that I was of no use at all, and that life would be worse than death.

It must be very painful when the uncle leaves, and he is not afraid of smearing the child's face. He must have left with a lot of regrets. If my uncle could have followed my father’s advice and found a good nursing home to spend his old age, why would he have gotten to where he is today!

If the children are not filial, there is no need to look at their faces, just don’t be around them, just ask them to pay. If they are still willing, they will have to go through legal procedures. Sometimes unfilial children really cannot be tolerated.

I am Nuanyangqiu, I hope my answer can help you.