I will have a baby soon. What if I'm scared?

I am the mother of a child. I just gave birth to a baby for a month. Tell me how I feel.

I was really scared when I was about to give birth. One month before the due date, I was worried about premature delivery because I was still at work. As a result, I didn't move until two days before the due date. I went to the hospital for a check-up. The doctor said to go home and walk more. After a week, I went back to the hospital to induce labor, or directly delivered by caesarean section. When I got home, I took my husband out for a walk. I went to supermarkets and vegetable markets and ran a long way to buy cakes, because I felt that simply letting me go with a big belly really didn't motivate me. If I insist on walking, I can walk more than 10 thousand steps every day. If you walk too much, you will feel sore and bloated at night. After walking for four days, two days after the due date, my stomach still didn't respond, but I felt a small stream of liquid coming out, colorless and tasteless, but not much. I told my mother and my husband that the amniotic fluid might be broken. My mother said it was as uncontrollable as running water in a water pipe, and my family was not at all. After listening to it, my mother didn't care. I also ate dinner, took a bath and played with two handfuls of pesticides. The dessert was still hanging in the afternoon. I told my husband that we should go to the hospital to see what was going on, and we all knew it.

When I arrived at the hospital, I had a B-ultrasound, and the amniotic fluid volume was normal, except that the fetus was a little bigger than 3800g, and after the legendary internal examination, my fingers did not open, so the degree of acidity was not mentioned. Later, I went to do fetal monitoring. It shrinks a little, but it's irregular. After seeing the liquid on my underwear, the doctor thought that it was a high water break, that is, the fetal membrane broke a small hole and slowly flowed out. It is easy for bacteria to enter the infection when the hole is broken, which is also very dangerous. He suggested that I could be hospitalized. The medicine for inducing labor was released at 4 am the next day, and the baby was born the next day. The fetus is a little big. I tried to give birth naturally, so I couldn't have a caesarean section right away. I was admitted to the hospital with anxiety.

I was too scared to sleep at the thought of having a baby the next day. My husband always comforted me and told me to go to bed early, so I didn't have the strength to have a baby the next day. I fell asleep at 0/2 o'clock in the evening/kloc-and my stomach hurts a little. I don't know if it will hurt as much as before, but it won't hurt for a while, so I gritted my teeth and endured it. As a result, I felt more and more painful for an hour, and the pain became more and more frequent. I have no choice. I woke up my husband and asked him to ask the nurse what to do. As a result, the nurse told me to go to the delivery room quickly. My husband helped me up to the delivery room. I found myself red when I went to the toilet. On the way to the delivery room, my stomach hurts so much that I can't walk. I hung my whole body on my husband and cried and told him that it hurts when I walk. My heart longs for that moment.

When I entered the delivery room, the doctor opened two fingers. I said the pain was unbearable, and the doctor said I could only use three fingers. I was given a butt injection first, which was similar to analgesia. Let me get some sleep. I should have a baby tonight. I also cried and told the doctor how to have a baby. I'm not ready.

I slept for about an hour after the injection. As a result, my stomach hurts more and more. At first, there was nothing I could do. I couldn't help crying from behind, and I couldn't lie down. The doctor told me to get up by myself and walk around the delivery room. Contractions are more frequent, and the stomach hurts more and more, and the pain lasts longer and longer. Every time it hurts, it's like a roller running over my stomach, and I feel like I have to shit. I asked the doctor if I could pull when I wanted to, and the doctor said no. Pulling the cervix will make me red and swollen, which will make me more uncomfortable and painful. Just endure every pain, because the fetus is bigger, and the pain of uterine contraction will be stronger than others. I went to the toilet at four o'clock in the morning and came back to check that the cervix was open to the sixth finger. I quickly said that it could relieve the pain. As a result, the doctor told me that your cervix was opened so fast that it is not worthwhile to play now. I said that money is a trivial matter and the pain is unbearable. Later, he told me that painless is also an anesthetic, and there are still risks or something. My uterus is opening fast, so I don't need to fight. Every time I feel pain, I want to play painless. The doctor told me that there would be some risks, but I didn't try hard.

Enter the delivery room at five o'clock and lie on the delivery bed, because the fetal membrane has not been completely broken and the uterine opening has not been finished. Internal examination again and again, shivering with pain, shouting that I don't want to have a baby, and pulling it to laparotomy. The back fetal membrane was torn by the doctor's finger, because the fetal membrane was a little thick, and it was dug many times, and the whole person was going crazy. The fetal membrane is torn, the fingers are open enough, and the doctor says he doesn't want to shit? I didn't pull before, but now I pull hard when I have a stomachache. Like pulling a stool, push your feet down and lift your hands down. The first time or the second time, the force was wrong, and then I slowly found the feeling. I don't know how many times I used force. Anyway, I pull hard during contractions, and it's super uncomfortable when I pull. I said several times that I didn't want to have a baby. I want to have a caesarean section, and the midwife said you couldn't give birth yourself? Now you can see the head, and you have to have a caesarean section. It is too late! I also took a photo of her with my mobile phone to show me. Sure enough, I can see a little hair, so I can only continue to live. Every time I have a contraction, I fall asleep in a daze. Because I had dinner at five o'clock the day before, I didn't eat anything or drink water. Because I was afraid of anesthesia, the anesthesiologist didn't give me an injection after eating. I was really tired. After some efforts, I felt that the fetus came out and the midwife stuffed it back at once. Immediately, a group of people put on sterile clothes and covered them with sterile cloth. At that time, I was still a little angry and kept asking me weakly why I had to push forward. Later, I learned that it was to adapt to the vagina, otherwise it would be severely torn. My girl came out the next time she was in pain, but she didn't have the strength. The doctor shouted loudly that I pinched her eyebrows and was suffocating. I said I tried, and finally I pulled it up from below. A doctor pressed his stomach and came out. After coming out, he breathed a sigh of relief. At 6: 40 pm, he looked up at the clock on the wall. Then I heard her crying loudly. The doctor said that I didn't exert myself at last, and my head was caught in the bag and turned into a triangle. Finally, the placenta slipped out, and the doctor dug the bleeding block with his hand, which made my stomach sour. I fell asleep when I was anesthetized with a needle in the back. Of course, the hemorrhoids in the later period and the pain of sewing needles are not much better than caesarean section. It hurts standing and sitting.

It's normal to be afraid before giving birth, and I'm afraid, but I can't be afraid when I'm injured. I just want to have a baby as soon as possible. So relax more, eat and drink, and let nature take its course!

This is a photo of my daughter.

Seeing this problem, I suddenly thought that when Huai Dabao was approaching the due date, I was nervous and afraid of giving birth to a baby, while looking forward to seeing the baby's happy process. This kind of worry and fear is increasing day by day, and the closer it is to the expected date of delivery, the more afraid it is.

To tell the truth, in the face of the process of giving birth to a baby, it is false not to be afraid, and I think people who say they are not afraid must also be people who have given birth to a baby, and the production process is relatively smooth.

As a mother of two children and an experienced person, I give you three suggestions:

First, learn to divert attention psychologically.

Now pay attention to "scientific pregnancy preparation and scientific parenting", and believe that pregnant mothers must have been exposed to a lot of maternity knowledge during pregnancy.

When approaching the due date, don't stare at "tearing, lateral incision, amniotic fluid embolism" and other related contents, because the more you think about it, the more you are afraid. Instead of daydreaming like this, let nature take its course and learn to divert attention.

Think more about the beautiful appearance of the baby after giving birth, think more about the cute appearance of the baby, and think more about the happy appearance of a family of three or four.

Second, make positive psychological suggestion.

Giving birth to children is a right given to every woman by God and a glorious mission. You must firmly believe that others can do it, and you can do it!

Does it hurt to give birth? Of course, but many people can stand it, and so can you! I believe you can, and so can you.

Third, if you are really afraid of pain, you can choose painless delivery.

Compared with our mother's generation, we are happy, because now hospitals can have cesarean section and painless delivery at the same time.

We should trust the authority of the hospital, the ability of doctors and the company of husbands. If you are really afraid of pain, you can choose painless delivery. I didn't feel any pain when I gave birth to Dabao, so I didn't feel much pain when I gave birth to the baby, and the labor process was very fast and everything went smoothly.

Being a new mother is bound to be nervous. Shouldn't you be happy to see that the baby in 10 is about to be born? So, let go of the burden of thought and accept the new life naturally.

Welcome to Gone with the Wind.

The due date is coming, so it is normal to be afraid. After all, after watching so much TV and news, a woman has taken a step to hell after giving birth to a child. It's comforting to say that she's not afraid. At that time, I was close to the expected date of delivery, and I was particularly nervous and scared. I even lost sleep for several nights in a row, and my mind was full of pictures of my baby.

So, how to relieve your nervousness? 1. Learn from people who have experienced it.

At that time, I browsed a lot of posts sharing childbirth experience on the Internet, reviewed the process of childbirth countless times in my mind, and learned a lot about the labor process. "Know yourself and know yourself, and fight a hundred battles", people will have fear from the fear of the unknown, so knowing more about production knowledge and the experience of people who have experienced it can increase their confidence.

Don't be misled by TV pictures.

A friend who naturally gave birth to two children enlightened me. She said that the pictures of giving birth and death on TV were exaggerated. In reality, the pain will definitely hurt when giving birth, but if you cooperate with the doctor's command and master Lamaze breathing, you can obviously alleviate the pain of uterine contraction.

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Think more about the baby in your belly. If the mother feels scared or nervous, it will also affect the baby. Too frequent fetal movement will cause uterine contraction, leading to premature delivery and other bad things. The closer to the expected date of delivery, the more relaxed the expectant mother should be. They can go out for a walk with Bao Dad, or they can let Bao Dad stay at home during the due date. With the company of family, expectant mothers will be full of confidence in childbirth. Come on!

Giving birth is not terrible. If you have a natural birth, you have to use a knife to cut it horizontally.

Hello, I am a pregnant mother with a second child, and I am going to give birth soon. Compared with the time when Dabao was born, the baby was still relatively calm. After all, I have already had an experience. My first child was born naturally, without a knife (no lateral incision), and it naturally tore during delivery.

Is it terrible to have children? Before I gave birth to Dabao, I was as nervous as you, especially when my mother told me that I wanted to jump off a building in pain during childbirth.

But when I really gave birth, I didn't have time to be nervous and afraid, because the labor pains were really painful. I went to the hospital after seeing red the day before delivery. It was not until the routine examination (fetal monitoring and B-ultrasound) was completed in the hospital that I began to feel the pain caused by uterine contraction.

Slight pain starts at 3 am, amniotic fluid breaks at 5 am, and then regular contractions occur at 10 am. During the period, I had no other thoughts except pain, and even my family called me in the labor room, and I didn't have the energy to answer it.

At 1 1 o'clock in the morning, the palace mouth was finally fully opened, and you can go to the delivery bed. At this time, the really terrible thing came, and that was the official delivery. It took me half an hour to give birth, from going to bed to the birth of the baby. Now I think it's only half an hour, but I think it's as long as 30 hours.

When the baby was born, I immediately felt comfortable all over. After peeling the placenta and tearing the stitches, I didn't feel very painful. I turned to look at the newborn baby next to me, a little at a loss. The doctor asked me if I wanted to see the baby. I actually said "anything".

Finally, is it terrible to have children? I felt terrible and nervous before I was born, but I won't feel terrible after I was born. Pregnant mothers are advised to relax. After all, so many pregnant mothers have given birth safely, and of course you can do it. Believe in yourself.

Don't be afraid, when it comes to life, it is really like this. I just gave birth to a baby seven days ago, and I took maternity leave when I was 38 weeks old, ready to give birth at home. I say every day, "Baby, mom is ready. When will you come out?" As a result, it turned red after two days of rest, and the amount was still quite large. Go to the hospital immediately, and arrive at the hospital around 9: 00 in the morning. 10 hangs oxytocin, and the pain lasts until midnight 12. I went into the delivery room and it took me four and a half hours to open the remaining six fingers. To tell you the truth, I think I can hold back the pain of contractions for such a long time, and I did hold back the hem, but it was really painful when I was born, so painful that the doctor asked me to have contractions hard. I'd rather endure contractions than work hard. It hurts too much down there. But I finally worked hard with the doctor. About half an hour later, my boy was born Five minutes later, with the help of the midwife, the placenta came down. No side incision, slight tear, anesthesia before suture, so suture is basically insensitive. Basically, except for the inconvenience of life a week ago, the wound basically healed and I couldn't feel it. The biggest trouble is to use force when giving birth, and the anus protrudes higher than the place where the needle is sewn, but it is good to defecate twice. So, don't be afraid. I lived in tension every day before I was born. I really want to be born. I feel that I can finally unload the goods. This robbery will pass.

It is human nature that every woman is nervous, guessing, worried, anxious and fearful before giving birth to a child. Please get to the point first. Trust me, it's okay. Whether it is a natural delivery or a caesarean section, modern medicine is very developed. As long as you cooperate with the doctor, there will be no major problems.

1. First of all, Ma Bao depends on whether it is suitable for caesarean section. Ma Bao first depends on her own condition and the condition of the fetus. If she is young, the fetus is not big, and she is not suitable for natural delivery, such as breech position, and her pelvis is wide and she is not afraid of pain, then prepare for natural delivery.

You can look at the self-expression of a natural mother. At that time, I remember reading a lot of sharing articles about mothers who gave birth naturally.

Natural childbirth is usually accompanied by tearing or lateral incision. Some Bao Ma said that the pain of uterine contraction was numb, and the pain of lateral incision was no longer felt.

If there are other abnormal conditions that are not suitable for natural delivery, then you should prepare for caesarean section.

Caesarean section, I feel ok, there is not much discomfort, some treasure mothers feel uncomfortable pressing their stomachs, and some treasure mothers will feel pain the next day after giving birth, but they are all tolerable. Relax, as long as you look at this lovely baby around you as soon as you are born, all your troubles will disappear, leaving only the joy of the new mother.

2. Make more preparations for yourself, such as how to exert your strength during childbirth, how to drink some red bull and eat some chocolate when your physical strength is not enough, and don't exert your strength at the beginning of contractions to avoid exhaustion; For example, let's see how to give birth in water like Xie Yilin, such as how to do painless delivery, and get ready, whether it works or not.

Unexpectedly, for thousands of years, everyone has survived like this. After the experience, there is nothing. At this time, you can only tell yourself to persist, persist, have faith, and use willpower to fight fear.

Come to a cute baby picture, think about the baby and you will not be afraid:)

As a doctor, I want to give you some advice, hoping it will help you.

I can understand how you feel, because I was scared at first. Although I am a medical worker and have been in the delivery room, I have met many mothers who have given birth to babies and comforted myself. Take it easy. If there is anything, others can bear it. If there's anything I can't do, it's no use. I still feel scared and nervous, which may be the reason for my poor psychological quality.

Because I know more, I see more, such as uterine contraction pain, laceration, laparotomy pain, lateral incision pain, and the fear of life-threatening amniotic fluid embolism. Everyone feels scared, but when you think about it, it's not that scared.

Contraction pain, hearing others say how painful it is to give birth naturally, makes people doubt life, but it varies from person to person. And now painless delivery is very common abroad. Many hospitals in China have painless delivery, and some have accounted for 30% to 40% of natural delivery. This is a safe and mature technology.

Laceration, lateral cutting pain. In fact, not every parturient can come out after the baby's lateral incision, which is related to many factors, such as the size of the baby's head, the experience and proficiency of the midwife, the physical condition of the parturient and so on. So you can communicate with the midwife before delivery.

Caesarean section hurts. Because of anesthesia, the laparotomy process is painless, and you can see the baby in about 1.2 hours. After giving birth, it will hurt for a few days, but it can be tolerated.

Afraid of amniotic fluid embolism. Amniotic fluid embolism is the most dangerous complication in obstetrics. It is unpredictable before delivery, which really makes many people talk about it. But now the technology is developed, and the success rate of delivery reaches 95%. And the probability of amniotic fluid embolism is still very low. Tens of thousands of pregnant women encounter12 every year, so there is no need to put too much pressure on themselves.

To tell the truth, the fear of psychological reasons can not be alleviated in a few words in theory, but also needs the companionship and comfort of family members and the psychological adjustment of parturient.

Today's topic: Do you feel scared when you are near production?

As a mother of an only child, I tell you that giving birth is not that terrible. You don't have to think too much. You always put more pressure on yourself. As long as you have a checkup on time and are healthy, you don't have to worry about having children at all. You just need to believe that no matter whether it is a natural delivery or a caesarean section, the child can be born smoothly.

If the expectant mother is afraid of having children, it will not only affect the diet and sleep before labor, but also affect the whole body's stress ability, so that the body can not quickly enter the best state of labor, and then hinder childbirth because of excessive mental stress.

Once again, under modern medical conditions, as long as there is timely delivery examination and doctors' arrangements and suggestions are followed, the safety of delivery is close to 100%.

As a family member, prospective fathers should spend more time with their wives when they see that they are afraid of having children. It's best to take care of her diet and daily life personally, and then go out for a walk with her wife. Don't let the wife and family always discuss the process of natural childbirth together. It is best not to talk about the sex of the child, so as not to put pressure on the expectant mother.