My parents-in-law always give us advice on our lives. How should we deal with it?

How should we deal with our parents-in-law who always give us advice on our lives?

After we got married, my mother-in-law often asked us to go back for dinner. Sometimes I was late from get off work. When I arrived at my mother’s family at eight o’clock, I said that I couldn’t eat well and I didn’t want to go. I didn’t expect the in-laws. Two days later, two A family that takes charge of us. Give us a meal time. I told my husband not to bring so much stuff often and we couldn't eat it, my husband didn't say anything and I thought it was depriving my mother-in-law of her right to take care of me. I resigned last month. I didn’t expect my mother to be more diligent. My husband didn’t come home during the day. I came to talk together. I really had no topic to chat with them. My father, I also feel very uncomfortable here. convenient.

I discussed my husband. I wish my husband would have them over when he was home. I'm not saying reject his parents, but I feel like we have formed our own family and don't come over every day. My husband said he didn't tell. For that matter, I sometimes say I say I've arrived. Now that I'm newly married and it's already been like this, I don't really know how to end it after those days. Marriage is taken from the local family system to form a new family. This new family will become the core system. From that point on, you will be the best in your own little house, so there will be a new order of priorities.

Love for children is love for local families. When your husband thinks of his parents as affectionate, he means that he is not completely separated from his native family, or that he does not realize that your little home is the closest thing to him that you need to be with him. Knowing this fact, parents should understand that they should not be overly involved in the marriage of their children as this will lead to conflict between the two systems. What you have to do is to let your husband understand that your little home is the first place, and your parents are the third place. This sequence does not mean feelings, but allows each system to run normally without interference and form a sequence. Yes, once the sequence is confused, it will form, and conflicts between each system will occur.

His original intention was good and he didn't want his parents to be sad, but this method would hurt everyone and let him learn the correct way from the habits of his native family. The teacher is very good. I am 27 years old, my family situation is average, my job is still stable, and my appearance is better. My boyfriend is 31 years old, and I opened a company with an annual income of close to millions, nearly ten times, but the shape conditions are very common. He has always been very generous to me, but I have a bit of a mindset that although the financial situation is not bad, I always feel a little unwelcome and even a little disappointing.