How to make the mood happier? . .

First of all, we must have a positive attitude.

This mentality is to recognize the multidimensional nature of life itself, treat all kinds of events in life, and know that you can stand from different angles and have many explanations. We can choose an optimistic and positive explanation. In fact, this is often mentioned in the cognitive theory of psychology. The root of life's troubles lies in our cognition, not the event itself. A college student who is lovelorn can be considered to have lost the meaning of life, so it is better to die; Of course, it is also possible to see from it that "China's children are absolutely Qian Qian. If this doesn't work, we will change." Different understanding of the same lovelorn event will lead to different changes in attitude towards life. Therefore, the first task of happiness in life is whether you can look at life with a positive eye.

Secondly, we should handle the following three relationships:

First, pay attention to yourself, pay attention to your life, and handle the relationship with yourself.

Happiness begins with self-cultivation, which is also the traditional Taoist view in China. A person who values his life and is good at self-cultivation is more likely to be happy. Taoism emphasizes cherishing oneself. Laozi said in the Tao Te Ching, "If you are the best in the world, you can make a fortune in the world; Love is the world. If it can support the world, it means that "only those who value their bodies more than the world can shoulder the heavy responsibility of governing the world;" "Only those who love themselves more than those who love the world can entrust them to the world." A person who doesn't even love himself can love more people? On the other hand, he will not be happy.

Second, the benevolent is invincible, and we should handle the relationship with others.

This is the traditional Confucian view. In many Confucian classics, the root of happiness often depends on good interpersonal communication. For example, the Analects of Confucius begins by asking, "Isn't it a pleasure to have friends coming from afar?" It will be fun to have friends. Confucius also often emphasized that "the benevolent loves others", that is, being kind and friendly to people. The ideal of Confucianism is to create a harmonious interpersonal atmosphere through "benevolence", and human happiness is precisely contained in this interpersonal process.

The third is to be content with happiness and handle the relationship with success or failure.

The Buddhist classic Agama says, "If you want to surpass the Tao, the Tao should be satisfied". Buddhism's understanding of happiness is based on human desire. Think that desire is the root of people's distress. How to stay away from distress is simple. Lowering one's desire is the so-called "no desire is just". Without desire, people are naturally far away from distress and close to happiness. When I was writing this, it suddenly occurred to me that, in fact, the happiness mentioned by Marxism-Leninism theory is quite similar to that of Buddhism, but Marxism-Leninism does not advocate the elimination of desires like Buddhism, but directly eliminates the self, that is, people forget the ego, remember the ego, and put the "ego" into the collective and into the broader cause of human liberation. At that time, man was also happy, because he had lost himself.

Life is too short to find happiness. Pessimistically speaking, happiness is just an ornament for most people. Of course, people may not be able to stand it if they are always happy. Psychological research shows that people's happiness center is located in the hypothalamus. Someone once connected an electrode to the happy center of a mouse and put the other end outside. Rats can stimulate the happiness center through external contact. This means that mice can decide whether to enjoy happiness or not. Keeping yourself happy may seem enviable, but the result is also interesting. As a result of the experiment, the mice constantly stimulated their happiness center, which kept them in an excited state and couldn't stop, and finally led to insanity and death. Therefore, happiness needs to be pursued, but it is also a moderate problem.