There is really no need to live so tiringly

Ah Jiu didn’t write anything the night before yesterday. In fact, it’s not that I didn’t write anything. I originally thought of a topic, but I was still not satisfied with it after writing it. I am irritated, and it becomes even more irritating when I think of other things in my life during this period.

Later, when I was lying in bed, I thought about it and realized that it was really unnecessary.

When you are alive, you should try your best to live well, and you must not let yourself live too tiredly.

It's like when people reach a certain stage, they will most likely give up the behavior pattern of "forcing new words to express sorrow".

Thinking about it carefully, this is indeed the case. Recently, when I listen to cross talk and watch variety shows and encounter preachy or sensational parts, I drag the play bar and watch the funny parts directly. The same is true when listening to music. When I encounter sad emotional songs , lamenting the injustice of fate, etc., I will also skip and put down a song. Now the playlist is almost full of relaxed and cheerful songs.

It is said that the playlist reflects a person's mood and state. I think this is absolutely true. When I was younger, I always liked to be myself when listening to songs. I always felt that the bitter characters in the songs were myself.

I remember a high school classmate who would cry every time he heard the song "The Secret of Winter" by Zhou Chuanxiong. He never failed, especially when he heard the sentence: "If I say, I I really love you, who will clean up those ruined friendships?" She burst into tears because she and her best friend fell in love with the same boy, and later she gave up on her own initiative.

There was a time when Wang Mian's "Reluctantly" and Liu Ruoying's "Chengquan" were also on my single rotation, and I once felt that what they sang in their songs was my own story.

But now when I look back and listen to those songs, I suddenly find that my focus is no longer on the familiar old things described in the lyrics, but on the relief and relief in the songs.

For example, the last sentence in "Reluctantly": "I will always wait until the right person says good night",

Another example, the last sentence in "Perfect": "I will fulfill my wish." summer".

Perhaps, this is what they want to express:

I hope we can let go and look forward, instead of being stuck in regrets and misses.

It’s really unnecessary.

There is no need to become resentful because of some emotional difficulties. Not everyone is destined to have a perfect relationship; there is no need to get angry because of some things, because you are so angry that you are about to vomit blood. You may not care at all; there is no need to change yourself easily because of other people's suggestions, because the other person may just say it casually.

I feel that sometimes life is very tiring. It is not necessarily that life is too harsh on us, but that many times we are too easily affected by the opinions of the outside world.

Two days ago, a friend came to chat with me, and the first thing he said was, "I'm going to be pissed off." I quickly asked what was wrong.

It turned out that she went home with her boyfriend. Maybe her boyfriend’s sister had just finished mopping the floor. When they went in, there were footprints, and her boyfriend’s sister nagged: “I just mopped the floor!”

My friend told me angrily that there were only her parents, her brother and me in the house. Who was she talking about? Wasn't she talking about me, an "outsider"? She was so angry. Kill me.

I said, this is really unnecessary, maybe people just said it casually.

Another time, she went shopping with her best friend and saw a piece of clothing that she liked very much. However, her best friend said that the style of the dress was not suitable for you and the price was expensive. It was not cost-effective. Don’t buy it. Go. Look elsewhere. But she just liked it and refused to leave. Seeing that she didn't want to leave, her best friend said with a hint of displeasure: "Do you like this dress so much that you have to sell it?".

In the end, she still didn’t buy it. After telling me about it later, I said, if you like it, buy it and go tomorrow.

My friend said, forget it, I’m too lazy to go.

Perhaps, this is the choice we make many times. We will habitually please, inadvertently compromise, and pretend to be approachable to gain recognition.

Just like Xi Murong said in "Soliloquy": When I looked back, I suddenly realized that all my efforts in life were just to make people around me satisfied, to win others With praise and smiles, I tremblingly put myself into all the patterns and all the shackles.

"Having walked halfway, I suddenly realized that all I had left was a vague face and a road of no return."

When people are tired, they can go home. I'm tired, where can I go?

Slowly recall the road traveled, sour, sweet, bitter and spicy. There are all kinds of joys and sorrows, and each of us wants a happy life, but life is always a mixture of happiness, pain, joy, and disappointment.

There will always be times when things go wrong, and there will always be a day that passes. It is a pass to pass this hurdle with a cool posture, and it is a pass to pass this hurdle with an ugly posture.

So why not make it easier on yourself.

Therefore, people should establish a comfort zone for themselves. They should no longer force themselves to express their sorrows, no longer rely on self-compromise to be loved, no longer bother themselves and be affected by irrelevant things. Try not to let If you are too tired, maybe you can truly understand what you want.

When you are alive, you should work hard to live well, and don’t let yourself live too tiredly.

I am my old friend Ah Jiu, good night!